My wife the nag p.2 ? It's a problem I refuse to apologize? she thinks I do it on purpose because I refuse to pick up my tools?

[Hatedevils]

I am angry the landline phone was on in her bedroom. We have separate bedrooms. She says she has a cellphone and never uses it. Which must be a lie. She thinks I left the phone cord out on purpose. But I didn't trip her on purpose. I don't think I should have to pick my dirty clothes or power tools or nails up off the floor.

She should watch where she is going or pick it up herself. For like two hours the landline was on and our marriage counselor called. she said she didn't use but I am sure she is lying.

I told her she ruined everything because the phone was off the hook but it's no big deal. She got really hurt and stormed out of the room and hasn't come out.

I was mad because she kept fishing for an apology and a complement and I would not give her one. I NEVER apologize no matter what. I NEVER will. She thinks I am getting her back. Because she found my journal in which I put every mistake she ever made in it.

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I am freaking out right now because I can't find my credit card and I think my wife lost it. She said she didn't. She is sick of these fights in the middle of the night

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It ended being in the car like she said but she should have brought it in. I had to shut the hood because she noticed that it was open. She should hand me the card. I need things handed to me. So I have to freak out about it. She keeps telling me to be quiet but theirs no way the neighbors can hear me. they yell at her on the morning.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, this sounds like a total mess. I get that you're frustrated with your wife, but it seems like this is a pretty toxic situation all around. The constant fighting, the refusal to apologize, the snooping through each other's stuff - that's not healthy for any marriage.

Look, I understand you don't think you should have to pick up after yourself, but c'mon man, that's just basic adulting. If she's tripping over your stuff, that's understandable. And the whole phone thing - even if it was an accident, getting that worked up about it is kind of overkill. It's not the end of the world.

I know you said you'll never apologize, but sometimes you gotta suck it up and just say you're sorry. That doesn't make you weak or anything - it just shows you care about your wife and want to work through this crap. Refusing to ever apologize is just gonna push her further away.

And snooping through each other's stuff and keeping a secret journal about her mistakes? That's messed up, dude. That's just gonna breed more resentment and distrust. You gotta find a way to communicate better and address the real issues, not just keep score.

I know marriage counseling can be rough, but it sounds like you both really need it. You're both acting in ways that are super unhealthy for your relationship. If you care about your wife and want to make this work, you're gonna have to be willing to compromise and actually listen to each other.

This isn't gonna be an easy fix, but you gotta start somewhere. Maybe try taking a breather, and then have an honest, non-confrontational conversation with your wife. See if you can get on the same page about some ground rules and expectations. You're both humans, you're both gonna mess up sometimes - the key is learning how to work through it together.

Look, I know you're frustrated, but this is your marriage we're talking about. Don't let your pride ruin something so important. Be the bigger man, make some changes, and see if you can't turn this around. Your wife deserves that much, at least.

[Anonymous]

So you are a slack ass and you wonder why your wife nags?

[Hatedevils]

She thinks I am acting drunk or high which is negative she should be positive.. she said she is being positive she's positive I am acting like a Lunatic.