Guy coworker who I talk to every day and greets me every morning didn’t tell me or show me photos of his baby that his wife had like helloo?

[Anonymous]

He was off for about one week and comes back greets me doesn’t say a word about the baby boy his wife had or even the photos even though he been showing to other coworkers until I addressed him than later he showed. I was a little upset tbh! Never mentions his wife to me either unless you bring it up and even than he true to avoid the conversation… yet always be asking me for gum or pen or we just be having random conversations yet I was thrown off by this, also earlier to add on his wife was selling food he told good few people didn’t say a word to me later I addressed him again he said thought you wouldn’t be interested anyways like helllo what’s wrong with him

[Anonymous]

You’re looking into this way too much. Why are you mad? Because he’s taken or because he didn’t tell you about his wife? He’s not obligated to tell you about his wife just like I don’t tell people about my wife or kids at home. I don’t need to. I’m not sure what you were expecting out of this.

[Asker]

Well the thing is you are definitely correct about that but we are very close and talk about everything yet he never shared photos of his baby and stuff but he showed and told to others like hello of course that would make me some what upset

[Opinion Owner]

Ok how long have you two been close as you say?

[Asker]

Ever since he started working here like 7 months

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. So yes I would think that he would tell you or show you at some point or another. If he wasn’t saying a thing about it to other co-workers I’d think nothing of it. But I kind of wonder if he likes you. Would you say you’re cute? Pretty?

[Asker]

Get told I’m pretty and cute but they might just be nice

[Asker]

Ohh no his married guy ouchhh

[Opinion Owner]

I’m thinking he likes you. A lot of men won’t say something to a girl they like about it because she may be a little stand offish. So she won’t act like she normally would if she thought he was single.

[Asker]

I clearly know his not single and married or he trying to make me forget his married

[Opinion Owner]

It could go either way. He may try to keep at you in hopes of something happening. I mean even though a lot of women know a man is taken, the more time she spends w him she may want more from him. It happens all the time.

[Asker]

And is it normal and why would he ask me 2nd time to do something for him like such as the other day if I can buy him chips and sprite if I’m going to gas station during lunch bc he knows I go there often why would he ask

[Opinion Owner]

Well maybe he knows you’re dependable. I have a wife as well as kids but I always go to one particular person at work because I like her attitude. She’s fun to be around, she helps me as much as I help her. If she goes to the store or to the vending machine she always ask if I want something just like I do the same for her.

[Asker]

Well that’s sweet

[Opinion Owner]

Do you like him as more than a friend

[Asker]

I just think his nice I don’t think more than that as i clearly know his taken and he was the one first to approach me

[Opinion Owner]

But if he wasn’t taken?

[Asker]

I don't know I’d have to think about that

[Asker]

Sometimes I wonder why he had to show up in my life bc clearly it was better without him lol. Now I’m sitting here want it or not thinking about him

[Opinion Owner]

Was it really better? How so? So it make me thinks of what I said earlier if he keeps talking to you, paying attention to you, are you going to develop feelings for him?

[Asker]

I think that’s clearly what he is trying to do I would believe slowly but surely

[Asker]

I don’t want and hope it don’t happens

[Asker]

Or I’m guessing maybe his trying to sleep with me, so his seeing how far will I
Go with him bc tbh he could of went and bought the chips himself the place is like 5 min away from work instead of asking me and he would have not died without the chips yet he had to personally ask me

[Opinion Owner]

He could have. But hell I don’t even want to go myself at times. I mean if you know someone is going it doesn’t hurt to ask. Maybe he was busy? To some people 5 minutes is a lot. It’s possible too he may just be trying to sleep w you. How does he treat you when it comes to other women?

[Asker]

What you mean how does he treat me when it comes to other women

[Opinion Owner]

Does he treat you better? Pay more attention to you? Do more things for you or things he wouldn’t do for other women?

[Asker]

Probably slightly more differently to me than to other woman

[Opinion Owner]

So chances are he likes you. But too if you’re a good friend who is always helping him or looking out for him at work he may reciprocate it by treating you better, doing more things for you, etc. All I know is if you’re cute than there’s definitely a chance he likes you as more than a friend

[Asker]

I don't know bro his a married dude with three kids like yuk

[Opinion Owner]

So you’ll have to limit your interactions w him. Otherwise he may get the wrong idea.

[Asker]

He is smart enough to not get the wrong idea and also when he asked me about the chips and drink I was like people are gonna think I like you he was like who cares what people think right? At least I don’t care what people think or say that’s coming from him

[Opinion Owner]

A lot of men are smart but smarts goes out the window when it comes to things king w the other head. And no that shouldn’t matter what people think. If that was the case then I’m having affairs w 5 different women here at work. Again it’s cause they treat me good. They help. They let me know things.

[Asker]

lol oh Jesus so does it sound like this guy is trying to have an affair or where is this in his opinion heading to

[Opinion Owner]

It could be. It could just be he likes the thought of having a cute girl in his life. Getting that attention w out actually having an affair. Maybe an emotional affair as women would call it

[Asker]

He has a beautiful wife matter of fact

[Asker]

So me bringing him food is technically giving him attention

[Opinion Owner]

Yes and no. I have a friend at work who loves to cook so she’s always excited to have me try it. But why do you bring him food?

[Asker]

He asks me to get him
Stuff

[Opinion Owner]

So do you do it because you like him as more than a friend or you’re just nice? I think you’d have to limit these types of things cause you may give him the wrong impression even if that’s not what you’re trying to do.

[Asker]

Right right

[Asker]

And he shouldn’t be asking

[Opinion Owner]

I mean he could ask but he shouldn’t do it as much as he does unless you two have a good working relationship. Like I said I work w one girl who we can ask each other whatever all the time. She may text me to ask if I’m bringing food or if I’d like to order something like we often do especially around payday. But for us there’s nothing wrong w that. I will get her a drink or something on the way to work cause I know what she likes. But in turn she will do the same for me for getting her something. It’s just a good work friendship that means nothing more.

[teamvic]

You're just looking too much into it. Remember guys don't operate the same as women. To you it might be rude, to him it's no big deal