I've lived in many different neighborhoods throughout my teens & many of the girls who lived there were literally afraid of my presence or if they walked near me they would get scared & frightened
I'm not tall per say nor overweight
But a lot of girls did get scared of me at first but eventually calmed down eventually
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Could be a variety of things, if I won’t deny that, that can be one of them.
Things like if they seem a bit anti-social,
if they’re tall
if they dress “suspiciously” or in poor taste financial condition
Can be two of these paired together and all sorts of things, but can be the ugly thing too.
Thing is many girls also judge what’s ugly and what’s not many times by their perceptions of perfection/ beauty standards/ trends and peer-related trends/ peer pressure and all sorts which would influence the lens they view people through.
I honestly just wouldn’t worry about it. Worrying about something on this level is just a waste for anyone.
Being yourself is the best thing anyone could do
If men are also scared? Because that's happened as well
Either be comfortable in your own ways and routines and skin, or consider a light maintenance yk anything possible like making sure beard is kept, or if any unibrow action is goin’ on, keeping it trimmed, and then a decent wardrobe (nothing extreme just a pretty casually decent one).
Simple things like- Making sure your hairstyle fits complimentary to your face, teeth brushed, trying best to keep skin even-toned and one tone or two the most, not going to three or more lol
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Just basic hygiene
Casual wardrobe technique
Minor glow up or so
These three simple things can help with anyone in looks and to seem attractive. If you’re healthy then it’s a plus, if not healthy- then getting health up to par is always a good idea.
THESE are just options (I never seen you before), and don’t wish for you to feel “changed” or not yourself. If you wish to embrace your authenticity then by everything in you DO SO and don’t give two shits what anyone says.
I said the girls could have a tweaked lens, if it’s also slightly possible you could have a tweaked perception of how you think OTHERS view you. It may just be thought up or so, or induced by your staring because you are getting nervous that they would be scared.
Avoid the self-fulfilling prophecy. 🙌💕💯
I don’t think men are scared. Men will attempt to fight someone double their size before they decide they should run lol
They are
Many guys literally USED to get either spooked & would divert their eyes fast & look away with a "GASP"
I would provoked by some from afar
Lol doesn’t seem like a guy thing to do. Maybe high school. Or I don't know middle school.
I feel like you’re a girl who made this up or a guy/girl who wants to be feared. I don’t buy 🤷♀️
It's happened which sometimes makes me 😂 or 😡 because I do make everyone feel uneasy or scared
I've ran into SOME college type girls who get prissy towards me on the spot (angry & rude)
You sound young. I think you want the attention. Either way it’s okay and I think you will be making good use of your time if you spend it with those who are understanding of you , and appreciate you. There’s no positive end result in this. Just- it will either continue or it will eventually die out
Be blunt though
You say that there will be no positive end result to this
What do you mean?
Well I have options to test out for improvements and I said you can also ignore their reactions altogether
And I know 100% I wouldn’t fear you if I saw you 😐😑😐😐🙌
Anyways people who feel fear of other people are just not in control of their lives enough.
Nor do they see people in the right lens.
People are so diverse and beautiful and we all gotta die sometime and prevention is better than cure.
They chose their reaction in the past- choose a response with self or choose how you will feel.
You have that choice.. 🙌
You're lowk key implying that people MIGHT be afraid of me because they find me unattractive
No I actually said that and I said that’s a possibility and also that it may not be that you’re ugly but that there is room for improvement in tidying up the general appearance.
What did you want for an answer?
Whether positively or negatively, I can see for sure you have glamorized this.
I "glamorized" it because my presence literally causes a lot of friction
Both genders were either very spooked of me & showed it through their body language
If body language is the biggest of your problems then I don't know what to tell you.
You cannot take offense to their own personalized reactions.
If you want, confront them. Ask them why they behaved like that 🤷♀️
You’re so observant to their body language; try taking note of the body language you put out as well 🤷♀️ 🙌😴
I don't think it's my body language because my caretaker who's my uncle (father's brother) resembles my facial features to some extent but he's 6'0/dark/dad bod with some muscle & he gets paraded around like some trophy by a lot of the same people who look down on me
I do take notice of their body language towards me & my uncle
You have no idea why they respect/admire him and cannot just base it on looks. I’m not even saying looks. Doesn’t matter color of hair or what- body *language* is an important factor
Ask your uncle why “so many people” “like him”
See what he says
Most people would disagree 😂
The same people who frown at me literally smile at him
Maybe it’s the character or attitude then. Especially if you both are identical twins essentially-
I did ask him about his social life & he stated that he had many girl "friends" that came to him at college chatting up with him & many guy friends as well
He's 6'0/dark/dad bod with some muscle
We share some facial similarities
You'd fancy him if you met him
I'm not a girl but they def see ugly guys as creeps. An attractive guy being mysterious is mysterious. An ugly guy being mysterious is creepy/weird. Everyone can be creepy though, the difference is tolerance. Just work on yourself bro✌️
It's odd because guys were also "afraid" of me as well
The only reason we would be scared of a guy is if it seems like he is going to put us in physical danger.
Had girls do this to me literally just me being in their presence because I'm just passing by or I live near them
Gasping/looking sideways for an "exit"/over blinking/heads lowered/frowning while lowered heads