She goes cold when its going good?

[Anonymous]

There's a girl I like and she's always been shy around me but I always felt she was interested. A while back things began going well between us and we made out and she was super happy and we planned a date, but then a few days later she just couldn't do it.

I was so shocked because she genuinely seemed really excited and then just bailed. We see eachother quite often so we casually started chatting again. It was obvious she was still into me so I began flirting. She became really flirty back and we would text all night. It was obvious she liked me, liked my direct approach and really wanted to sleep with me and hang out with me. Yet one night when we were texting she was getting really into it and said she kinda wishes I lived closer because she wants me to cuddle her to sleep and feel my arms around her.

It was all going so hot and then she just switched and said she has to stop because she just can't do it and that even though she likes me nothing will happen between us because she won't allow it and she needs to stop flirting with me because she needs to get her life straight and starting making bs excuses about things and said we should just be friends.

I genuinely don't get why I know she likes me etc, but once things progress she stops and runs a few steps back

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to know exactly what is going on with this girl without more information, but it's possible that she is dealing with some personal issues or emotional baggage that is causing her to pull back when things start to get more serious between you. It's also possible that she is not ready for a relationship at this time, or that she is unsure about her feelings for you and is trying to sort them out.

Regardless of the reason, it's important to respect her boundaries and not pressure her into anything she's not comfortable with. If she has expressed a desire to just be friends, it's important to honor that and avoid putting pressure on her to change her mind. It's also important to take care of yourself and not invest too much emotional energy into a situation that may not be able to progress beyond a certain point.

If you're interested in pursuing a relationship with her, it's possible that you could have an honest conversation with her about your feelings and ask her to clarify her own feelings and intentions. However, it's important to approach this conversation with respect and sensitivity, and to be prepared for the possibility that she may not be ready or willing to pursue anything more than a friendship with you.