Women explain something to me, this double standard thing?

[Anonymous]

Women think either with players or bad boys "I can change him" even though you are retarded thinking that you think it anyhow.

Yet if a man thinks or says that to a woman then she's like "accept me for who I am" or she will act like you are making her feel insecure or worse.

But let me give you a piece of advice anyway, guys won't change who they are just because you say so, even if you use sex or feminine charm. Only way a guy will is if he thinks you are worth it, that's not by physical attraction, it's by how much you mean to him and how much he actually wants you in his life.

[Anonymous]

I think that both parties should change little things to make their couple stronger and better. With bigger things it is more complicated.
And yes you change because you love someone and you wish to make them feel better. You will not change if you do not love someone
I asked my boyfriend to do somethings differently, he said that I am also not perfect and would like some things different. I asked him what would that be and he doesn't want to tell me. I can't change anything if I don't know what bothers him, I can't just guess

[Asker]

The day he will tell you is that day women tell us what they really want and not have us guys guessing all the time or expect us to understand the subtle hints you give us.

[Opinion Owner]

I guess not much women tell guys. I told him whats bothering me and he made some changes I wished for. I wish he would tell me whats bothering him because I also don't want to bother him I would try to change some things too. I'm guessing from your comment that men don't usually tell. Is that then normal?
Also I think maybe most women do the subtle way first as it is not too comfortational as most women don't like to be. I am guilty of first trying to be subtle about it. But since it does nothing straight forward is the better way

[Anonymous]

Yeah, and I am really sure girls on this site need your advice.

[Asker]

You really do when it comes to guys, seriously, some ofyou are as think as a brick at times especially when you think you know everything about a guy

[TheSpaceGnome]

Most of that is right, the part thats wrong is the exception.
If she 's worth it, she's a perfect match, meaning she's like me and wouldn't want me to change. So no, I'm not changing, not even if she's worth it.

[Asker]

When I say if she's worth it I mean you are so inlove with her you don't want to lose her and it's not that you change but you be abit better to her needs like greese with Danny and sandy half way through and near the end

[TheSpaceGnome]

I dunno who those people are.

I only date a woman if she has the same interests, hobbies, views, lifestyle, etc. I'm always doting on her needs if I'm dating her and she would be doing the same for me, thats just basic relationship stuff, so I'd still not change.

[Anonymous]

"I can change him" is a justification. They know they can't, but if they admitted they want to get dicked down with no prospect of a future together, they'd be admitting to being a slut.

[Asker]

If they own that word and not take offense to it then it can't hurt them, they choose to be hurt my such a saying when sex is much a right to be had that woman can want as much as men

[Opinion Owner]

Its the social backlash, not so much the label. Its also a matter of keeping future options open. If she's open about running around in her twenties, she won't have the option of settling down with a good provider later. But if she's "looking for love", she has an out.

[humanearth]

Your right