My personal life experiences, as well as conversations I’ve had with girlfriends lead me to believe that it’s mostly true.
I'd echo that it's not nice guys that finish last but ass-kissing doormats, weak guys, and antisocial guys who finish last.
However, let's take the extremely rare case of a genuinely altruistic guy who doesn't have weak submissive body language or use submissive words, is reasonably assertive, confident, well-liked socially, in reasonable shape, and employed.
If such a true saint of a guy motivated primarily by ethics is still getting friend-zoned left and right and getting responses like, "You're going to make a girl very lucky some day!" the last possible problem is that he doesn't value his own time.
When a person is too eager to so freely give away their time to others, the perceived value of his time plummets like hyper-inflated currency and it will be taken for granted even by decent people. It's the same way a person who flatters everyone all the time, no matter how sincere in admiration and lacking in ulterior motives, plummets the value of his compliments.
That doesn't require mind games to correct. All it requires is for him to start valuing his time and not be so eager to freely give it all away. That's generally required to maximize goodness anyway, in the same sense that a parent who tries to put an oxygen mask on their child in an airplane and passes out without putting the oxygen mask on themselves first actually puts the child at greater risk. A person who neglects their own needs and desires too much to sacrifice it on behalf of others actually isn't maximally capable of aiding others.
Such a realization and making the necessary correction can allow one so motivated to do good deeds purely for virtue to correct a lot of what causes others to take them for granted.
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No I wouldn't say that I would say doormats finish last also u would need to define what u mean by a nice guy as their are plenty of info showing how nice guys act when they dint get their own way
It might be true on dating apps or in one night stand scenarios where women are going after hot jerks rather than your average nice guy, but in terms of long term relationships women are mainly looking for stability, dependability and good character (which can include many traits such as respectfulness of boundaries, helpfulness, positive attitude, etc). That's who they want to raise children with, not mean jerks who belittle them or treat them like a second choice.
If a woman is consistently going after jerks, she might suffer from low self esteem or she might have been exposed to a violent environment in her youth.
Nice guys are denied to finish 😎😎
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meh... I'm gonna say maybe. I see nice guys do extremely well. Are they always getting the head cheerleader as girlfriend, winning the lottery, and such. nah. But they do very well. I'd put that behind you and just enjoy being you and make no apologies for it.
I think that the ideology nice guys finish last is somewhat false. Because every time I hear a guy say "Nice guys finish last" he's not a nice guy. To him his idea of a "nice guy" is warped. In his head, if he takes a girl on a date or pays for dinner, he should be able to have sex. With her because he's a "nice guy" and he did a good deed. Then when the girl refuses (if she has any respect for herself), he says "Ugh, all girls are the same, nice guys always finish last". But buddy you are not a nice guy you're a prick. Yes, paying for dinner or taking a girl out is chivalrous and appreciated but she doesn't owe you anything in return she's not a prostitute and you can't pay her or sway her with dates to get in her pants. But a date is at least some kind of effort there are "nice guys" out there who will buy a girl a drink at the club and get upset when she doesn't make out with them or go as far as hooking up with them. Sickening. Now for the actual nice guys that respect women, I think it depends on the girl. Some girls love to be in toxic situations and waste their time or get heartbroken repeatedly because he's good in bed or something. They love the hot and cold behavior and love chasing men, sad. While other girls love a sweet, kind man the "nice guy" who is pursuing them the proper way. So to my genuine nice guys go after girls who will value your time, and to my fake "nice guys" get a grip and stop acting entitled to sex because you took her out. This is probably why girls don't speak to you and why YOU finish last because women talk and if a guy acts like a prick they will tell other girls and warn them, so don't be surprised by the consequences of your actions. 😀
It is not a matter of being a nice guy per se, it is all about looks, smarts, wealth and overall attractiveness. Girls have always been attracted to movies. star QBs, and smart, athletic, wealthy, and very good looking. Because they have girls chashing, they don't have to cater to girls so they don't appear to be very nice.
Most nice guys are simps and at best average looking without much smarts or money. Because woman are not interested in a relationship, they will do anything to please women in an attempt to catch on.
Eh. People have this annoying tendency to conflate "nice guys" with "weak guys" and to conflate "jerks/assholes" with "strong guys." When it comes to being attractive to women, the most important distinction is between strong guys and weak guys. Weak guys are unattractive REGARDLESS of how "nice" they are. Within the pool of strong guys there are BOTH nice guys and assholes. Both can have success, but it will usually be the case that the nice guys do better over the long term than the assholes do. So in that sense, nice guys do NOT finish last. BUT that only applies to the strong ones.
It's true. Remember when Donald "Nice Guy" Trump finished last in 2020? He is still crying about that :(
I think it’s an oversimplification but essentially it should be summed up as “soft guys finish last”. What I mean, is nice guys - dudes who pour their heart into women they meet too early get taken advantage of. Men who are self -actualized and self-aware are less afraid to be alone and therefore establish healthy boundaries. They are less likely to tolerate toxic or selfish behavior from a woman for the mere privilege of being with a female. They have the confidence that says he can ditch her and replace her if need be. A softer man, la king the same confidence gets used and hurt more often, thereby “finishing last”
I can't speak to interpersonal relationships, but it's unfortunately very true in the business world in the US.
So many companies being run into the ground by Wolf of Wall Street wannabes abusing any and all power they can get their hands on to abuse the workers and siphon as much money for themselves as they can whilst leaving the rest of us as penniless as they can get away with. In the face of this you must be strong and stand up to them. I fear only a revolution will fix this problem.
Usually true. Women use them, dudes shit on them... and a woman will too as soon as she don't respect him. Doormats usually don't command respect.
Depends on how you look at it. I mean you could say that nice guys finish last. But if you realized how many bad women there are out there you'd realize you aren't finishing last. a lot of these women are actually doing you a favor. Being single is not finishing last. Sometimes it's actually winning the game. All this seems important at your age. But when you get a couple decades older you'll realize how many of these women do not care about ANYONE.
Just live life, enjoy it, and be a good person. And stop worrying so much about who you are or are not with. Just give those people in your life the attention the deserve.
Yes it is true.
However, what I think is nice guys are never in the race. They have no chance against men who are skilled as far as their behavior with people are concerned.
Nice guys are only nice, they are nice all the time, they are too sweet, too soft hearted and cannot take any tough decisions or do what is right.
Who wants to end up with a bad person?
A guy wants to end up with a nice girl
And vice versa. A girl wants to end up with a nice guy.
But they forget that they treated them shit and completely ignored them. BruhReal nice guys finish first. It's the fake "nice guys" who pretend being nice is why no one wants them that finish last. Just like men who pretend they are only being rejected for being short. Most real nice men are married young and stay married. I've know tons of them.
You ever heard of the Prisoner's Dilemma?
The long and the short of it is that while it would benefit everyone to be nice, it only takes one guy being an arsehole to ruin it for everyone... and then it is better to be an arsehole just to protect yourself. People can't be trusted not to be greedy, selfish, myopic cunts... and because of that, it is better to also be self-centred because you're just going to be exploited and screwed over if you try to play fair.Female feel truly satisfied late. She needs proper time to get raised also satisfied. Half satisfaction is even more worse so yes I agree on this. If someone could not go for longer I'll say they should do other things more and should start late so could finish at least together not before.
What's a nice guy anyway? If you mean a pushover who seeks to please out of vanity then obviously he'll finish last. If you mean a Godly Godfident man, assertive and sure of himself and nice in character and treatment of people he will not finish last
I use to believe that, until I got married 11 years ago. A lot of the time these "nice guys" are anything but, and I use to have a lot of resentment toward the opposite sex until I met someone who made me want to be a better man.
I don't really care if it's true or not. Considering many women think we guys finish too soon, there is nothing wrong, and a lot right, with finishing last.
Depends on what game you are playing. After 45 years in the business world I would say it is true; nice guys finish last. You need to have a killer instinct if you want to be the leader of the pack. Same in politics.
In love? I've had my share of experience in that and can tell you it is definitely NOT true. A little nice goes a long way with the ladies.
In the sense that guys without competence tend to resort to being "nice" to get included, yes.
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one of the nicest guys i know is one of the top guitar players in the world and he has a wonderful wife and family
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