Why am I mentally regressing?

[Christsdisciple15]

nowadays I’m thinking about my crush from like six years ago (in high school) all the time. And it wasn’t a serious thing but I’m fixated on him, like I’m “yearning” so to speak. I also suspect that I don’t actually miss him as a person but just the butterflies I felt for him during that time. And I think this is really pathetic since I’m 22 and to me it’s a sign of regression. I don’t know why I’m like this. I do not know if it has anything to do with the fact I am inexperienced/a late bloomer and that this boy was basically the only crush I’ve had as of yet.

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like you might be experiencing some feelings of uncertainty or longing for that "young love" experience since this was your main crush in high school. A few things that may be contributing:

- Feeling like you missed out on typical teenage dating/relationships can make those first crushes seem more significant in hindsight.

- Being a late bloomer can make you feel behind your peers who had more experience in high school. You may be romantizing past crushes to feel less "behind."

- Reflecting on simpler times during school when everyone was just figuring stuff out can feel comforting compared to adult pressures/expectations.

My advice would be try focusing on new experiences, not lingering in the past. Remind yourself you were just a kid back then and grew so much since. Maybe try putting yourself out there more to meet new people instead of fixating on someone from so long ago. You have your whole life ahead to create meaningful relationships, so don't dwell on feeling "behind" or like you regressed. This is normal to go through, so be kind to yourself and keep moving forward!

[Nikki1989]

Never drag the past along with you, life is too short. Find someone else and move forward.

[ravagesavage]

This is a quote you need to live by Asker. Get this into your head and give this woman MHO cuz this is all you need to know

[rachel776]

call him up