Why did we cry when we said goodbye?

[Anonymous]

I worked at a camp all summer and while there I met a guy who became my friend. I am interested in him and he knows that but right now we are both keeping it at just a friendship. Today was our counselor banquet. As it was ending he said "I have to drive to New York real early tomorrow I should go. But I'll be back to say goodbye. I'm going to see everyone first. You're last."

As soon as he walked over to the first person he started saying he was going to miss them and I started bawling. I wasn't sure why I cried and I didn't expect to, it just happened and I couldn't stop. When we finally said goodbye we hugged for a long time. He actually started crying while hugging me. He told me I was beautiful and that camp being over wasn't going to keep him from me.

Why did I see him saying bye and burst into tears? I couldn't control it. I NEVER cry in front of people but I couldn't resist. Does it mean anything that he cried, too?

[MrMysteryMan]

It was a very emotional situation all around and because of you two were close to one another and seem to have feelings for each other, especially when he said he'd say bye to you last, it sounded like it was even more so for the both of you. Leaving someone you care about is always sad so it's just emotions spilling over.

[thatkidfromcanadia]

yes, crying is an indicator of strong emotions and feelings. this guy obviously likes you and you mean something to him. you burst into tears because you'll miss him, and he means a lot to you as well. I know exactly how this dude feels. that's f***ing beautiful.

[Asker]

Yeah, I guess I should have rephrased the question as "why did HE cry". I know why I cried. I was just shocked I did. It happened without my control. I just know guys are almost programmed not to cry so when he did I wasn't sure if he was sad to not see me, or he cried because I cried or if there were real feelings there and he was interested in me.

[thatkidfromcanadia]

Guys are not programmed not to cry lol. It can however be argued that guys are more stoic and less likely to cry, which means you must have meant a lot to him if he cried over you. I believe there were real feelings there.

[naturaldisaster]

You spent the whole summer together and felt close with one another, of course you'll cry when its time to say goodbye. Everybody cries especially when its places like camp, I worked at a camp too long ago, but I didn't cry I cried cause Id miss the kids. You probably felt really close with this guy the most.

[udolipixie]

Because you two will miss each other especially considering it's unlikely you two will remain close.

[Anonymous]

Sure, you guys care about and will miss each other..?