Bartender at my golf club asked me to go see her when she works but does not reply to me outside of work what gives?

[Anonymous]

Bartender at my golf course where I am a member at always asks me to come see her when I am never at the club. Outside of that she only texts me or reply’s to me when she needs me to get her something. She has me on snap but blocks me from her stories. Last year she used to get close to me after her shift but I never pursued anything. I am 27 and have never dated but have have very high self confidence and very outgoing and a little overweight. Not sure if she is just using me when she needs something or she likes seeing me? Also when I was severely obese she would ignore me, since I lost 100 pounds she now talks to me smiles from ear to ear when I walk in.

[Anonymous]

So looking at the other comments I’m curious why you think she’d text and pursue you when she’s in a relationship already? On one hand I do feel like she uses you to get money and things from, but I also think she’s mindful of her relationship which I actually think you should respect because it means she’s a loyal woman and wouldn’t step out on her partner. Something to keep in mind should she ever become single. You wouldn’t want her as a girlfriend knowing she’d cheat.

[In_Trance]

smh... she wants tips. All the time you think you have any type of chance for anything more, she'll most likely get your money

[Iron_Man]

How do you know she’s not working you for tips to keep you coming back?

[Asker]

I am a member at the golf club I am there 3-4 days a week. She knows I come regardless that’s why I find it strange. But you could be right

[Iron_Man]

Waitresses are known for saying come back and see me so they can get huge big fat tips they’ll probably comp you a free soda

[KrakenAttackin]

She is only interested in milking you for tip money.

[OlderAndWiser]

Most lkely, she has a boyfriend and is using you.

[Asker]

Yes I do know she has a boyfriend and always complains about him and says it’s more complicated then anything

[OlderAndWiser]

"It's complicated" means that she likes to complain about him but has no plans of leaving him.