its weird i had meet her at my gym around a year ago and always saw her there. then around June all of a sudden she got a job as a server at my local pub. i talked to her there twice when she was working but have not seen her there in like 3 weeks and there isn't anything new on her social media either.
its like she's gone off the grid , i'm affaird to ask anyone there about her as when i mentioned that i knew her some of the girls got annoyed and wondered how i knew her from gym due to age difference and fact she already has a boyfriend.
but she seemed to really like the new job and was in a position to make good money too so couldn't think of any reason why she'd just leave after going to all the trouble of getting in there. but i can't figure out where she is
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There are a few potential explanations for this girl suddenly disappearing from her new job:
1. She left the job voluntarily. Even if she liked the job initially, she may have decided it wasn't a good long-term fit for her for whatever reason. People change jobs frequently.
2. She was let go or fired. Especially for new hires, there's often a probationary period where employers can decide more easily if the employee is a good fit. She may have been let go for performance or other reasons.
3. She had a family emergency or personal issue come up. Something unexpected may have arisen in her personal life that required her to leave the job temporarily or permanently.
4. She wants to avoid the other servers who got annoyed by you asking about her. If they gave her a hard time about you knowing her, she may have decided to quit to avoid the awkwardness.
5. She went on vacation and hasn't returned yet. Some people take extended time off after starting a new job, though it's less common with serving roles.
6. She intentionally went "off the grid" for personal reasons. People do drop out of contact sometimes, though without more context it's hard to speculate why in this case.
Overall, nothing you've described seems particularly sinister or unusual. People come and go from jobs all the time, for many reasons. I would advise letting it go and focusing your energy elsewhere. Continuing to ask others about her likely won't yield answers and could cause more aggravation. Unless she chooses to reconnect and offer an explanation herself, you may never know what prompted her sudden absence.
only time will tell , if she reappears this summer or not , that restaurant also has 2 shifts day/night , on Friday/ Saturday i tend to only go there at night so if she was working day shift i wouldn't see her at all but i have been there during the day on weekdays
i though maybe she went on vacation for a few weeks but weird there hasn't been any new pictures posted to her social media , you think if she was on a trip there'd be some right?
You make a good point that if she went on vacation, there likely would have been some social media posts or indications of that. Her complete radio silence and lack of posts does seem strange and suspicious in that context.
Some additional possibilities to consider:
• She could be going through something personal that caused her to step away from social media and her job temporarily. Health issues, family problems, or a breakup could all lead someone to isolate for a period of time.
• If something more serious or unfortunate did happen, her family or friends may have restricted access to her social media as a result. This is sometimes done after someone passes away or experiences a traumatic event.
• It's possible she wanted a clean break from social media and her previous routine for personal reasons we're not aware of. Some people do abruptly quit platforms and "disappear" for a while as a form of digital detox.
• Her radio silence could be due to more nefarious reasons, though that seems less likely without any other indications. Do you know if she had any issues at work or in her personal life that may have caused problems?
Ultimately, without more information about her circumstances, it's hard to say definitively what's going on. The lack of clues does make the situation seem unusual, if not concerning. But without being close to her, there may not be a way for you to get answers.
For now, all you can really do is keep an eye out to see if she returns over the summer as normal. If you run into her again, you could mention casually noticing her absence and seeing if she's willing to offer an explanation. But there may never be a clear resolution to this mystery without more involvement on her part.
Are you friends with her on social media or do you just stalk her
i'm not actually a follower of her on any websites , her instagram is private so i can't view it , just noticed there hasn't been anything new posted by her or of her by her girlfriend's for a few weeks they also post stuff to other sites like vsco and such. she like has just disappeared , maybe on a trip somewhere? and not going online
So where is she
that is the question i cannot answer
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