Long story short, we dated for a while and things were great by both accounts - we got on like a house on fire, same interests, very similar goals etc it was a bit mad to be honest! In her words it was amazing when we were together.
Then she suddenly told me she had a lot of personal stuff going on and just simply wasn't ready for me until she's healed. Came out of no where to be honest but i don't doubt her honesty so i told her i'd respect her space and to reach out if she felt differently - she said she would 100% be in touch because she loved being together but it wasn't fair on me atm.
So 30 or so days have passed and legitimately had to ask her about something to make sure a mutual friend was okay and here we are, talking again...
I don't want to smother her, i respect where we left things so i'm very hesitant to discuss feelings or 'us' - were just chatting generally/friendly catching up on each other and tbh its good but i don't have a clue where she stands. My head tells me 30 days isn't long enough for anything to have changed for her.
Thing is... i can't be friends with her, i love speaking to her so much but if i don't make a point of trying to meet up (which i'm not going to). Then where does this go? just talking daily again? i like talking to her but i have enough friends..
i kind of feel like i need to break it off again for my own good but leave the door open again, what do you think is the best way to go about this? or is this the best way to proceed?
My only thoughts are to reply to her next message with - "I've really enjoyed catching up with you and i'm happy that your well. I'm really busy this next couple of days and don't want to appear ignorant so if you feel like it, why don't you get in touch again soon".
I want to make it clear to her that whilst i love speaking to her, i'm not willing to be her pen pa without any possibility of dating etc (but also don't want to pressure her by bringing it up again) this is impossible lol!
