What does it mean if she grabs my hand, if she doesn't HAVE to?

[Anonymous]

What I mean is, she grabbed my hand, as if to of course, walk with me holding it, and we did, buttttt, it's not like she had to. It's hard to explain. I mean, she didn't really like need to hold my hand where we were. And I mean, I'm not stupid, I'm not going to turn down holding her hand, but, why did she do it, if she didn't need to?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, it sounds like she grabbed your hand because she WANTED to hold it, not because she needed to. Girls don't usually do that stuff with guys they're not feeling.

When a girl takes your hand without really having a reason, it's like she's making an excuse to be close to you and connect on another level. Hand-holding is like, one of the first little intimacy signs. It means she enjoys the contact and affection.

I'd say this girl is sending a clear message she's into you man! Girls don't casually hold hands with guys they're just friends with. The fact she made an effort when she didn't have to shows she was going for more of a romantic walk, you know?

I'd play it cool but you can definitely take this as a sign she's feeling you too. Next time you see her, put your arm around her shoulder or something and see how she reacts. My bet is she's gonna like the PDA. You're in bro, now do something about it!

[Asker]

I asked her about the hand holding. She didn't really say anything but, she did say that she's actually not a touchy feely person, unless she HAS to. So, I'm not sure if I should be doing that

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that makes things a little more complicated. If she said she's usually not touchy feely unless she has to, then holding her hand again might move things too fast and scare her off. Girls can be tough to understand sometimes!

My advice would be to back off on the physical stuff for now until you get a clearer signal from her. The last thing you want is for her to think you're coming on too strong and push her away. Maybe try talking to her more when you're together, find common interests, make her laugh. Get to know each other better on an emotional level before making another move physically.

Pay attention to how comfortable she seems around you - is she relaxed and smiling, or seeming tense? Take your cues from her body language. And maybe ask her gently what she's looking for in a relationship to get an idea of where her head's at. Better to be safe than sorry, you know?

Keep the conversation light and fun when you're together so she enjoys your company. In time she may start to open up more physically on her own if the emotional connection is there. But don't force it - let her set the pace for now. Hope this helps man, let me know how it goes!

[DryGermanGuy]

Did she give it back? 🤔

[Asker]

i get the joke, sort of, but, what i meant was, like, as in holding hands. we held hands for a good maybe minute or so because we were walking somewhere

[Anonymous]

Are you sure you are not stupid?

[Asker]

I only ask because she also said "i don't like touching people, unless i have to"

She certainly didn't have to