Women, I really need your honest perspective: why do you give your number, text a little, and then ghost? (Real detailed examples inside)?

[FredJames]

I’m asking because this keeps happening with different women—5 or 6 times now—and I honestly don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m not here to bash anyone; I just want real answers from women to understand why this keeps happening.

Girl #1 – Target parking lot: I helped her with her bags, we talked, and she gave me her number. I texted the next day, she replied once, and then stopped.

Girl #2 – Mall: We had a great convo, she said she was single, gave me her number, and replied once saying she was tired. The next day I got no response, and when I followed up, she asked, “Who’s this?” then blocked me.

Girl #3 – Bus stop: We texted and even exchanged pictures, then suddenly she stopped replying.

Girl #4 – In a store: She was playful and laughing, I sent movie times to plan something, and then silence.

Girl #5 – Target (cruise girl): She texted quickly at first, even sent pics, but replies got dry. I double-texted a few times trying to keep the convo going, but she eventually stopped responding.

Girl #6 – Train: We made eye contact, talked, and she gave me her number. We texted, swapped pics, and then she went silent too.

Because this kept happening, I tried an experiment. I used a text-free number to message some of them just to see if I was blocked. Strangely, the Target, Bus stop, and Cruise girls all replied more to the fake number—sending pics and sounding more interested. I didn’t do it to catfish anyone; I just wanted to know if they were ignoring me personally.

So I really need women’s insight:

1. Why give your number, reply once or twice, then ghost?

2. Do women change their mind after giving a number?

3. Could replying faster make me seem too eager?

4. Do most prefer giving Instagram instead?

5. Could texting kill the in-person vibe?

6. Is asking “Do you have a boyfriend?” too much pressure?

7. Am I overthinking normal rejection?

I’m not mad, just genuinely trying to learn what I’m missing.

[SueShe]

There is one simple solution to your issue with receiving phone numbers and texting.

Next time someone wants to give you her phone number, simply state that you don't want it and that you are not interested in having it. That should solve your problem once and for all.

The only problem is that you want those numbers because you think that there might be something more than just a number and that you could have a chance to get into her pants.

If you cut out the problem before it happens, you will never get ghosted by those girls but my fear is that you are not going to take that step because you secretly hope for something more.

[Nikki1989]

I don't know anyone who does that, so I can't help you there. However, I don't waste my time on texting, and I would never randomly give my number out to anyone.

[Anonymous]

I'm trying not to die
That or I realized I don't want you or anybody right now goodbye (ghost form)

[chenyu]

I feel like a lot of people here are like you said - talking like robots. Some reply once a day, others take hours to reply.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe you just suck at conversations I don't know