We're a year in and she was thinking she doesn't see a future with me. Her family doesn't want to meet me, YET. I want marriage and kids down the line. She's in her younger twenties so she can't' even see that far yet.
But I think those things would just naturally happen the longer we stay together right? OVerall we do have love as a foundation for our relationship. We are VERY different in entertainment tastes and desire to learn new things and get out of the house. I like learning dancing, going to arcades, and on and on. She has a hard time wanting to get out of the house period unless it's spending money on restaurants which I think is frivolous and a waste of money.
I would like to make it work out because I love her, but she said love isn't enough. How could I turn this all around?
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If she doesn’t see a future with you, I don’t know if there’s much you can do. It’s most likely because of the age gap. She may still be too young to know what she wants , while you know exactly what you want. Maybe it’s not fair to you to stay in a relationship with someone who you’re so sure about and know exactly the future you want to have, while she’s not. Maybe give this a little bit of space for now.
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Do you feel like you can't find a woman that actually wants you and sees a future with you? I'm not understanding why you're trying to salvage a situation that is clearly one sided. Wake up man, she desont want you. Tough pill to swallow I'm sure, but embrace it. There are plenty of women out there that will value you, you don't owe a woman that desont want you anything. Move on.
The dating world is so hard I think it's VERY hard to find a woman in shape who wants the same things.
The problem though is that when you don't have many options as a man, you tend to put up with women that are clearly wasting your time.. Contrary to popular belief, most women are extremely manipulative, and just as many are heartless. And guess which men heartless and manipulative women tend to string along the most? Thats right, men with fewer options/the nice guys. Its really just supply and demand when you break the dynamic down. In other words when a man has fewer options, he's more likely to put up with women that dont love or reciprocate his energy.. he ends up miserable because of the neglect, and the irony is that it isn't even the woman thats making him miserable, its his fear of being alone.. So the first step in not being that simp that trash women use, abuse, and manipulate is becoming the kind of man that has options. First, Treat your body like the temple it is by working out regularly, meditating regularly, staying hydrated, eating healthy, finding your purpose and always be moving towards your goals in life. Next, finances equate to freedom, and no quality woman will get wet without feeling like youve got your finances in order. Next, learn how women operate. Look up Stirling Cooper on YouTube. He's got a great set of videos that will give you what you need to thrive as a man. In closing, high value men pick the women we want, rather than settling for the women we can get. Quality women want quality men. So if you're tired of dealing with trash women, then level up bro and your problems with women will soon become a thing of the past. I'm rooting for you.
You can't turn this around because it needs her to which she says she dont want too
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