Though things were going good with this girl but?

[Anonymous]

we seem to have a really great connection and we talk all the time at this pub we both go to. we've done drinks together and whatever you could do in that sort of setting

but i can't get her to do anything outside of it , not referring to sexual stuff. i literally never see her outside of the place despite the fact we live in the same area

i'm perplexed cause we seem to get along really well , i get along with the girls she's friends with too but i've never been to a private party with them or done anything else with them. but we get along so it doesn't make a lot of sense to me

should i suggest something and is there any chance she'd agree to it?

[CrazyGirl2]

What happens between you guys is only seen by you two, so if you don’t know if she’d agree to anything else, only you and she can answer. It sounds as though she likes you, but it also seems as though she is taking her time! Who knows, maybe she recently had a bad breakup, and doesn’t want to rush into anything new! Give her time, she will make her feelings known. If not, you can always offer to drive (or walk) her home? Or I don’t know, maybe ask for her number! Sweetie, you need to put yourself out there, nothing worth anything, ever came without work and patience.

[Asker]

i'm not entirely sure whats going on with her life , which makes it more challenging to figure out a next move
don't think she'd want me to give her a ride home , she has her own car or could get a friend from work to
been meaning to ask for her # but we talk so much in person it never seems like a priority as i'm not really a phone person anyways , to be honest found girls hated my texts so i was worried i might send her something poor too. did have her on instagram but my account doesn't work anymore and i never sent her any messages or anything on that site , she didn't post much

[CrazyGirl2]

Yeah, I’m the same! I’m active here, but I am not very active on Insta, and I really only use it to keep in touch with my RW friends and family. And that’s it really, snap is mostly sexting, Facebook is for old people, and TikTok is sending all your data to the Chinese Gov!

[Asker]

its weird she used to have a tiktok as she mentioned it years ago but its gone now at least all her content , just a page with her name and nothing else

i'm pretty sure she's not on facebook despite the fact she's on instagram

she uses her cell a lot so think she's on snap chat but never used that app myself so never added her on there

we talk all the time in person and get along extremly well , surprised she's never offered anything to keep in touch but never asked either

[DaveJord]

Have you asked her out other than the pub?

I mean if you have and she's said no then thats that. She's not interested in you or doesn't want to date you. I been in clubs, bars and pubs and the women are so flirty with you and convincing to. But they are just playing games for fun of the self esteem boost it gives them. I like attention but aren't into it with you.

[Asker]

i've never asked her on a formal date , i've mentioned things that were going on before but never offered to buy her a ticket

i do think she likes the attention she gets there , seen guys hit on her and she likes it but they disappear as there just randoms here for 1 weekend , we get a lot of bachelor parties but there gone the next day

this has been going on for a while , first couple times we did drinks together she asked me if i wanted to do it with her which was why i assumed she wanted to get to know me or why else would she ask

[DaveJord]

Yeah you need to ask her out, get her out of pub. Thats you problem, if ask her out and says yes then your good to go.

Find your balls be a man and ask her out silly.

[Asker]

i'm just not sure what to suggest , somedays her schedule is work from 10 am till close which could be 1 am , that doesn't leave anytime to do much

i though about starbucks as i know she goes there but its not within walking distance of pub , is also a couple restaurants nearby but she's never expressed any interest in going to them

there is a street festival in a couple weeks but she'll likely be working that night as it occurs on Friday night , so it likely wouldn't work either

[Asker]

i'm going to try and have a conversation about her focusing on her interests outside of the pub and will see if that leads to anything , sort of going to start off that i never see her around town and wondered what she was into when she wasn't at pub

[DaveJord]

Yeah that's a good idea, don't over think it. Find out what her interests are then ask her out. If she is interested then she will make the time, that's not your concern. You just want make your interest known and get the ball rolling, you just need t step and ask her out the rest will work itself out.

[Asker]

i talked to her again yesterday it went well , i didn't ask her out although one event did emerge as a possible social option outside of the pub. is a bar in another nearby town that is having a country night in mid July. it sounded like she wanted to go with her girlfriend's and i normally go to it so we'd see each other day. but hoping for something sooner and closer that was more just me and her so have to try talking to her again and see what else she might be into

then she complained about having to do an online course this summer , between work and this course she doesn't have a lot of free time

[DaveJord]

Just ask her out. Stop dragging it out, and just ask her out.

But piont ids that you need to stop playing games, and tip toeing the issue. She probably can tell you are interested and if you have chance with her, the long you play games the more likely she's going to get bored with it. Women like confident men, and confident men would of JUST ASKED HER OUT by now.

Stop dragging it out, ask her out

[DaveJord]

Some day some guy you and she has never seen before will walk into your pub and ask your girl out. And she will say yes, simply because the guy asked when you never did and she got tried of waiting.

[Asker]

there has been other guys hit on her before when i was there but lately been random guys from bachelor parties who all live far away and never come back here. one asked for her # and she gave him a fake one. was another guy that hit on her as well he seemed to have more success but also lived far away and i think she just liked the attention