Should I escalate?

[Anonymous]

A female co-worker with a boyfriend has been showing interest in me lately. She wants to be near me, does all the flirty acts and even pressed her boobs against my body for quite an extended period when standing next to me while talking and staring intensely in my eyes, touching me as well. She is struggling with her feelings becuz sometimes she tries to distance herself probably becuz of feeling guilty towards her boyfriend. I know for sure she has feelings for me and the feelings are mutual. I tried to suppress them becuz of her having a boyfriend, but I cannot and will not deny those feelings any more. Should I escalate or does she have to becuz she has a boyfriend?

[SueShe]

No, you should certainly not escalate anything and your best and only option is to tell her to keep her distance.

You don't want to be seen as a home wrecker, do you?

Keep your testosterone under control and be a gentleman even if she does give you unmistakable signals. Furthermore, you never ever start anything with a co-worker. That causes way too many issues at work, such as jealousy or favored treatment mainly if the one or the other party is hierarchically higher placed than the other.

Furthermore, your employer pays you to work and not to flirt with co-workers and you should keep this in mind.

[Asker]

Hierarchy is not an issue here and there are relationships between other co-workers, no problem there as well.
I would not be the homewrecker. If she were to decide to break up with her boyfriend, there is no problem.
I think I should escalate to see if we have a future, if not, then I will know where I stand. Life is too short not to try. On the other hand, it is up to her to decide, so you're probably right that I should not escalate. I will nevertheless keep on making clear I really want to be with her. Thanks for your answer.

[dudeinohio]

Honor her relationship and stay distant.

[Asker]

I don't see why. She started making clear she likes me a lot even though she has a boyfriend. It is up to her to make up her mind, not me. I won't escalate though, but I will keep making clear I really like her. Thanks for your answer.