How to be comfortable and not feel inferior around (taller) girls?

[insteadfew]

Being a short-ish man at 5'7 i have deep rooted insecurity and inferiority complex around girls especially girls who are my height or taller.
Unfortunately tall (er) girls seem more appealing and attractive to me... but they also trigger my insecurities and (unintentionally) make me feel inferior and unmanly.

I know a short man isn't desirable and they won't/don't like short men for romance/relationship/sex.

But still how to be at least be comfortable being/around them and be friendly with/towards them?

[Dnice1]

Well at least know that you're a giant compared to short girls. I'm 5'1 and I've stood next to a guy that was 5'8 and he was a giant compared to me.

[insteadfew]

But even short girls have the advantage of wearing heels... 👠 So they're not that short in general standing next to me/short men...
And secondly most girls aren't that short... most seem to be around my height or sometimes quite taller than me... which sort of makes me feel bad/small/inferior than her... especially is she's beautiful

[Dnice1]

Not all girls wear heels. Know that some girls love short guys. Build your confidence up and just talk to them like you would any girl.

[insteadfew]

Some girls don't mind or even like short men? Seriously?
As much as I know most short girls I don't know why want a much taller man... and tall women obviously don't like or want a man that's smaller than them because it feels and looks odd.
Do you know what you and your female friends feel about short men?

[Dnice1]

They like them, I like a guy just taller than me really but that's just me. Yeah some girls love short guys.

[insteadfew]

Have you girls ever talked about guys height amongst yourselves?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Comparison is the thief of joy!

[insteadfew]

How not to compare when you clearly can see someone standing next to you is at your eye level or towering over you... especially if she's a ( good looking) girl

[EaterPeter]

Well said

[Yucy_Gluttony]

'That is a tall good looking girl!' not 'that girl is taller than me!' Think the first.

[insteadfew]

But I don't know why a tall/taller woman triggers a sense of inferiority in me.. sense of being incomplete

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Don't think about it! Charm one and you'll find the answer yourself without having to ask

[insteadfew]

" Charm one and you'll find the answer yourself without having to ask"... what exactly do you mean?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Yes if you charm one you can ask her! You'll find out why she likes you. No need to compare and look down on yourself!

[insteadfew]

Haha a short (er) man can charm a tall (er) woman? And she'd like him?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Stop comparing!

[Yucy_Gluttony]

As long as you comapre, YOU STUCK

[insteadfew]

I won't compare for my mental health and peace... but still... would/can a taller woman like or find a shorter man charming and even be in actual relationship!

[Yucy_Gluttony]

"but still" you're doing it again! As long as you do it, YOU STUCK

[insteadfew]

You don't compare anything at all?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

I don't! Not in the way you do. I compare skills, things I can work on, it drives me. That's why I've been very happy overall!

[insteadfew]

And as a girl you'd even be ok with a short/er man?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Are you that hollow of a man that height would be all you have to offer me?

[insteadfew]

Umm but height is the very first thing a man offers since it's a noitecable thing and it would look odd /weird if a woman is towering over her man

[Yucy_Gluttony]

If that is the very first thing, I would be pretty disappointed. Noticable, I agree on that, but you won't earn points.

[insteadfew]

There are two men , one taller and one your height or smaller... who is going to catch your attention early and easily and seem attractive... and who would have to work hard to impress/get attention?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Who ever is the loudest of the two

[insteadfew]

So loud voice?

[Yucy_Gluttony]

HUE no who ever gets my attention first has my attention first, I'm not speaking height. I won't spoon feed it to you. Stop comparing

[Yucy_Gluttony]

Thanks for Most Helpful! But do us both a favor and follow the advice! <3

[insteadfew]

Thank You

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Therapy.

Find a therapist who can help you unpack and decondition those insecurities. You owe yourself that, especially if you're drawn to taller women.

You don't have to live with that insecurity. You can get professional help to move past it.

[insteadfew]

Everyone is drawn to taller people be it men or women.
Tall is always better and sexier and aesthetic

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Not always. Some people really like shorter folks.

Source: I am a shorter person who attracts taller people.

[insteadfew]

Short is ok or attractive in women... so...

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I've been attracted to shorter men, but this inferiority complex seems important to you, so you do you.

Height doesn't actually matter for people with healthy and fulfilling relationships, but hey - again, if the inferiority is comfortable, stick with it.

What's NOT attractive is someone who can't accept themselves and tries to force everyone else into boxes.

Again, it isn't your height that is stopping you. It's your mindset and personality.

[insteadfew]

Ya i know i have deep rooted inferiority complex about my short height and hairy legs

[boggboss]

Get therapy if it's deep-rooted