I have a roommate who walks around naked and she complains that I have people over for rehearsal— which limits her ability to walk around naked?

[VIVANT]

She never consulted me about whether or not I was comfortable with it and I just let it go because you know it’s her her body, whatever. And technically, we’re not sharing the same living area.

I’ve cut off a large section of the apartment as my space and then I basically sublet the rest so if she never wanted to be in my space, she absolutely could accomplish that.

The way the apartment is laid out allows that. We have two different doors. There’s a hallway between our spaces. She doesn’t have to come to my space at all so who I have in my space does not affect her.

I’m not sure how to approach this because I mean, I would love it if she wasn’t walking around naked, but she can do what she wants in her area.

I’m not going to stop having people over especially as I had already discussed this before I had agreed to have anyone else living here,

thoughts?

Just tell her the compromise is she can do what she wants and you can do what you want, as long as you don’t do it in the other person space.

Tell her no one is forcing her to walk around naked and she could stop walking around naked for the three hours every few days that other people are scheduled to be there.

Stop holding rehearsals in your apartment so she can walk around naked comfortably. (( um no ))

OTHER

[Realistic07]

So I chose other; because realistically, when you have a roommate, you have to have a certain amount of discussion, and sometimes those discussions are not always the most comfortable thing in the world to have.


Now you have a right to your own space, and so does she. That said within that space people do have to be respectful of the public reality. if you see your roommate, always walking around naked it’s still wrong. It would be the same as her having the windows wide-open walking around naked in her home yet exposing the world to her. It would be considered a sex crime known as Exposure; because she is inherently, exposing herself. If you were to ask her not to, she would get very upset, but you would be in the legal right to do so.


Does that mean you should tell her how illegal it is, threatened to call the cops, threatened to do all these things? The answer is no because at the end of the day she is your roommate and to a certain degree you financially depend on her. I personally suggest just opening up communication a bit more.


I’m not saying you have to be best friends with her, or even good friends. That said having open discussion is important. Particularly discussion in the format of “ Hey, I understand you like to walk around Nude, and clearly you understand that I have guessed for the sake Rehearsing. I will try to give you more heads up when people are going to come in so that way, you don’t have to worry about the nudity thing and you can be informed prior. That said I have a life I need to live, And responsibilities I need to maintain and part of that is rehearsing with people”. Something along those lines anyways


When you’re done saying your peace immediately apologize. Remember, you’re not apologizing for anything you’ve done you’re just apologizing For the reality of the uncomfortable conversation, also maybe the lack of communication.


That said in this, I don’t blame either one of you. I understand, wanting absolute comfort in your home to the degree of wanting to walk around nude, but it’s also understandable if somebody is going to do so, and they live with other people that they have to keep them in mind.


So have that conversation, let her know that you’re not upset at her, and that all you want to do is just talk and figure out a better dynamic So you both can thrive. At the end of the day, that’s the real goal two people thriving in close spaces.


Well, that’s my opinion on it. Hopefully, it helps you in someway.

[VIVANT]

Actually, don’t exactly rely on her for rent. It’s more I had already agreed for her to live there. I mean the rent obviously is helpful cause I’m saving up, but if I needed to live alone, I could,

but I don’t really mind her being there because like I said everything separate there’s a hallway and a partition that totally separates the two living spaces. if I never wanted to run into her, I could work that out. I don’t have to go to that length , but I could if I needed to.

Good points! Thanks 😊

[Realistic07]

So here’s the real question is this sublet legal or did you just one day choose to sublet your apartment?

In addition, do you own your apartment as some people do in rare occasions or in major cities or do you simply rent?

Sorry, have to cover some bases for the sake of context.

[MisterWack]

Okay so, in her mind she is entitled to be nude for longer periods of time and your rehearsals are getting in the way of that…. She could be naked in her room or hang out at a friend’s place,

she knew the terms & conditions when she agreed to be your roommate and the fact you allow her to be naked when no one else is around that demonstrates you as a loose host, though as host you are able to set boundaries and this is a boundary worth setting: My rehearsals are important, either shape up or ship out. Simply put, stand your ground!

[MissTrix]

Congrats your rooming with a child! Being naked is her excuse to do what ever she wants to.

My sister was like that in highschool just a brat but she grew out of it after a good talking with.

Your roommate probably won't change if she is doing this at her age. So immature just start your own YouTube channel and start "filming your rehearsals" just say you don't care and "post some even with her naked in the back round.

[menina]

This is not an easy conversation. You could tell her that she can do whatever she wants as long as she doesn't get into your space.

I don't how come she has the nerve to complain if she's the one who walks around naked, not you!🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[lightbulb27]

it's her problem not yours.

[Zack-Bann]

Im kinda proud of how far you’ve come if this is the level of problems you now face in life


And obviously her airing out her nether regions shouldn’t come above your ability to have people over.


It’s common decency.
You can even ask that she doesn’t walk naked when you’re alone there but you let her anyway


That being said all you have to do is be clear with her that you will not stop having people over and wearing a shirt won’t kill her. But if she decides to put on a show in front relative strangers she’s welcome to do it.


All and all you’re keeping some interesting company

[VIVANT]

@Im kinda proud of how far you’ve come if this is the level of problems you now face in life

lol I laughed out loud here ☝🏽

Very sound answer per usual. You can be my honorary mediator 😌

[Zack-Bann]

Are you kidding? I’d be happy to represent you in open court if I have to ;)

[VIVANT]

😅😂 DEAL 🤝

Hmm think it doesn’t come to that, but if it does, I know who to call 👐🏽

[VIVANT]

😩

Typo ☝🏽

Hoping it does not come to that….

[TadCurious]

Since you said you'd already discussed this issue before all I can think of is to confront her about this. I guess it would be acceptable as long as she is never in view of your guests, but of course that is for you to decide.

[VIVANT]

Oh definitely there’s a cut off point and hallway that separates the living spaces and two separate doors.

[Deadpool99]

If I had a female roommate I wouldn’t wanna see her running around naked , she could go join the nudists if she wanted to do that.

[VIVANT]

Well I don’t need to bc of the way the apt is set up and I don’t really invite her in.

[Deadpool99]

Well that’s good

[roxy_362]

I tend towards the first option as it gives both of you the freedom to do what you want while not interfering with the other's space. The limitation of one's ability of not walking around naked is a hard premise to sell. If she can't walk naked on the street, I don't see why she expects to do that in your personal area.

[Finchie40]

Just be honest with her that she needs to respect your boundaries as well , and that she. needs to keep her ass on her side of the room if she wants to be naked all the time , make it clear to her that you don’t want to see her naked either so we either compromise or we will keep butting heads

[Lliam]

She's got a lot of gall complaining that you have people over to your place. It's you're place, too. She is subletting from you.

If she wants to traipse around naked, she she should stay in her own area if she doesn't want others to see her.

I voted to tell her no one is forcing her to walk around naked and she could stop walking around naked for the three hours every few days that other people are scheduled to be there.

[danielle872024]

I don’t parent grown ups but kids in room yes I do say watch your mouth around the children they hear and see everything. My husband friend she would talk about her bedroom action with other men and I have to get on her. Last time I asked her to leave when she kept on.

[danielle872024]

That response was for another question... sorry it pop on here.

[OlderAndWiser]

You should begin by describing the problem from your perspective, acknowledging that she undoubtedly has a different perspective, and then asking her if she has any thoughts about finding a solution to the problem.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

If she feels uncomfortable you can ask she is free to leave and sublet another person that is all!

Don't even explain its basic common sense she is miss usong the liberty given so yeah say bye bye to her

Of not try to take pictures of her naked either she will stop or leave haha re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Cutea]

Have a discussion with her and make comprise so both of you can benefit from it. Make a planning and tell her in advance when you need the place for you

[LukeAurelin]

Why does it hinders her to walk around naked it is still her body if she is comfortable before now she is comfortable now too if it makes her uncomfortable then have more people over it is a double win for u

[jjj101010]

Just tell her if she wants to walk round in the nude she is welcome to but u won’t be cancelling your friends visiting so if she doesn’t mind them seeing her then that fine, alternatively she can put some clothes on. I’m sure some of ur guy friends are keen to visit! Lol

[alice55]

She's in her house she's free to do what she want for your professional stuff just go somewhere more appropriate.

[FunkyMonkee]

Tell her to get dressed or come over to my place and she can walk around naked all she likes. There's no one here but me and bunnies. And they run around naked all the time!! Even out in public!

[Emmytexrex]

You have your space she gave has right do you she should do her but one thing she is not supposed to do is to complain about your business about you bringing people for rehearsal because you don't complain when she walks around naked

[Sevenpointfive]

maybe get some of your male friends to strip it off and start hanging out a little too close to her doorway? could be all she wants?

[Nikki1989]

Tell her to have some self-respect and put some clothes on.

[Alex-Snow]

Maybe try to communicate when you will have friends over. Do you ever walk around naked? Do either of you bring home guys and this has happened?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"She never consulted me"

That is my very short answer :)

[AviatorTom]

That's her problem, not yours. Let her deal with it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your roommate needs a dose of reality. When she has her own place she can be naked all she wants, but until then she should be respectful and compromise.

[Makeushiver]

I think I'd need to know what she looks like before passing judgment

[Kelly6]

@VIVANT first answer is better

[VIVANT]

Thanks Kelly!

[Kelly6]

@VIVANT
I used to have similar issue in college dorm too

[VIVANT]

Yes a dorm would be difficult and I probably would not be able to hold rehearsals bc it would Infringe on the others peace. I’m lucky in this predicament

[Kelly6]

@VIVANT
Yes you are

[DrPepper12]

Fuck that. Your place, your rules. She can bow to societal conventions a few hours a week

[jahaims]

You can take legal action depending on where you live. Say it's sexual harassment etc.

[Ad_Quid_Orator]

Just tell her not to come into the shared spaces when you have people over.

[Iron_Man]

Let her have her way let you and everybody else walk around naked with her lol 😂 Joke

[Juxtapose]

Just tell her when you are having company and don't leave it up for debate.

[TonyMetal___86]

I think B is good, this girl is dumb or a lesbian i think!

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'd talk to her about it and tell her how I feel. You never said anything so she probably thinks you're okay with it cause silence mean consent right

[dougeats]

Just tell her to carry on and walk around bare, may turn into a party

[RedInnocent69]

Oh, just let her. She’s an attention whore and likes it

[Pohjolan]

Ask her to wear nipple pasties and a loincloth as a compromise.

[Jerre]

I went with the first, for her to compromise

[strateguy632]

tell her it depends which places in home.

[Flower7]

You need a new place to live.

[Jennz6]

Is she a Nudist?

[Jamie05rhs]

Is she not behind a wall?

[Wise4myage]

I chose the first option.

[art84]

Why is walking she around naked?

[zagor]

Better plastic-wrap the common furniture...

[blackeagle007]

Tell her to wear clothes for once!

[TallAnon]

Crazy.. So is she cute? 😂🤣

[Jmmmfi4]

CAN I COME OVER?