I'd like to understand this mind... personality type and how to develop it. It isn't about "blonde hair"... they just get picked on.
Is this you or been around this person: Subject of "blonde" jokes"... as in kinda clueless Can't shut your mind down Hard to meditate or focus Overly talkative and expressive... can't stop talking or filter your thoughts
There's something different about certain minds and those are the perceived negatives of that mind. These are assumably female but not always.
... What are your strengths? How do you develop your mind so you can focus? Can you calm your mind and focus? Are you creative? Nurturer? Is the source of the "busy" mind... underlying hurts?Guys... do you love this personality and find it cute, or does it drive you nuts?
That's me!
I'm a little like that
I'm opposite of that
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Emotional Females: who have "blonde moments", strong emotional reactions... how do you develop and focus your mind?
That's me basically even though I'm a guy! :-D I'm an extreme chatterbox and not always very filtered (well, part of the reason I'm such a chatterbox is that I just speak my thoughts as they come to me).
I can achieve zen-like focus though when I'm working or playing a sport or in a formal conversation. I might informally chat like a blonde but I have a fairly mentally-intensive job as a software engineer working in R&D and I was a 4.0 GPA student in school along with a Mensa member even though hardly anyone could probably guess if they were to just informally chat with me.
I can usually calm my mind quite quickly although I can't meditate for the life of me. I get so bored and start daydreaming. The way I achieve calmness and positivity is to challenge and reframe negative thoughts almost as quickly as they occur. I can come up with ten+ different viable interpretations of an event and cherry-pick the ones that seem to cause me the least amount of stress and seems more realistic and productive.
I tend to look at it not so much in terms of focus but connectivity. I tend to see every subject as somewhat interrelated to the other. I think that's more common in women than men. Men can usually compartmentalize their thoughts more cleanly although I always thought it's a bit at risk of oversimplification.
If I use an example, a stereotypical male student in a literature course might give a book report that concisely summarizes the book. Yet someone like me might state, "Well, it's clear that you read and understood the information in the book. But how does that make you feel? How does it relate to your life and personal experiences?" That's the type of subject I'm most interested in sharing with people (both ways). A summary of the book doesn't interest me so much since I can just read the book for myself.
Balance and harmony seem to be what he was preaching there. I like the idea of "natural and unnatural". Paradoxical statements of this sort always made perfect sense to me but I tend to wonder if it's deeply philosophical or if it's just because I'm poor at English! :-D
... like being both hard and soft at the same time. Maybe I am wanting to express a certain balance, or one that can adapt to the circumstances of the situation.
be very interesting to see a map of your brain and how it's working. very strong emotional component. I'd think you would have some serious spiritual gifts in there, have you ever explored that? know what I'm referring to... gifts of healing, prophecy (seeing future), etc.. Are you good at reading others emotions off their face and expression?
I've been accused of being psychic so many times by friends but I'm not. I think it's just because, perhaps as a result of having to move and learn new languages like English growing up in the hardest sort of way (like being thrown into a river and either sinking or swimming), I came to rely on body language so much to help piece together what people felt and said in between gaps of understanding what they said.
So I'm really into body language and facial expressions. I like to sketch people a lot as well like so:
... just hasty stuff with pen and ink, marker, or charcoal and white chalk. They were moving and talking a lot so I tried to focus on capturing the essence of how I perceived them as quickly and as simplistically as possible.
But that might also relate to why so many people think I'm psychic. I think I get a lot more information from the unspoken word -- the most subtle changes in body language, facial expressions, tone of voice -- than usual.
As one of many examples, I was at a party one time and we had a female friend in our group who was smiling and laughing at the party. But something about her smile and laughter seemed so off to me and different from usual. I couldn't really articulate what it was. I just sort of felt it.
So I pulled some of my friends to the balcony and asked what was wrong with her, and they said like, "What on earth are you talking about?" I told them she seems so incredibly sad. Then they looked at her smiling and laughing and said I drank way too much; she looks so happy. But I just looked at her and all I got was deep sadness even though her face was smiling and laughing so hard. In fairness, I did have a bunch of drinks.
But after the party ended, we found her in a corner crying so hard. It turned out her boyfriend broke up with her right before the party. She was just smiling and laughing to try to keep the good mood.
cool. the bullying is trauma... impacts brain development... the desire you had to connect with others... did you have a strong desire to connect before that?
I'd say look inside to heal the inner wounds and the learning disability can be healed. I had similar crap and it impacted my ability to learn and fell behind. I think people who are sensitive and have empathy can get hit a lot harder in this world, but free up those gifts and you'll find your powers.
I saw some chance that will teach guys the hardest lessons to never cheat on faithful women. They never forgive and will never forget. I can have mood swing and has very overthink. Also I don't like being single.
Is get in is way.. That I still single and hasn't found another boyfriend. When people talk about boyfriends or girlfriend. Is very much annoyed me. My mum is always trying say need to be more happy.
Your a normal developing woman. Read the book by the Dalai Lama to understand happiness. Will give ideas on how to do that. You are probably frustrated you don’t have what they have. Be careful of social media posts from friends and such… it spurs jealousy and is poison to your soul. You
It wasn't social media kept happening each time that I go out anyway. Some women will talk about boyfriend and guys that that I met in real life already has girlfriend from Youth club. I dislike being single. One my sister already has a boyfriend. My mum and dad are married.
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