My ex is my cowrorker. Is it wrong if I call her so? What are the chances she is into me as she behaves differently?

[Anonymous]

We both liked each other. But at different times. Thus we never were in a relation but always something going onn in the back of the mind. The way we parted were nasty. I was gaslighting and she got flings, was playing mind games. I couldn't comprehend she replaced me.

Anyways things aren't fine. We are colleagues. She has the whole office as her friends. Im sure no one should be trusted at work. Also a guy says she is his girlfriend but I often find him with other girls when she isn't around.

Plus we aren't comfortable with each other. She avoids me completely while the whole world is her friends. I am also slightly nervous and fidgety around her. The fact that she avoids make me feel uncomfortable. I also feel the tension when we sit next to each other even though she doesn't utter a word. That makes me more nervous. She used to be a very clingy girl and now seeing her too independent feels scary.

She doesn't share her food while distributing to others, when asked to pass something refuses, doesn't even offer to drop. Worst of all, she has a beautiful eyes and cutest smile for all including the cleaning staff and backstabbing managers but doesn't even smile at me.

Should I warn her of her boyfriend cheating? Im sure he is with her for her body.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I wouldn't get involved with your ex who's now a coworker. That whole situation sounds drama-filled and messy. You said yourself things ended nasty between you before.

It's probably best to just keep your distance from her at work. I know it's uncomfortable, but trying to stir things up more could really backfire. And I wouldn't get into warning her about her boyfriend cheating - that's between them and isn't your business.

As for whether she's still into you or not, it's hard to say based on what you described. She could just be trying to avoid any tension since you have a past. Or maybe she's moved on. But either way, pursuing something at work usually never ends well.

My advice would be to just focus on doing your job and keeping things professional. Stay polite but don't try to read into her actions or talk to her more than needed. Over time the awkwardness may ease up. But I wouldn't call her or bring up old relationship stuff - leave the past in the past, you know? Not worth the potential drama at your workplace.

[On_cloud_wine]

Why’d you break up?

[Asker]

We were never in a relation. When one liked, the other hated and vice versa.

[On_cloud_wine]

Funny how that happened

[On_cloud_wine]

And why’d you call her your “ex” if you were never in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

You should mind your own business.

[Inthelines]

I am against relationships outside of marriage.