I need help with my friendship/relationship problem. Can anybody help me?

[Anonymous]

Hey.
Long story short. I (m 25) have one friend (f older then me). I have been friends with her 4~ years. And I went to a concert with her. I was a photographer there. And when bands were changing. She did something weird. So I went and sit on a sofa and she sits on my lap facing me. I think she wanted to kiss me right there. And I said that, don't you want to sit better somehow. And then she sits normally on my lap and I was holding on to her/my but my arms around her. I mean, I like her. But because I don't have any other friends, that I hang out with. I didn't know what do to because I'm afraid of losing her as a friend if I read the signs wrong. And now i don't know what do to. Can anybody help me. Big thanks to the people that answer. And sorry for bad English, it's not my mother language.

[molonski2]

I think its pretty obvious bro , I don't think you have a problem as such , all I can say is , she has made things pretty obvious , act on it man.

[Avicenna]

Has she done anything else to make you think there is romantic interest? Do you want her to be your girlfriend?

[Asker]

I mean she has sent me a 2meaning texts. That are like little flirty. Like if i asked what she wanted for birthday. She said i was the gift and she didn't want anything else. I don't know if i want her as a girlfriend. Because I'm afraid losing her at all if it doesn't work out. Also because her parents are Russian and don't speaker my mother language at all. So they wouldn't like me. So answer is yes and no. If you know what i mean.

[Asker]

I mean her my language is super rusty so she might have made just mistake when saying stuff like that. But she has not done anything like that before (i mean physical touch thing).

[Avicenna]

Yeah, sounds like she likes you as more than a friend

[Asker]

Okay. I'm super thankful for your help. What do you think i should do now. I mean. Should i write to her in the morning? And what should i say. I made a text already. But i haven't sent it because it's late night at the moment. Here is a Google translate of the text:

hey, I don't know how to ask this... but I got the feeling at the concert that you expected more from our meeting than just friendship. But I didn't want to risk our friendship because you're important to me, and you're the only friend I really go out and do things with, and I'm afraid of losing that. I always enjoy your company and cherish our time together. So, the question is - is everything okay? I hope you're not angry with me if you expected something more, but I didn't answer with same? Sorry if this seems a little psycho🫣🫣🫣, but I'm a little worried. I hope you are not mad that I sent you such a letter.😅🫣🫣🫣

[Asker]

I wanna add that i asked her if she wants to come with me next time i go as a photographer on a consert. She said that she has to ask for free days from work, and she will let me know if she can come with me.

[Avicenna]

If you've been friends with her for four years, you can ask her where you stand with her. Let her do the explaining.

[Asker]

Thank you so much!!!

[Avicenna]

No problem!

[boobliker]

you may have missed your timings there boy, ask her on a date for coffee and cake, to see.

[Anonymous]

She made a move and you blew it.

[Asker]

Yeah. I know i blew it. The question was more like. What should i do now. I don't wanna lose her as a friend. And i think it was lose lose situation. If i had kissed her and later fucked it up somehow i would have lost her anyway. I just hope i didn't fuck it up like, that she doesn't want to hang out anymore. But thank you for your help.☺️

[Asker]

Also i just wanna add that she knows that i have difficulties with communication with people and she also knows that i have difficulties with physical touching. I don't know if it makes sense. So her sitting on my lap is special because i avoid touch. But i let her close to me.

[Anonymous]

This is a hard one 😞