So I've been casually sleeping with this girl for about 10 months now, we're not in a relationship tho she's asked if we could date a few times , I'm just working on myself. I went on business trip that was scheduled for 3 weeks, it's been about 2 months now longer than expected. She recently slept with someone else while I was not there , I was upset and in my upset shock I said she was really for the streets, she went silent a d he response were we're not in a relationship so what should it matter. I told her that I was just looking about for her so she doent get run through by a million guys and not know who the father of her child is and she should have better self control. I've been working here and haven't slept with anyone else I trusted her not too. She hasn't talked to me in the last 5 days. Was I wrong for saying that, I like her a lot I'm just not in the right mental state for a relationship rn, I'm working on myself but I don't want a relationship. This is the second guy she's slept with if she hasn't slept with anyone other than the guy she told me about. Maybe if I told her from the getgo I didn't want a relationship when she asked me out. I picked her Cherry 3 months into us hanging out and she asked if we could be in a relationship when I said no she said she didn't want one either. Wish I saw this sooner. I didn't mean anyharm just looking out for her.
Uh... yeah you weren't harsh, you were an asshole of the highest order. Dude, you are not 'looking out for her'! Spare us the bullshit. You are pissed because some other dude dipped into your free 🥧 pie. That's part of the sleazy friends with benefits/situationship/fuckbuddy landscape. You wanted it, deal with it.
If you need to 'work on yourself so much then you shouldn't be in ANY sort of relationship. She's following the game YOU set up and wanted, and now you're crying about it? You claimed that you 'like her a lot' but you really don't. You don't say things like that to women, especially women you like.
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Yes, you were. You did not agree sexual exclusivity with her and you did not even agree to be in a relationship with her.
It would be best to simply agree these things and not to leave them to interpretation. You could then expect her to be faithful to you and you should do the same.
Soooo if you don’t want a relationship, who are you to tell her who she can or can’t sleep with? She isn’t your property. And don’t expect anybody to wait around for you while you work on yourself. If you don’t want her sleeping with other men, be with her. If you choose to not do that, don’t get upset with what she’s doing.
Yes. It sounds like you were harsh because you realised that you’re in love with her and you don’t know how to handle it. Not that that excuses it. Unless you’re just seeking ways to manipulate her.
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