Can’t a person change their mind or have a backup plan?

[MusicTokuXX]

If someone asked you for a favor but also asked someone else just in case, isn’t that normal? Can’t a person change their minds? You don’t have a backup plan?

Like someone is upset because I found someone else to do a favor i asked of him! I changed my mine then he got upset that i did like i was gonna just let him do it.

Favors have backup plans in case one person can’t come through! Isn’t that how it works?

[HollyK21]

I don’t understand this logic. Why be friends with unreliable people? Why ask a favor if you don’t trust that the person will come through? It sounds like this friend was prepared to do whatever it was you’d asked of him, so to cancel it for no reason doesn’t make any sense. Yes you’re allowed to change your mind but in doing so you aren’t being mindful of people’s time. When someone asks me a favor, it usually involves moving my schedule around somehow to accommodate it, so for them to cancel and be like “nevermind I found someone else”, it’s just inconsiderate and pretty rude. If I agreed to it I don't know why you’d ask someone else.

[MusicTokuXX]

I mean sometimes plans change. You need to have a backup plan in case one person cannot come through! I don’t know why no one can understand this!

[HollyK21]

Yes things change, but that wasn’t the case here. You asked your friend and they agreed. Asking several people to do the same thing is not “a backup plan”, it’s you being inconsiderate. @Abbycado how do you feel about this logic? Would you agree with this guy that it’s ok to ask more than one person to do the same favor and cancel on one person for literally no reason?

[Abbycado]

I agree that people make plans. Plans change. The person is not a bad person just because they chose something different. Literally just happened to me over break. Not going to cry like a little bitch about it.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yeah, you can do that but it can also be hurtful to accept a favor, be ready to do it, and then have that same person say “Nah, that’s okay, I got Brian to do it instead.” When you ask for favors or help, unless you communicate otherwise, that person assumes they’re the only one helping you. In the case of your upset friend, it sounds like he took your changing mind as a sign of belief that he is incapable of doing what you asked, which can be very insulting.