Girlfriend keeps pinching my belly fat?

[Anonymous]

I work out a lot. I run 3 times a week and lift 4 times a week. I watch what I eat and am in great shape most of the time. The last 1.5 months I have slipped a little. Lots of parades, bbq, plus a week vacation all added up to me gaining about 6-8lbs of fat. I’ll lose it no problem, by the end of August I’ll be back in shape. I still have a “faded” six pack, but I am not cut like normal. I’m a little upset I let myself slip.

Since I’ve gained some weight my girlfriend will pinch my little belly roll or try to make it shake and laugh. I’m not sure if she is trying to be funny or hurtful. Either way it bothers me. But mostly because she has a LOT more fat than I do and she’s giving me sh*t about it. She does not work out, she does not eat right and she has about 20lbs she could lose. I am very tempted to tell her to take a hard look in the mirror next time she pinches my fat.

I’m not sure if I put her in her place or try just telling her it bothers me. Or maybe I’m just being really b*tchy about the entire thing. What do you kids think?

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Well I told her I didn't like it and she started laughing and told me she was just joking. This went on for 5 min or so and then she started pinching me again. I blew up at that point. I called her out on it. I said her love handles were spilling over and she gives me crap. Insert bawling session for 30mins and her demands for an apology. I said you give one first. She did. She's coming to the gym for the 1st time in months. Who knew being an @sshole would work?

[Eiffelgirl21]

I think she is just trying to be cute. But, I am not sure.

I know that with my boyfriend, I LOVE his belly fat. His tummy is fat..probably kind of like yours without the faded six pack..lol But, I love it. I would rather have his tummy the way it is now than him have a six pack really. But, I am not attracted to muscle or whatever...I tend to first see the face, then the personality, then I fall in love with their body.

Anyway, sorry a little off track..I mess with his stomach a lot..because I love it. I think it is cute..and sexy at the same time. I am not sure why I do it..But, I love it. And, I do not mean to hurt his feelings or make him feel fat. Though, I never try to make it shake or anything...more like I kiss it..touch it..grab it..poke it lol...that type of thing..

I do not think you should be mean about it..but, I would ask her what her deal is. Like "are you making fun of me..or trying to say I am getting fat?" or something like that. And, see what she says. If she says yes, then I would go off on her and tell her she could lose a lot more than you. Why do this? Because, she was asking for it by the response. If she says that she was only kidding, because we all know women can make themselves look like the victim all the time..just tell her that you only said it out of anger and being hurt. That you didn't mean it.

Anyway, good luck xx

[Eiffelgirl21]

and when I say his tummy is fat..I don't really mean it's fat..Because it isn't! AT all..He is considered skinny...I was just trying to describe it..but, it didn't come out right...ehh..

[Eiffelgirl21]

@your update: good to know :-))

[MWalsh89]

I know my bf's a little bigger than he should be and I like to poke it, just for fun, not trying to be hurtful at all, sometimes its' a weird sort of fidget in the sense we're sitting together, and because I always have to be moving a little bit, I just kind of move my hand around on his stomach, in a small pressing motion. I love his stomach though, though it's not good for him and I have to remind him of this, that I don't hate his stomach and that despite it, I find him sexy...which I'm sure is the case for your girlfriend.

Let her know it's bothering you, talk about it, but she might just find it weird to see if you're always tone...and sometimes girls just find simple pleasure in random things...odd, I know.

And if her being overweight is bothering you, bring it up, but in a nice way. Let her know you're concerned for her health and that you'd like to start running with her and maybe work on a diet thing together.

[udolipixie]

She's telling you that you're slipping.

Her being fatter doesn't matter. Plenty of fat guys picky about girls.

Plenty of guys on here argue that women should keep in shape all while forgetting their own body since men age like wine & women age like milk. Your girlfriend has their mindset of keep in shape for me but don't expect the same.

Either dump her if you're that sensitive about it or tell her to stop & communicate.

Or be a guy or whiny girl and pinch the fat back.

[Anonymous]

She's being a bitch, of course.

How do I know this? Simple, she 's well aware that you put a lot of effort into your physique. That you take this matter very seriously, that you have a whole lifestyle to accomodate your own self-imposed standards, when it comes to having a good-looking ripped body. She knows all this perfectly well. Now, tell me, why would you do such a thing to someone you know is self-aware and sensitive in this regard? That's right, to criticize.

Trust me, it's no joke. She's not being cute or playful or whatever have you. She's taking a jab at your pride and self-esteem, to shame you into getting back in shape. As if you needed that kind of incentive -- you clearly have much more motivation than her in that regard.

If the above isn't enough to convince you, let me add a little something: I was in your shoes in my last relationship. Yeah, that's right. I am 29 and I keep a large and cut physique. Of course, my bitch of a girlfriend was a slob where habits were concerned, but she thought it was o.k. to give me sh*t on a few inches of fat I occasionally gained. Needless to say, I dumped that hypocrite. Maybe you should consider doing the same.

F*ck, it sure is depressing to see my own sh*tty story in another person's life.

Good luck man...

[farkit]

Man, I SURE DO HOPE there are more guys like you, most dudes nowaydays are a buncha p******, They'd do ANYTHING for a girl, ANYTHING, even if she doesn't deserve it, man, the male race is losing its pride and dignity, I wish more guys would stand up for their rights and embrace who they are, instead of being a buncha wimps.

[Eiffelgirl21]

Wow..seems like farkit and I have the same problem..but opposite roles...I keep coming across a**holes...nice though. hahaha...your ex seems mean...though, I really do love my bf's body..without abs..

[girl_power111]

bitter much?

[bioweapon154]

Sounds like she is poking fun at you because you finally have something to poke at if you catch my drift. Like the other guys are saying here, jiggle and pinch her fat and see how she reacts. Either that or your girlfriend has no mind or decency and is just being retarded.

[Shaun]

She's telling you that she doesn't approve. If the shoe was on the other foot and a woman came here and said her boyfriend was doing that, people of both genders would be coming out of the woodwork to tell her that her boyfriend is scum.

Just pinch her fat back.

[bel42]

lol

[WashingtonLoveWizard]

Agreed. Fat pinching chicks suck, tell her not to be one of those types.

[Icaro]

good ol' double standards, eh...

[Anonymous]

I'm a chubby girl dating a slim guy.

We've been together for a number of years, and both of us have gained and lost weight during that time. He had a bit of a 6 pack for awhile, but now he's put on some weight and has a bit of a chubby belly with love handles.

To be honest, I touch his little belly rolls all the time. They feel so soft and nice. I don't think he looks any less attractive, and I really enjoy holding on to his love handles, especially when I have my arm around his waist. I'm sure I do some of the things that your girlfriend does, but I mean it in a playful and loving way. And my boyfriend doesn't mind at all because he isn't insecure about his body. I've brought it up a few times just to be sure and asked him if he minded or if it made him self conscious and he says it doesn't.

I don't think you should assume that she's being malicious. If it bothers you, talk to her about it and let her know that it bothers you.

[Crimson_Petal]

That is such a rude thing to do to ANYONE, let alone to your boyfriend. Next time she goes to do it set her straight, you don't like it, it's not funny and she's not helping anyone. It's also incredibly juvenile so don't turn around and tell her that she needs to lose weight, that's just sinking to this childish behavior . Have an adult conversation with her about it, but if she STILL does it afterward, by all means 'pinch the fat' back as Shaun said.

[Anonymous]

Don't think that being an a**hole works with ALL girls. It worked with HER. Your girlfriend happens to be an a**hole herself, so when you turned the tables on her (rightfully so) she responded well. When someone is being rude to you then yeah get rude back with them to show them how it feels. Now she knows not to talk to you like that

[WashingtonLoveWizard]

Just grab her fat with both hands and jiggle the sh*t out of it, then walk away. This reminds be of the chicks that punch you in the stomach a little to see how firm it is. I think men should start punching those girls in the t*ts to see if they are real or not.

[Eiffelgirl21]

LMAO! if they aren't real..it might hurt! hahahaaaa

[Anonymous]

Why don't you wiggle HER fat around and play with it and see what her reaciton is. If she seems to hate it then tell her that is how you feel when she does it to you.

Personally I think she does it because to her its fun. I used to do it to my exs belly, which had a lot more fat than you have. I don't think she is intentionally trying to hurt you but I understand why you are sensitive about it.

[Boredom0]

I think you said it perfectly. I admit it would bother me if my significant other did that to me.

[AmberChick]

She's probably just happy that you are gaining some weight so she doesn't feel so bad about her weight, not saying that's a good thing... but you should just tell her you don't like it when she does that. Yeah, your pride will hurt for a second, but just be firm.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she was insecure about her weight, calling her fat wasn't the answer. Or maybe she was attracted to it, but I must ask you didn't complain about her weight until the update. So we're you attracted to her. She could have been just poking fun about your weight gain, still being a @$$ was not the answer. What she says about "look at that fat shake" is wrong, maybe you should have pinched her back, if she laughed you should have kissed her. Don't rush into saying something, she pinched you hurt her feelings. Should she really have apologized first, and did you need the comment if you are attracted to her body. Take into her feelings as well, don't lose your temper.

[Opinion Owner]

I think they meant were instead of we're, just a though

[DishLady]

You weren't being an a*hole, you were standing up for yourself. Well done.

[Anonymous]

Okay I did that to a guy b4 just because I was bored and I thought it was funny and he thought it was funny but just tell her its bothering you don't yell at her that will be a fight and I don't think you want to fight with her and ask if she will go for a run with you okay :)

[deej13]

haha! that's so funny! but you probably made her feel even more self consous then she did. the grabbin your fat thing was because she hated feeling fat sittin next to you. next time, try a bit less of a reaction like that.

[girl_power111]

well... next time she does it you grab her belly... and laugh too... this will make her stop. if she just laughs along then it means she was just doing it to you for fun. just let it go then

[DishLady]

She's probably just very touchy-feely and is doing it affectionately. She probably just loves you! :-)

If it bothers you, though, you should tell her so you're both happy and comfortable.

[CorneliaisPretty]

what I think you should do, is first to talk to her about it and tell her it bothers you, then if she reacts badly and says mean stuff or something put her in her place

[Yellowbone]

I do stuff like that to guys just to be funny. I also pinch their noses, etc. Lol.

But if it bothers you, just tell her how you feel. She probably doesn't even have bad intentions.

[xzinax2]

pinch her ass-but make sure to take a lot of fat,jiggle it and laugh hysterically

[lost_soul]

ah I got a mental picture of this in my head and laughed :P

[farkit]

And probably stick a finger up there, leads to instant buttsex and a lot of apperciation, FUC YEA! SHE GON' PINCH UR BELLY FAT EVERYTIME IF You DID DIS.

[Boredom0]

High maintenance people like you suck.
I'm guessing she lacks self-awareness and wasn't even thinking.

[digital_haze]

Does she say anything when she does it? Anything really hurtful?

[Asker]

while laughing, she'll say "look at that fat shake." or something to that affect

[dkt21]

She's pleased that she doesn't have to feel so bad about being overweight. Tease her back.

[Tjdijjccij]

Yeah don't be soft bro, she's probably just joking and doesn't mean to be hurtful. Regardless, hit the trails.