She's done this a few times and I don't get why she does this, it's super annoying.
I was working this job. She was like "I want this job where I'm not working that much, that's flexible and I'm on the computer." Basically describing the exact same job I have.
So I offer her to work at my job. I go out on a limb for her asking my boss for her and getting info on when the next application will be posted. My boss literally put in a request to hire another person for my same position (even though he didn't need to) for my friend.
So my friend says she can't find the application online. I end up going on there and I find it easily and I text her the url link. And she literally doesn't click the link or fill it out until a few days later.
It's a great job so people already applied and the application disappeared. She texted me later saying, "The application is not working." I find out they already hired someone. I wonder why she waited so fuckin long.
There was another time where I had this part time job (a different job from the computer one). After two weeks of working this job my friend is like "I'm looking for a part-time job where I'm working 4 days of the week and preferably afternoon times." And I'm like wtf that's the exact same job I'm working. She acts really desperate like she really needs this job.
But I said to her I'm putting my name on the line for her. She has to be serious if I am going to ask my boss if they have any openings and mention her name. She was like, "Yes I'm very serious." So I go through all the work getting her the application and talking to my boss about her.
Then she doesn't do anything about. It was all a huge waste of time. I don't get why she does that. It seems like she likes what I have and she wants it. But then, she doesn't take it when I do share it with her, because I am someone who'll share things with no problem.
I just want to know why she puts me through this. I don't help her anymore though so don't worry.
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It's difficult to determine the exact motivations of your friend without more information, but it's possible that she may have been interested in the jobs you had because they fit her criteria and she thought they would be a good fit for her. However, it's also possible that she may not have been as serious about the jobs as she initially appeared, or that she may have been hesitant to follow through on the application process for some reason.
Regardless of the reason, it's important to set boundaries and communicate your expectations clearly with your friend. If you feel like she's taking advantage of your willingness to share information or resources, it's okay to say no and to prioritize your own needs and goals.
If you want to salvage the friendship, it may be worth having an open and honest conversation with your friend about how her behavior has made you feel and what your expectations are moving forward. However, it's also important to be prepared for the possibility that the friendship may not be salvageable if your friend is not willing to respect your boundaries and needs.