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Normally people do say something. That said, most times that sort of compliment is the lead-up to asking their number and nothing they have not heard before.
I can fully understand acting as if the comment never happened to avoid that. Having been asked out by customers myself, while flattering it really is also a hassle.
If you're looking for a date just treat that as a polite no. Wish her a good day, a little thanks for the food or something and move on.
If you are only trying to make a nice comment, convey that early. Showing your intentions makes it easier to react genuinely to things.
Well you were likely the 1000th guy to pretty much hit on her.
Did you care what type of day she was having or anything about her?
it’s similar for barmaids they get this pretty much all the time.
she's not paid to engage you in conversation, she’s after the next person in-line.
Also from sound of it there was zero communication before that, she basically had some random yet again come out with some bollox.
actually well done on her not coming out with ‘yeah whatever, next customer please’.
The fact that you’re expecting an endorphin rush in return from her gratitude kinda showcases your motives behind the “compliment.” A pretty girl appreciates something you did? If that’s all you’re looking for, maybe better off not being so “kind” she doesn’t owe you anything. She doesn’t know you, you’re not friends. You don’t know anything that’s going on in her head, her past, her life. It’s nice to give compliments, but only if you mean them and aren’t just trying to satisfy your own desire for attention. 🙄
If she was young and you are much older then it probably felt creepy to her that you were looking at her and told her she is beautiful. She probably felt uncomfortable with you checking her out and played it down so you wouldn't bother her. Young women are very cautious about who is checking them out and why. You are the one who should have just said thank you and drove off.
@ChiTown33 disagrees with us.
@red324 you might be 32 but how old was the girl? Even when I was 19 and a man your age seemed interested in me, which a compliment would be, he would creep me out. That would make him 13 years older than me. And that's why its creepy to a young lady. That is much older for a teenage girl. I am saying this out of a real life experience I once had that gave me that feeling. I don't mean to say 32 is old, but it is to a teenage girl. I am old LOL
Lol actually from a teenagers standpoint 32 is old. I know I'm in my 30s and I have 2 teenagers and they remind me all the time they see me as old. Even today my 15 yr old son was like..."so you're more than TWICE my age?" Ugh
@Daniela1982 Us? Why are you making this a "he said, she said" thing. I only asked you how you know he had ulterior motives when he gave her a compliment? You don't KNOW that anymore than I know she was stuck up (and I know better than to assume that). Lol
Ever heard the saying "assumption is the mother of all f*** ups"?
@BossLady16 Well tell your kids that someday you and them will be the same age.
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There could be a few reasons:
1. You may say she's pretty but she doesn't think so
2. She may think your compliment is flirting, and she's in a relationship
3. She may think your compliment is the first step toward having sex with her, and she's not interested
You need to establish an emotional connection, get her thinking about you in that way then try to progress into touch, you can't just drop a bomb like that on most girls & expect it to pan out & if it did I'd be wary. Need to be more adept at reading body language & eye contact. That tells you everything you need to know. Reading retail can be difficult because those people are paid to be friendly.
that’s a weird time to give a girl a compliment she prob thought u were a creeper. only give girls compliments on their looks that ur already intimate with. If you lead with it, girls see it as you putting them on a pedestal and think they have the upper hand.
If you give a compliment just to receive a response then your compliment is empty.
Who said he did it just to recieve a response. When people say "hi" most people say "hi" back. It's called being polite.
Don't get me wrong I think women saying "thank you" to a compliment is 50/50. And I wouldn't be offended by a non response. But I do see how a non response CAN be considered rude.
@ChiTown33 Sometimes women may see it differently, like the guy is hitting on her. I mean if we look at your way you might think a cat call is in the same league. Surely that doesn't deserve a response, does it? First you say you wouldn't be offended, and then you say it would be rude. which is it?
You're right, you don't get it! What I said was very CLEAR.
I guess it all depends on whether you want to take him at his word when he said it was an innocent compliment.
This is generally why I DON'T compliment women. You women generally choose to view it with suspicion lol. Sorry I can't do anything but laugh at the paranoia.
Think of it like this @daniela1982 do i think when I go into a convenience store and buy something and the clerk tells me to have "have a nice day"? That he really means it? No, of course not. More often than not he's just saying what he's told to say. But I still reply, " you too, have a good one, or thank you". It's just common courtesy. Now maybe that's died out in your world, but not mine.
I guess what I'm saying is how you respond says more about your character than his.
And I don't see how cat calling is remotely relateable.
@ChiTown33 But you aren't calling the store clerk beautiful either. You may as well be telling a woman on the beach, "Hey. I think your big boobs are beautiful!" Anything about a person's body need not be complimented, especially in a chance meeting, unless you are on Instagram where girls are hungry to hear it.
@Daniela1982 I totally disagree. I've told women that are completely covered up (like Muslim attire) that they are beautiful. I tell my 4 yr old son he's beautiful. I'm sorry you've somehow learned to associate a compliment of beauty with sex and/or physical appearance. There's more to beauty than the typical magazine girl. When I see a kind soul I also let them know they're beautiful.
Well now you're splitting hairs. We're into SPECIFIC WORDS. I mean "hot" and "beautiful" are not the same. But some guys maybe even some women would not draw a distinction.
I think you're muddying this up. Look @daniela1982 I don't really care how you respond or not respond to a guy who "compliments" you. As I said, you illustrate why I really won't compliment women anymore. Because you women erroneously view a harmless compliment with suspicion. I realize some guys are not sincere. And I don't care if you give them the stink eye and never say a word. That is your prerogative. But as I said, that tells me a lot about you.
I just think it's funny that you automatically ASSUME he had questionable motives. Which again, tells me a lot about you. Not sure why we're even discussing this. As I said I conceded from the start that women saying thank you to a compliment is 50/50. IF I compliment a woman by calling her beautiful which I probably would never do. I wouldn't EXPECT a response. But as I said the lack of a response would be telling about who she is.
Lol 🤣 that would be creepy.
Maybe they don't hear you, or mishear you, and they also don't owe you a response.
Sometimes you scream into the void, and that's just life.
Cause your a creep ; The reality is that she is nice to you because it s her job. leave her alone . If she seams interested she will let you know. tip her well is a starter.
1) never flirt with someone on the job
2) the compliment was a bit much for a drive through. And she prob gets it a lot.
3) perhaps think first about your own delivery instead of automatically blaming the chick
THANK YOU!!!
@Subarugirl but also, chicks... give it up more often!
:)
We will when we get enjoyment out of it
@Subarugirl ouch!
The orgasm gap is still a big issue
@Subarugirl really? huh. I've only been with 4 chicks. And I think I bothered them more asking if they came whether than if they actually came.
It's because you complimented her while she was being paid to be nice to you. True, a simple thank you would have been nice, but no offense, she was just doing her job and didn't owe you anything.
I would also be confused if someone tried to hit on me while I am clearly trying to work. The convenience of a drive through is quickly getting customers the takeout they ordered. Did you confuse the drive through for a strip bar?
Depends. If she hears it with every guy she meets. I bet it can get annoying. Or she didn't find you attractive and got offended. Maybe she was in a bad mood. Who knows. But a little odd to tell strangers that.
Probably because she either doesn't believe it or she doesn't appreciate it. Either way, it's a red flag.
How come men think that it's okay to make inappropriate comments to women in a professional setting? And why do you think that commenting on a woman's appearance entitles you to anything?
When is it ever appropriate to comment on a woman’s appearance?
Also, if that’s what we’re doing. I would hope that women stop complimenting men as well. Don’t tell us you like our hair. Don’t say we have a nice smile or you like our cologne. Keep it to yourself.
I think compliments are nice. Beats all the Karen's in the world ready to complain about everything. We should all be kind regardless of the setting. Often a compliment is an icebreaker or conversation starter. Let's not take ourselves too seriously sheesh.
@BossLady16 you might be okay with it but it’s disrespectful to hit on or start making comments about a person’s appearance while they are at work
@Subarugirl I guess ladies enjoy compliments while girls are easily offended 🤷♀️
@BossLady16 was thinking about this earlier. Said to myself I guess I won't ever compliment a girl again unless I'm in a bar or club...
@BossLady16 Maybe. All my friends have always said you won't find a decent girl at a bar.
Well you definitely are not going to find any girl by coming on to her while she’s trying to work
She was possibly shocked because it came out of nowhere and didn't know how to respond in the moment. Or maybe her mind was elsewhere, I mean she was at work. Or maybe she just didn't hear you? Drive through workers are fucking deaf sometimes.
Political correctness huh? I remember a time before all of that.
Sorry. I did a poor job of explaining myself. Giving a girl a compliment use to be exactly what it is meant to be.. Just a compliment. However, since all this political correctness lark, a compliment is see as some form of perviness and frowned upon.
Sometimes I'll give a compliment for the sole purpose of brightening her day. In that particular case no matter her response I don't think I would have asked for her number. I've told a girl she had pretty eyes before and she started giggling like a little school girl and I still didn't take it any further. In fact I've seen that particular girl working at the local subway regularly for like the last 3 years or so and only just now gave her a compliment about her eyes. She always has had such a great attitude and is singing and dancing, you just don't see that often. Just because someone is at work, doesn't mean it's inappropriate to hit on them or compliment them. Of course the girl at subway I waited until there were no customers to compliment her eyes. It's definitely a judgement call as to whether or not it's appropriate.
I'm old fashioned. When I give a compliment, it's only ever a compliment which takes me back to my initial comment.. the one I didn't explain very well.. I prefer the days before political correctness went haywire.
Wel the least they could do is say thank you.. to me if they dont say anything move on she's obviously not nice.
You're not hot enough and some women are plain mean.
Because they hear a lot of people saying things to them everyday they try to tune it out
You creeped her out. She knows you want to fuck her even though she is a complete stranger and that made her uncomfortable.
Where did you ever get the idea that that was acceptable in a workplace setting?
Women are entitled arrogant children who believe any male who isn’t a greek god speaking to them is equal to a sex crime.
And some men are completely oblivious to how inappropriate it is to approach a women in her work place and comment on her appearance? She being paid to work, not let clueless men flirt with her.
@Subarugirl Then give examples of places that are appropriate.
A female wearing make up and a low-cut blouse or a skirt or one of the other infinite number of exposing type outfits that women wear in the workplace is looking for sexual attention. If you go to your job Dressed the same way you go to the bars then you were looking for sexual attention. If you were wearing something skin tight, semi transparent, low cut, etc. you were not trying to be professional you were trying to get male attention.
Just like the attention whores at the gym who where essentially cloth body paint and pretend that they’re there to work out.
humans have continued to evolve because men approach women to engage in mating,
because women are so entitled that they do not approach men. So if women want to believe that men approaching them is a sex crime, men will stop approaching them this civilization will stop existing because women always leave it up to the man to do all the work
So stop playing m victim when it’s someone you are not interested in. if you want the entitlement I’m never having to do any of the fucking heavy lifting then you can take the good with the bad
Women approach people they want to approach. Stop trying to justify and project your own feelings onto others because of your own insecurities. Grow up dude, you're not entitled to any one else body based off of how they dress,... you are delusional
@Subarugirl Ohhhh so it’s ok for women to approach people they want to approach but isn’t for men... that is a typical double standard.
No one is projecting insecurities. Your inability to accept the truth doesn’t make it untrue.
Your failed attempt at a personal attack aside, at no point did anyone mention people being entitled to a person, except you and your false victim complex.
Approaching someone as a means to introduction and attempts to meet them has ZERO correlation to being “entitled to their body”
Pull your head out of your ass.
You obviously miss read what I wrote. Take more time to reread it this time and try again.
@Subarugirl Yeah that’s it.
I will remove all your personal attacks and petty shaming tactics.
If you have a valid point make it. If you can’t think of a valid point on topic and have to reduce the conversation to nonsense personal attacks, don’t. It simply proves you know you are wrong and want to silence the speaker.
OK, yeah. Just remove the comments that you can’t reason with. That’s sooo mature
@Subarugirl Like I said, there is a difference between actual statements that I don’t agree with and nonsense personal attacks that have nothing to do with the topic.
I have zero issue with things I disagree with, I do have an issue with ignorant shaming tactics.
Guys, don't listen to Subarugirl. She just gets a kick out of insulting men. Approach who you want to because, contrary to what she says, women largely won't approach who they want to.
T/F... if a woman is interested in you she'll approach you? ↗
@Subarugirl once again at no point did I ever say that a woman’s attire is an open invitation to harassment. Stop twisting words to fit your faults victim agenda
“ If you were wearing something skin tight, semi transparent, low cut, etc. you were not trying to be professional you were trying to get male attention.” … you sure as hell implied it.
@Subarugirl nope I simply said if you are wearing something slutty you’re trying to get “sexual attention” it is exactly as I stated I did not say you wanted to be raped, I did not say you wanted to be molested, I said if you were dressing to get “sexual attention”
your inability to understand the difference is because you have a false victim complex propagated by your feminist agenda and therefore anything that is male attention that you do not like is instantly equated to some kind of sex crime. And if you don’t like men giving you attention then you should probably not dress like a prostitute.
But I will state it for the one last time at no point does that insinuate nor does it State it’s OK for a male to physically touch you without your consent!
Just because I am wearing shorts and a tank top or leggings and a sports bra, or a swim suit doesn’t mean that I am looking for sexual attention… cloths that you find sexy and a desire for sexual attention are not mutually exclusive
@Subarugirl if you’re wearing something that’s transparent, cloth body paint, if you’re wearing something that is low-cut, exposes your tits or is guaranteed to flash your genitals, then you are doing it for sexual attention.
“Sexy” clothes are not what I am talking about.
Exposing clothes are.
No the cloths aren’t the problem… It’s people who think that what a person wears or doesn’t wear is an open invitation for sexual contact or harassment. Just because someone wears something that you think is revealing, doesn’t automatically mean they want sexual attention.
@Subarugirl You keep going back to this “harassment” bullshit you got yourself stuck on.
The only person talking about harassment is you.
Again. There is a massive difference between sexual attention and sexual harassment.
The two aren’t mutually exclusive and just because a woman wears something that you think is revealing doesn’t mean she’s asking for sexual attention. When you are shirtless is that an invitation for sexual attention from other men?…
@Subarugirl I don’t go shirtless because I have dignity and yes it is done to invoke people to loom at you sexually. Straight men do it to get girls to look at them and gay men do it to get attention from men.
How is that logic lost on you?
Oh so you’ve never swam in public before…. Lol
Never wore grey sweat pants?… so basically you think that if someone thinks what you’re wearing is sexy you’re asking for sexual attention
just because you think what a person is wearing is revealing doesn’t mean they are looking for sexual attention, and it for sure isn’t an invitation for some random man to walk up and start making sexual advances towards them
@Subarugirl I have worn gray sweatpants but I also wear underwear under them because I don’t need my dick flopping around. And going swimming at a beach is not the same as walking down the street a female at a beach does not get the same sexual attention as a female who walks in almost nothing down the street.
If a female where is an item of clothing that she knows is going to expose some part of her sexual body she is doing it to get sexual attention. PERIOD!
you have the ability to cover up your sexual parts if you choose not to then you are doing it because you want them to be notice.
but again and I’ll say it for the last time at no point does that mean that a girl should be groped or molested in anyway but having guys approach her and showing her interest is unfortunately a side effect of going out and peacocking yourself for attention, the same way a guy driving a flashy car or flashing his money around he’s expecting females to take notice. Which they also do quite aggressively and openly without any shame or problem. Because when a female is sexually aggressive it isn’t seen as a crime, it’s only when men show any interest at all that women start to play victim.
and I will reiterate this again because you apparently are having a very difficult time understanding a very simple concept... just because you think what a person is wearing is revealing or sexy doesn’t automatically mean that they are looking for sexual attention.
@Subarugirl And that is a delusion...
As is your obsession with what women wear… it’s creepy
@Subarugirl Shaming tactics don’t work. The truth is truth.
hate to brake it to you bud but your opinion isn't truth just because that's what you believe.. you can't tell what kind of attention a person want's based off of how they dress...
Some girls are just rude, or they take offense to everything.
Don't let it get to you.
I would never randomly compliment a stranger. You don't know the person or how she may react.
Were your wife and kids in the car with you?
Too freakin’ funny. 🤣
@dustybiker Thanks! 😂😂😂 I try.
Compliments are supposed to be unselfish, no?
It's not appropriate just creepy
She doesn't owe you a "thank you". No woman does.
Lawsuit waiting to happen.
how old did she look?
23 maybe?
We live in a different world now. Remember standing a person up after agreeing to a date is the norm not the exception.
I guess she gets hit on a lot by guys
Either because they're rude or they get nervous.
Modern women they don't know what to say
And modern men apparently don't know when it's inappropriate to comment on a woman's appearance in a professional setting where she is literally being paid to talk to you.
Not even thank you?
Have a nice day is not too bad tho.
Sorry to hear that
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