Im introverted and don’t talk much unless it’s necessary or I like someone. For some reason several people in my neighborhood and at my workplace keep tabs on me. People turn around to watch me walk and blatantly stare or go silent when they hear me talking to someone else, try to „accidentally“ bump into me to spy on me and watch me from behind drinking coffee.
Same thing with my neighbors in my dorm. Since im not particularly interested in them and also overheard one of them calling me a bitch to her friends (we never talked at all and she doesn’t know shit about me) and later complaining I don’t talk to them I don’t strike up conversations with them and keep to myself. Now they are being passive aggressive by walking to the kitchen when I’m there (even if it’s just 2 minutes) and pretend they are busy doing something there.
The girl living right next to me always opens her door when I’m taking on the phone to listen to my conversations. Also when I go downstairs to pick up a delivery she does the same until I come back. She and another neighbor also several times followed me around the neighborhood and smiled at me from afar.
Wtf is wrong with those people? Why do they expect me to go up to them and socialize when they themselves never tried to even say hello? Is it so hard to understand that not everyone fawns over them and wants to make their acquaintance. I can tell that we wouldn’t vibe so I don’t go out of my way trying to make friends, what is so wrong about that?
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You got two type of people here, I'm introvert just like you and again I've come to find you have two types of people.
Person one are people who worry about you, some people tend to worry about introverts because we're alone a lot. And being alone too much is bad for you, I know that but they tend to over worry about it.
Person two are people that do not understand introverts, they're extroverts and they think introverts are completely unsocial and unfriendly. When in reality we either just enjoy our alone time or can be a little shy. It's not that we don't like talking and hanging out. We're just more quiet and reserved when we don't know you, at least for some of us.
Yeah but following someone around is just next level creepy even if it was for good intentions. I mean the people going this never even tried talking to me, wouldn’t that be the first step?
I would say they definitely need to talk to you first. I would agree. But it depends on who's doing it to know if it's creepy, inappropriate or both.
Seriously? It’s just my neighbors and coworkers in my department I don’t really work with
Yea people you barley know it's weird but they may not mean anything bad by it. Especially if they're older sometimes older people tend to worry about younger people alone, even worse when you're a girl, they think they need to watch out for them. But they should actually talk to you I agree.
People at work oftentimes even act annoyed as if I have ever offended them when we never had any business taking to each other. It’s crazy
That is person two from my original post. They are just offended for no reason because they believe you're on friendly. Apparently some people, not all, believe if you're not overly social, you're unfriendly. I once had a guy ask my co-worker "what's wrong with your partner? He's got an attitude problem" because I wasn't really responding well besides saying yea and ok to him when he talked to me. I'm personally shy and I didn't know him so I just didn't get talkative I wasn't ignoring him or anything
Yeah I see. My coworkers are even 10 to 20 years older than me
Honestly I think they are just bored or unsatisfied with work and expect others to entertain them. They are so pathetic
I can see that, it's probably both to be honest.
I sincerely believe you are paranoid and need professional help. This is not an insult. It's a simple suggestion but therapists can be very helpful. God bless you sweetheart