I’m autistic and barely have any friends or guys to hook up with because they don’t want to get with someone with a disability. What do they think it is and why doesn’t anyone understand it and reject girls because they are autistic? Why don’t they understand they are like everyone else?
I feel bad because of every thing you just said. I feel bad because it not only true but goes deeper than that.
You have been labeled all your life you know that label means something to people when they hear it.. and most people would hold on to that tight and give i. To it. But that's not you you are even stronger than normal people , whatever normal is or what that even means , I have no clue.
All you know is that you are a girl. You have feelings, you have emotions, you have love. You have anger , you have everything that every other girl has
ExcepT you were given something more. That is a title
A word and when people hear that word , they treat you different , because they don't understand it they don't know what it means. They don't know how they're supposed to act.\Or who to be around you
And that makes you man , because now you have to fight with two different things , instead of just one
Because the one you don't even fight with it until somebody treats you. The way that they do you have accepted you deal with it? And you're beyond it , and you are beyond that
And it's like people keep trying to bring you back there and you've had enough of it.
I don't know if how I see it and how I feel about it is true, but that's the energy that I get from you.
Well there is more to my answer but I got a phone call and in that 15 min i lost my train of thought on what I was trying to say.
But I knew it had something to do with don't tell anybody that you have autism just be you, because in all reality you're a genius. I know that you probably won't accept that that's probably because you've been programmed that way. But you can telepathically talk, you just don't know it yet. Probably maybe you do , but there's way more to you than just normal people , whatever that normal means
People are missing out on getting to know you. Because I guarantee i hate using the word better, but in so many different ways you are better than normal people. There's a depth to you that is a beautiful depth
And\n There's so much knowledge to learn from you. It's unreal I wish I wouldn't have got that phone call. So I could remember what your question was about? All I know is this was the direction that I was probably headed. So if my answer sounds weird, it's because I lost the connection between your question and what my answer was going to be.
According to your description, it seems like you're extending the range of autism towards hooking up instead of focusing on actual issues like getting a job not based on preexisting conditions.
How? I have a job
Really? You don’t think I am autistic? How come?
I really am a girl and I was diagnosed autistic
I think it’s possible…without knowing your history, that you’re either struggling a bit more with Autism than some others with the condition and need to meet someone more your own age or level of Autism, or you might appear to place too much importance on having Autism.
I’m mildly Autistic myself, diagnosed late and I see lots of people expecting special treatment because of their diagnosis and using it as an excuse to mistreat others or be obnoxious. Women seem particularly good at this. Although obviously there are some very lovely Autistic women out there, too. I know many very good people.
I also was recently out with my date who’s also mildly autistic and observed that a more severely autistic woman with different support needs keeps hitting on him. She’s both too young and her support needs are too high for him. I see this frequently, too and have experienced young men with higher support needs that need someone they can relate to, with similar support needs, to date. Of a similar age.
That is not even...
Okay I will give it a shot.
How did you reach the conclusion that they rejected you solely based on the fact that you are autistic?
Also I don't understand how you expect people to accept you without even considering the possibility that there might be something else that makes those people keep their distance.
There is a huge possiblity that them keeping their distance and/or rejecting you, might be completely unrelated to the fact that you are autistic.
Really? What can it be besides my autism?
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In this world some people tend to fear what they don’t know & in this world what some people don’t know they tend to make fun of as well. In this world some people are missing arms & in this world some people are missing legs. In this world some people can’t see & in this world some people can’t hear. In this world some people have friends & in this world some people don’t have any friends at all or have very few.
As for autism a lot of people don’t understand it & it’s not highly understood around the world yet & maybe one day it will be. As for autism some people are calling it an epidemic & in this last two decades it has exploded. In some areas 1 in 31 people will be diagnosed with autism & in some areas the numbers are even higher & we still don’t know why.
In this world all of us are different in our own ways & as for me I’m proud to say I’m not normal & with all honesty I wouldn’t want to be.
Live your life my friend.
I don't think I've ever heard of anyone rejecting a girl with autism. If anything, seems like there are many guys who embrace them because they have autism too.
I do admit that I've struggled to understand just exactly what autism is. I know it's a neuro disorder or something like that? But yes, I do not fully understand it although I'm not insensitive about it with people who have it. I do think many are being misdiagnosed for that and ADHD, because I've met people who I did not at all suspect were autistic until they said it. They seemed normal to me.
I think many/most persons have some basic understanding of Autism, and I personally know of a young man I knew in Ohio who was Autistic. We went to Canada, for vacation and he wanted to accompany us. While traveling and when in Canada he insisted we go back home' because he had a 'nice girl waiting for him. We of course could not take our entire group back home because he wanted to return. It was sad but not much we could do, under those circumstances. Back home a young woman counselor was working with him after that.
I'm not sure many understand the different degrees of Autism there are. Many are fully functional, and some are not
My brother graduated from High School, and was advised to go no further, He overcame dyslexia on his own and earned a junior college degree in engineering. He pulled a 4.0 GPA. Later in his life he designed systems for NASA. He is a real Shelton Cooper. He has a big problem with religion. It does not add up. .
One of my son's is clinically diagnosed and verbally autististic... level 5, the highest. He is better at math than I will ever be and I hold degrees in Accounting. Science degrees on money math. But he can't communicate or talk right. I was changing diapers until he was like 9 years old. What do you want me to understand about it?
You're coming at this like a know-it-all... but autism is a blanket diagnosis for all kinds of shit. If you replace the word "Autism" with "Retard" it makes sense even though it sounds harsh. My son is verbally retarded... I can deal with that. A typical mute. But at this point in time... autistic... why? because you people have a hard time calling people retards.
@master_debator
Since when are there 5 levels of Autism?
@MysteriousDarkness Ask a Doctor or some shit... I don't make up their rules.
Doctors are fucking retarded these days because of DEI
@MikeMcMansion I agree. I watched them write the symptoms down and then hop right onto WebMD just like any of us can do... I guess all the schooling is more about making an educated guess quicker... kind of like my job in the military except I managed Personnel (human resources) and their pay. My "skill" was just figuring out why their pay was messed up quicker that anyone else.
I also think that in a lot of cases their Hippocratic Oath has also been soiled by greed... due to pharmaceutical industries. I've seen them perscribe drugs that's going to do even more damage long term, and skip things like diet and exerscise E. g., Bood pressure medicine, that gives ED, and then perscibes dick hard pills to them as well, or, like when the COVID shots suddenly were not for the vulnerable, it became "Take this shit or you're fired from your job and can't fly."
Nihilism is high among the younger MDs. The hippocratic oath may as well be a historical side note with things like unnecessary cosmetic surgeries, sex change operations, abortions, over prescribed meds or unnecessary vaccinations, mis diagnosis, and the list goes on and on. It seems many doctors are actually “autistic”. The VA picks up a lot of those. This might be funny I was told I was wasting tax payer money for asking for testosterone levels to be checked and my other PC docs were just pandering to me. Im a combat wounded vet, wtf? Oh well I guess I’ll just get private insurance then.
It was a 25-35 yr old PC Doc that told me this, she was possibly autistic or political. Soon they’ll be calling vets asking if they want them to assist them in suicide.
@MikeMcMansion I can't stand the VA... but much like any socialist program, it's going to suck. I'd rather them give me the money for healthcare and allow me to seek out private healthcare for better service. Right now because my wife is still in, I use the dependent side of healthcare where I can kind of do do that.. but besides the free medications in exchange for the super long lines, I don't like dealing with any medical on base.
I remember I went there early af, like 3am because I was shitting myself... it took them until like midnight just to tell me it was some bad food (viral infection)... or another time, I did some fucking where my dick got rubbed raw... first doctor was civilian, had me tested, and told me it might be this STD or that, but it's definitely not herpes (because that's what I thought it was). Wife talks me into going on base for a second opinion, it was still painful, they diagnosed me with herpes and even gave me meds that I'm supposed to take everyday for the rest of my life I get the first doctors lab results back... I'm clean, so I go to a 3rd... clean. That was like 7 years ago and I've been getting tested... clean. But now anytime I go on base for something..."You know you got herpes right?" lolz. The won't take it out of my DEERS bullshit or re-test themselves. Obviously I never took the bullshit meds after like the first week... supposed to be breaking out at leat once every 3 months... never gonna happen unless I get it for reals later on.
I'm not looking forward to actually having to go to the VA once I'm no longer a dependent. My friends that do have to, they tell me it's absolute shit.
@master_debator
I have done a lot of research on it and was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome before it became a prt of the Autism spectrum and still couldn't find anwhere it says 5 levels
@MysteriousDarkness You think it's military specific? That's all I can think of for why you're not finding it. I mean Yokosuka naval base in Japan, Bremerton Washington later on, and then San Diego California... we skipped it when in Rhode Island. All military bases and they did the anylisis.
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I think you replied to the wrong thing
Guys care about looks more. The only exception would be if you have a high status job, you are in a wealthy environment/circle, and you are conventionally attractive + fit.
The combination of those factors alone would intimidate the vast majority of available men your age that you would consider dating. Most men just care about a woman’s looks first and her dating history/body count 2nd (which is usually inextricably tandem to negative or off putting personality traits). Now when we plug in your quirky personality, in your higher level of looks and class, this is where your benign but unique personality would negatively impact your options on the dating realm.
You are asking the right question. When I was a kid, "autism," "ADHD" and all these ridiculous labels weren't a thing. Every child has their own quirks and unique personalities. That isn't some kind of brilliant revelation, it's perfectly normal. But now they have to call them something fancy so the medical profession has something to make money on.
You are fine. You can thank the medical profession and those who seek to put labels on people like you for being singled out as some kind of abnormal human being.
You are NOT abnormal. You are perfectly fine and exactly as you said, just like everybody else.
The only ones who are abnormal are the so-called "professionals" who hung that label on you and caused you so much stress and loneliness. You are not the one who should feel ashamed... THEY ARE!
Hold your head high! You are just as good as anyone else and probably a lot better than most!
Because most people who say they're autistic aren't. What they really mean is they're lazy and selfish and don't want to learn how to socialize. Instead they narcissistically expect someone else to shoulder all that burden. I would NEVER knowingly date someone who claims to be autistic.
If you're autistic why not create your own little group. You could create a dating app for autistic people.👍
Yeah why are people rude to them? Because no one likes someone who is disabled?
Well whether they're disabled is very debatable for one. But even if they are there was a time in this country where someone wouldn't want to labeled disabled. Not saying there's anything wrong with it if they are. But any normally person wouldn't want to be anything other than able.
Yeah why are some people rude to autistic and intellectually disabled people and want nothing to do with them?
There’s a number of reasons people don’t understand it. Maybe they just don’t care. Maybe there’s too many things in this world to try to understand. I’m sure there’s a lot of sickness, illnesses that you don’t understand. But I’m not going to blame you for not understand them. I mean honestly if you weren’t autistic would you even understand it? Probably not because you wouldn’t have to deal w that in your life. Just because they don’t understand it doesn’t mean there’s nothing wrong w them.
It is deeply frustrating to feel rejected for a part of who you are, especially when you know you have the same capacity for connection as anyone else.
There is a pervasive, false belief that autistic people don't want or need romantic and social connections. Many people reject what they don't understand.
Autistic women often face higher pressure to fit in socially. When they don't meet traditional expectations for smooth social interaction, they may be judged more harshly than autistic men.
Good luck.
It's because normies are bad, evil plebians who belong in our fields tilling the land & staying out of our sights. Normies who speak up against their autistic overlords used to get lashed.
Now they've taken over with their democracies & shit & they get to decide what to do with us. So they defined our noble ways of thinking as a "disorder", another way of lumping people into a category for the way they think because they don't conform to the low standards of the modern gene pool.
Autism is actually a bonus for me cause if I had children with autism the I'd be contributing more autists to the world. Both of my parents were/are autistic so imagine how autistic they'd be. Id have successfully recreated the neanderthals
Being autistic means someone lacks social skills and empathy. I'm not saying they don't have any, but depending on what degree they are on the spectrum it gets less and less.
And a lack of social skills and empathy unfortunately makes it harder to connect with others.
Understanding Autism is a low priority for the vast majority of people. Most people have their own problems and are wrapped up in their own lives and it would probably never occur to learn about something like that if it didn’t affect them or cross their path. I’m sure this is not specific to girls as people tend to stigmatize or avoid anything that seems outside of the norm. I wouldn’t take it personally as this is just the way people are.
Because not all of y'all are high functioning, and not everyone has the time or understanding to try and grasp that spectrum or even one person's quirks. You need to get with neurodivergents so you can be around those who understand what it's like to be different and generally tend to care more
I have Aspergers which is a form of autism and unfortunately people dont understand us because we function different from them.
one thing I had to learn the hard way is not to take it personal. by taking it personal we are just harming are emotional health even further
Yeah true why do they block me?
I need to see what exactly did you send them to have an idea as to why they took those action
Follow me back and message me
You're speaking my language, I'm a Cystic Fibrosis patient who never told anyone in school cause whenever I tried, they forgot about it and went back to getting annoyed by my mere presence alone.
Makes you feel better, I'd date a girl with autism over any popular girl I ever met
I come from a family ripe with autism. ADHD, Asperger's, Dyslexia, OCD. Any one who is different is shunned. No one wants to understand autism and with the current administration's view of the subject it's not likely that we will for a while.
Yeah why doesn’t anyone want to understand autism?
Think about your time in High School. Everyone was struggling to fit. You had to buy the right clothes. You speech patterns would alter so you could be Cool, It is even worse now due to cell phones and the internet. Autistic people learn early that they have to be independent. That most people are going to avoid contact rather than be inclusive. Peer pressure.
In my opinion it is a function of urbanization. Not as strong in rural areas.
Because they don't care about other people,,,
Most don't understand because they can't be bothered to learn,,,
They expect us to fit in with them, but make no effort to fit in with us,,,
That is way wrong. People with autism expend huge time and effort learning how to socialize when people like you know from instinct. And we are the ones expected to "fit in".
@AngryCarl3 Hi! I'm on the autistic spectrum myself, so I agree with you 100%!!!
@fivebyfour Oh, right! I completely misinterpreted your comment.
@AngryCarl3 hey no probs, I should have mentioned it in my post,
We aren't like everyone else. If we're high functioning they don't even know that we have it, they just know something is slightly off. Unlike other disabilities the ranges of Autism can be form someone who looks disabled (like people with Down's Syndrome) to someone who looks normal (like most people on Love On The Spectrum). Also, we're as different as neurotypical people are, in terms of what we like and do.
The problem with autism and socialization is that people who have autism are generally unable to socialize or interact with others appropriately. That, in many ways, is one of the major diagnostic criteria for autism. This makes other people extremely uncomfortable, and so it is not surprising that autistic people have difficulty making friends and keeping friends.
maybe because, these days, it's thrown around like it's some sort of trophy! 25 years ago, hardly anybody had it! Now, EVERYONE'S got it and, if you don't, you're just not keeping up with the Joneses!!
At your age, you are not a girl, you are a woman.
It seems like you don't care if someone understands you or not. You just want sex! Period. That's not normal!
a reminder of what im a broken record on, that is, men on the autism spectrum, have a high rate of reaching later 20s or 30 plus and older and still virgins and never dated or they don't get into their first relationship, have sex, until that age range.
People are sick to death of hearing about it.
I’m willing to bet the autism doesn’t have as much to do with it as you think
Really? What does it have to do with?
More to do with how you present yourself to others rather than just being autistic
Like how?
I don’t know, you could come on too strong, or not strong enough, you might infodump more than you mean to, or you might just say things that might not make sense to the rest of the room because they can’t follow your line of logic
Well that sucks.. It's because they fear what they don't understand.. And for the record, my wife is autistic, she was diagnosed at 13 with asperger's syndrome. I made it a point to understand her.
What do you want them to understand about you?
That I am smart
You like everyone else? doesn't you different? I don't mind chating an autistic girl.
Not to mention any types of personality differences whether a person is autistic or not, OCD or not, ADHD or not, anxious attached or not, anxious avoidant or not.
Humans , we need to do better 😅😐🌎 🌍
Plenty of guys are willing to date a autistic gal as long as she is attractive.
What's your BMI? Do you floss your teeth? Do you use filters?
Don’t go for hookups. They’re not worth it. Find one guy who understands you and focus on him.
Why would they? I'm on the spectrum myself and I don't understand it either.
Well i dont think I've ever met an autistic woman are you autistic
Yeah I am and it sucks no one wants to be around me and some guys block me when I want to have sex
No I’m trying to be normal
I’m being a normal girl trying to have sex
Instead of posting about it on here everyday to people who know nothing about it, why don't you go to an autism organization and see what they offer to help?
People don't take the time to learn information that isn't relevant to themselves
I have autism myself , I think people don't know how to talk act and be around autistic people
take treatments for it. Jenny Mccarthy wrote a book on them. she's good. I took her stuff and am not the same anymore. There is other people like her out there too brain damaged people who write books on their treatments and blog online.
Stop with this. Get professional help.
Autistic is part of someone, it isn't something you can get help with
Lack of information primarily.
how bad is your autism?
It’s not bad and I could pass as normal one guy on here said I don’t seem autistic. This true?
I’m going to get another diagnosis
To see if it’s something else
If it's in their family they do
Cause there's different degrees of it.
Yeah why do they think that someone mild is more severe?
I dont know
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