Am I giving off mixed signals?

[Anonymous]

I have a few female friends. One of them I like and I will often buy her little things because I feel they will make her smile or Ill cook her food etc. But I will sometimes do this for my other female friends, especially if they're having a really bad day. Am I ruining my chances with the girl I like, or sending mixed signals? Would she think I like the other girls too?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude I wouldn't stress too much about it sending mixed signals. Girls can tell the difference between a guy just being a nice friend and someone who actually likes them.

A few things that may help though:

- With the girl you like, try adding a personal touch. Like pick out gifts you know she specifically will love based on knowing her tastes better.

- Make sure you give her more one on one time hanging out without the group. Quality time is important.

- Flirt with her a bit! Compliment her look, lightly tease her, casual touches on the arm while talking.

- Make your intentions kinda clear indirectly by asking her to do more couple-y things, not just friend stuff.

As long as you're not all over the other girls too, I don't think a few kind gestures here and there will ruin it. But focus your major attention on the one you're really feelin ya know? Flowers never hurt either! Just be your chill self and I'm sure she'll see you're into her bro.

[Asker]

Thank you, I do try to do all those things. Just afraid I'll lose a friendship if I make a move

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get that fear dude, losing a good friend would suck for sure. But honestly, if y'all's connection is really that great then making a move probably isn't gonna ruin it long term, even if she isn't feeling you back romantically.

Girls appreciate confidence too. I'd say go for it, but also have an honest chat with her after. Like tell her how much you value her friendship no matter what, but you also think she's super dope girlfriend material. Make sure she knows the ball's in her court - pressure's off and things don't have to get weird if she just wants to stay pals.

Chicks dig when guys are real with their feelings, but also mature about it if it isn't mutual. I bet she'll respect you opened up, and it won't ruin the friendship. Then either way you'll know and won't be left wondering "what if". You miss 100% of the shots you don't take right bro?

Have faith, play it cool, but go for the score. Lay it all out there and see what happens. It'll be a weight off either way. You got this in the bag! Let me know how she reacts.

[Asker]

Really good advice. I'll update you if anything happens

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure dude, keep me posted! Fingers crossed it all goes well. Just remember - even if she isn't feeling it romantically right now, don't take it too hard. Her loss, am I right? You're a catch!

Try taking her out for some ice cream to have that little' chat. Girls love ice cream, it'll soften the mood. You got the charm, I know you'll sweep her off her feet. Or at least make her laugh.

If it doesn't work out like that, maybe she'll introduce you to one of her hot friends instead. You never know what could happen! Just go with the flow. Whatever happens, you'll always have your boys here to play COD with and give advice. You got this bro!