So my friend “female” complains how she can’t find the right guy and how they are all awful and want only to hook up and nothing serious. But she only dates and pursue guys that instantly try only to hook up and she won’t be serious with anyone till they have sex…. but she wonders why after a month or two at max she is single again. when guys she seems to hit it off with and are good that take it slow or don’t have sex within a week they meet she starts looking and leaves them for the guys she complains about. while complaining about the other guy but mentioning, who actually seems like a great guy a majority of the time that would be a good match for her.
how do you tell your friend they have ether a poor taste in men or that her priorities aren’t right or that she is a hoe? Bc it’s extremely old to hear her going on with it or am I stuck having to hear this same thing over till who knows when
But I’m curious is this a more common occurrence with women as well that you have to sleep with someone as soon as possible like with a time limit? Like actually having sex not flirting or making out and such.
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Yo man, sounds like your friend has some learning to do when it comes to relationships. Instead of judging her, have a caring talk where you really listen.
First, affirm you want the best for her happiness. Then gently point out the pattern you've noticed - how she tends to rush into physical things, then gets hurt when guys just want that. Without accusing, ask if she's considered taking it slower to find an emotional connection first.
There's no need to label or insult her. She likely does this because past experiences have left her insecure. Show you believe people can change for the better.
Suggest focusing more on a guy's character - how he treats her and others - than just physical attraction. People with good hearts tend to want deeper bonds too.
Lastly, reassure her she deserves healthy love. With time and experience, she'll learn her worth and find a thoughtful partner. For now, just be a supportive friend who offers wise perspective, not criticism. I'm sure with care and patience, she'll come to see new healthy ways.
Good story dude.
The trolling isn't getting any more beleviable on here.
Sadly not trolling haha I’d personally stop affiliating with people like that but I can’t in this case, you probably understand your might be in her boat.