I told this guy coworker not to talk to me anymore now it’s very awkward between us like at work but he did a good job not saying a word today also?

[Anonymous]

Even tho he had a main job that required talking to me but somehow managed to not talk should I just apologize or let it go

[SallyTho87]

This is an area where professionalism and maturity are essential. You BOTH work at the same place, so leave this interpersonal conflict OUT of the workplace, as it will have an impact on both of your jobs and can possibly make the issues worse. You are in a workplace to WORK. You cannot expect someone to not speak to you, if you are both working in the same place and have a job that involves communication.

This entire situation sounds incredibly immature. Speak with this coworker and inform you want to keep a professional relationship while at work. You do not have any right to ignore this guy (which CAN absolutely be considered outcasting by HR) and put HIS job at risk simply because you have hurt feelings over a situation with him and asked him not to talk with you. That is unfair and quite ridiculous.

Keep the relationship professional. Communicate as needed. No need for this petty, immature stuff at the workplace.

[Asker]

Right but explain this to me this is all about of this right here It has a lot to do with him personally, like he will come in to work and try flirting with me and giving me attention and stuff yet I’ve told him many times about it and then he will go ahead and do the same with this other girl I told him I don’t want to be that one girl who you jump from one to another and try getting attention ( I’m here to work ) he comes up to me to confront that he is just a friendly guy and be “talks” to other girls too, yes he talks but don’t approach certain ones unless it’s like me the other girl etc and he was like I’m trying to be professional than wishes me a good day I told him not to speak to me again, okay yea my fault for saying that but than few days later I asked for an apology he didn’t accept it so few days later we had to work together and we had to talk he wouldn’t kept ignoring so I just asked for an apology again for saying what I said, he said we will see and anyways that same girl we had a conversation about he saw her standing not to far while I was asking about apology etc he comes up to her and starts to get her attention and there was a music and dancing beside her yet whay did he just say earlier that he is friendly and talks to everyone yet he goes and does that which I didn’t care but why say stuff and than do it later so like my question is what does he want from me trying to explain and stuff yet intentionally did that

[RebelinSteel]

Be an adult, talk it through with them.
why did you say not to talk to you?
Working with someone means you need to have a professional relationship even if you can’t stand each other.

this is one of reasons you avoid dating work colleagues, as if it does not work out, you can mess up working dynamics.

@SallyTho87 has it spot on.

[Asker]

He was a married guy coworker

[Asker]

We never even dated

[RebelinSteel]

In a working scenario you will end up working with complete fuckwits, people you could happily kill, however everyone has to grin and bear it, work professionally. If it’s bad then yeah look for another job.
If needs be have someone mediate between you both.

[Asker]

What you mean mediate

[Asker]

Just he doesn’t understand my friendliness towards him

[RebelinSteel]

Okay, if you have a disagreement with someone it can be hard finding mutual ground to talk. As in you both get angry etc
You get someone to sit in the conversation and keep the peace

[Asker]

He sometime takes it to far with being friendly

[RebelinSteel]

Then you need to talk about boundaries and respect.

[Asker]

So is if my fault for saying don’t talk to me again

[RebelinSteel]

You could have handled it a bit more diplomatically, not saying he’s not wrong but that’s between you both.
Talk it through with each other

[Asker]

We not talking anymore so it’s pointless now

[RebelinSteel]

Okay but try to be professional at work though

[Asker]

He does t talk to me period