This girl and I don’t really talk but have had a couple of classes together so far. I’m really interested.
She’s not butch but not femme either maybe somewhere in between but closer to the butch side. She doesn’t dress like a boy but will wear like crop tops and Jean jackets and gold chains and stuff.
She is a lesbian according to her because she came out in one of our classes in the fall. She’s revealed a lot about herself in that class but I didn’t remember a whole lot because at the time, I wasn’t interested.
She’s gotten a little more masculine since then with her style and now I’m really interested. She’s also super smart and I like her personality based on what she’s said to other people.
Once I was walking up the aisle in class ( in the fall ) to my seat and she moved to sit diagonally behind me beside her friend and gazed at me while I was walking up to my seat and we made eye contact until I looked away and sat down.
This semester she had to sit next to me because her seat got taken and she didn’t talk to me but I felt like she could’ve been nervous. She kept fidgeting with the bottom of her shoe which was close to me. I’ve seen her blush in class when she was put on the spot and after I looked over at her.
I’ve seen her glance at me before but I don’t think that’s much.
We had to quote from poetry and say what we thought and she waited until I was done talking then left class early. She has a friend in the class so she usually sits next to her and talks to her.
So I found her social media and the pics are from like 3 years ago and she looks like a totally different person. She’s in high school in them and looks really girly and Christian and I’m so confused because now she seems like this cool lesbian stud lol. I know people change but I’m questioning if she’s really gay. Maybe she always knew because I’m the same way and was closeted for a while. Im super femme and also grew up Christian. So people don’t know I’m gay unless I tell them.
What do I do?
She’s not butch but not femme either maybe somewhere in between but closer to the butch side. She doesn’t dress like a boy but will wear like crop tops and Jean jackets and gold chains and stuff.
She is a lesbian according to her because she came out in one of our classes in the fall. She’s revealed a lot about herself in that class but I didn’t remember a whole lot because at the time, I wasn’t interested.
She’s gotten a little more masculine since then with her style and now I’m really interested. She’s also super smart and I like her personality based on what she’s said to other people.
Once I was walking up the aisle in class ( in the fall ) to my seat and she moved to sit diagonally behind me beside her friend and gazed at me while I was walking up to my seat and we made eye contact until I looked away and sat down.
This semester she had to sit next to me because her seat got taken and she didn’t talk to me but I felt like she could’ve been nervous. She kept fidgeting with the bottom of her shoe which was close to me. I’ve seen her blush in class when she was put on the spot and after I looked over at her.
I’ve seen her glance at me before but I don’t think that’s much.
We had to quote from poetry and say what we thought and she waited until I was done talking then left class early. She has a friend in the class so she usually sits next to her and talks to her.
So I found her social media and the pics are from like 3 years ago and she looks like a totally different person. She’s in high school in them and looks really girly and Christian and I’m so confused because now she seems like this cool lesbian stud lol. I know people change but I’m questioning if she’s really gay. Maybe she always knew because I’m the same way and was closeted for a while. Im super femme and also grew up Christian. So people don’t know I’m gay unless I tell them.
What do I do?
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It's impossible for me to determine with certainty whether this girl is just looking for an experiment or if she is genuinely interested in women. However, it's important to respect her self-identification as a lesbian and to avoid making assumptions about her sexuality based on her appearance or past photos.
If you're interested in getting to know her better, the best approach is to try to initiate a conversation and get to know her as a person. You could start by asking her about something related to your class or a common interest, and go from there. It's important to be respectful and considerate in your interactions with her, and to avoid pressuring her into anything she's not comfortable with.
Remember that everyone's journey with their sexuality is unique, and it's not uncommon for people to explore and experiment before fully understanding their orientation. However, it's important to approach any potential relationship with respect, honesty, and open communication.