Is it normal for women to make sure their dates get home safely?

[xJeremyx]

I know its something women want men to do for them, but I have realised that some women may also get worried when they do not receive confirmation from their male counterparts that they are home safely after a night out. Is this behaviour common?

[sage2021]

You can try to call and check on the person, but if you get sent to voicemail, wouldn't that leave you wondering?
Did they go out again after our date? Is he talking to another girl? Did he put his phone on Do Not Disturb? Did he get in an accident?

[Aerissa_Jade]

I consider it respectful for both of us to text that we made it home safe. When we are about to go our own way, I'll say..."text me when you get home" and he'll say "You too" or something like that.

It doesn't take a lot of effort, I even have a template for it, I load as a draft when I get home I hit send.

[Keyboardkat]

When I was dating it was expected that the guy would take the girl home, and wait to make sure she got inside the house safely before leaving. Sending a girl home on her own is kinda tacky to me. But maybe I'm just old-fashioned.

[Guy13]

Anytime I have checked I have received a thank you. Anytime a girl checks on me and I am still on the road then I knew I left her doorstep too early. If I could only turnaround...

[xJeremyx]

Speaking of driving. I've made it a habit to tell people to drive safe after they drop me off or when they leave after meeting me. Its just a nice gesture.

[Guy13]

Yep. People will forget nice but remember rude. Can't hurt to be sweet.

[xJeremyx]

I don't need them to remember me being nice. Seeing the smile on their face is more than enough. It's why I am always nice to servers and retail/customer service workers.

[Guy13]

No argument here. Manners and Etiquette matter.

[xJeremyx]

Yeah I wish more people (especially Karens and entitled screw-ups) could learn to be like that. But then again, some people have brain cells but have no idea how to use them.

[Guy13]

Fact...

[AviatorTom]

This is a similar question to
We went on a date and he didn’t even check if I got home safe. Is that rude? ↗
When I was dating, it was rare for my date to see if I got home safely. Instead, I often texted her when I got home.

[exitseven]

My wife used to want me to call her when I got home to make sure I got there okay. I used to leave her place Sunday night and drive all night and just go to work after that. She was always afraid I would fall asleep behind the wheel.

[Akam93]

Anyone who's anyone says that. Even friends of the family.

[xJeremyx]

So you're saying its a human thing, that is not limited by gender or relation to the other person?

[Akam93]

Yes. Just to let know people your ok.

[xJeremyx]

Cool. Glad we are on the same page about that.

Its nice in general to check in on the person you went out with to make sure they are safe and ok. More guys and girls should start doing that!

[dustybiker]

I always did this with my male friends too.

[xJeremyx]

Thats very nice of you. Good on ya.

[dustybiker]

My parents get the credit for that. They raised me well.

[xJeremyx]

Kudos to them. I should learn from you! Although where I am from this is not a common occurrence among platonic friends as I live in one of the safest countries in the world.

[dustybiker]

I get that. It does feel good when people care though. Even little blips like this.

[xJeremyx]

Yeah. Thats precisely why I make it a point to tell servers and restaurant workers nice things. Its awesome seeing their faces light up after a long day.

[dustybiker]

Oh yes. Agreed.

[xJeremyx]

Small things, like telling a cabby to drive safely, or telling the Mcdonalds worker who gave you your food "It must have been a long day, you have a good rest later!"

Small acts of appreciation go a long way in making someone's day. And when they are visibly excited by it, it melts your heart too.

[dustybiker]

I once waited in a long cue at a drive through just to give a man a Christmas card. He was always working hard and very nice. Type of person who stands out.
When he came on the speaker I asked for an extra large pizza with fries on the side. The place didn’t sell pizza.
Dead silence on the other end.
Then several heads popped out the payment window to see me. He came back on “Can’t you see I’m trying to work here?” Laughing. Then asked what I wanted. I purposely didn’t order anything to give it more meaning.
When I came to the window and gave him the card he about cried. He took it from me in a way that I bet he still has it. It was priceless. I like doing those little unexpected things.

[xJeremyx]

Did you know this man?

Also, your hubby is lucky to have you 😂

And how are you popping up on almost every question I ask?

[dustybiker]

Yes. I went by there for food frequently at the time.

Thanks. I’ll tell him. 😁😎

I had a migraine yesterday, naturally today I have too much energy feeling good. You should see the housework I’ve accomplished today too. lol

[xJeremyx]

I detest housework. But then I can't not do housework. I just reach a point where I have to clean up

[dustybiker]

I like the feeling when it’s done. Satisfying.

[xJeremyx]

Fresh sheets and squeaky clean floor is the best feeling.

[dustybiker]

Agreed.

[xJeremyx]

How did this turn from making sure people got home safe to making sure the floor shines 😂

[dustybiker]

Good conversations happen. 😎

[xJeremyx]

Between great people.

[xJeremyx]

I'm kinds curious, why did you become a teacher? Its so mentally demanding

[dustybiker]

Teacher? Not me. You must be confusing me with another member.

[xJeremyx]

Im sorry 😅😅 I do get people mixed up a lot.

[dustybiker]

lol No problem

[xJeremyx]

You're a cool person. We need more people like you.

[dustybiker]

Thank you, sir. That is very sweet. 😎

[xJeremyx]

Don't call me Sir...😅😅

[dustybiker]

I’m in taekwondo. It’s not meant to be offensive.

[xJeremyx]

I know, I am just not used to being called "Sir". Waaay too formal for me😂

Plus it makes me sound old

[dustybiker]

Just respect. You said something kind.

[xJeremyx]

A kind word for a kind person.

I'll have to get used to being called "Sir" then.😅

[xJeremyx]

😂* Wrong emoji

[dustybiker]

Thank you. And it does happen from time to time.

[xJeremyx]

When its 11pm and you are sleepy, yeah. Wrong words, wrong emojis.

And you're welcome.

[dustybiker]

lol Have a good night. ✌🏻

[xJeremyx]

And you have a good day. 👋

[douride2]

I usually tell them to call or text when they get in.

[Lowiu]

Yes its nice and you can start talking a bit after the date too

[kellytheman]

Yeah I do it and I think it shows the two people care enough about each other the same and that's a good feeling for both so yeah I think it's perfectly normal.

[Iron_Man]

Most people just say good night there on the spot and when a woman’s walking to her door, she turns around and gives you a glance and the man wait until she gets inside for the night

[KrakenAttackin]

No, and it's a bit weird to have the woman check up on the man. Odds are she is already meeting with Chad after she at the free meal with you.

[PatriceONeal]

If you're a man. Never say this simp bullshit. She won't respect or appreciate your caring or kindness. That is unless you're Chad.

[HaveNoName]

If they care, and if the guy means something to them, it is a nice gesture on her part.

[Pohjolan]

I'm glad that I currently live in a society where this would be seen as excessive.

[Anonymous]

Probably not, considering many women seem to think that nothing bad can happen to a man.

I make sure everyone gets home safe.

[msc545]

Women don't do this. They think it's a man's job. Fuck them.

[LiamJHayden]

Should be common courtesy.

[katiesmuff]

It works both ways!

[UniquelyBasic]

What if they never saw the text? lol

[Hardworkingguy]

That's a good question. I'd also like to know

[EaterPeter]

Usually they want the guy to worry about that

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say its abnormal, but it is different.