My bestfriend has nothing to do with me since I have had my daughter and I can’t seem to get over it?

[Anonymous]

For context…we were best friends for over 20 years. She acted like was excited about me having a baby and now she is completely MIA. I stopped reaching out and she never reaches out to me and asks me anything regarding my daughter. For the first time in 4 months she reached out to me the other day and asked me how I was. Me being a fool I’m like ok cool everything is fine she reached out finally so everything will go back to how it used to be. I give her some life updates a little bit and mentioned how me and my spouse just bought an Rv. She really doesn’t say anything to me about any of the things I had just mentioned but asks “how much did you pay for the RV”. So I told her and sent her some pictures. Never heard from her again. Like she’s just so weird anymore and I just can’t seem to let it go. Like WHY? I feel like I need closure and that sounds so weird but I’m just so frustrated.

[HollyK21]

If this friendship is important to you, then you should try to schedule a time where you guys can either get on the phone or plan an outing so you guys can clear the air about this. I don’t know the intricacies of what your friendship has been like over time, so I’m going to judge the situation by what I’m reading here.


I read that you haven’t contact her in 4 months, and unless the reason for that just wasn’t mentioned, then I don't know if you’re being avoidant, too proud to act first, or any other cause as to why you were mutually AWOL. Relationships of all sorts take both parties trying, so you shouldn’t harbor all this animosity when on her end, it can appear as though you are doing the same thing.


There’s no way to know where her head is at about things, but since you know you have a problem, then you should be the one to address it rather than waiting for her to act first. She may not even have a problem, and it could be a thing to where you guys are growing apart. But you won’t know unless you ask and at least then if the friendship is ultimately over then you can have the closure of having said goodbye amicably.

[Nikki1989]

That was never a best friend.