Can seeking validation in disrespectful places make you dependent?

[Anonymous]

Because you start to crave validation from it

[There_Is_Rehab]

100% all anawers you got are harmful if you have a validation addiction.

It's like they are telling a hot object to cool down. Does nothing.

I would go as far as calling the act of bragging in "disrespectful places" an execution of intrusive thoughts, that stems from a so-calles trauma but trauna doesn't mean cruelty, it is simply when your thoughts and feelings were forked.

You have repressed anger and sadness sitting in your body. I'm not saying you never get pissy. You probably do and scream. But out of "how do i run away from this" rather than "whom should i face"

And the first place you should face is sadness. Do not act or think but feel profound sorrow for the worst things you can remember. Don't do anything, just feel sad. Take as long as you need until you feel massice wave of relaxation hit your body. Then get angry at the most unjust thing you witnessed. Do not act. Just feel anger until your desire for validation peels off.

Next time you want validation, be sad for that weak lottle girl. She never got compassion. To "love yourself" isn't forcing a euphoria while stroking your body. It is to grasp what is aad about you and feel the profound sadness with relaxing warmth.

[genericname85]

I don't think this is a chicken or the egg question. If you seek validation, that's the root of the problem. It's surely helpful to seek validation in appropriate places but ideally, you don't seek it much.

[Kvass]

Learn to love yourself girl. You’re acting like a lapdog by seeking validation

[Nikki1989]

What would you call a disrespectful place?

[Anonymous]

I suppose it could, but it depends of the situation. Who is to say validation is what they are craving?

[AngryCarl3]

If you're seeking validation you're already dependent.

[jahaims]

Seeking unhealthy validation is always bad for you.

[Anonymous]

Define disrespectful

[FrodoSkywalker007]

Please don't do that