She called me "dude" Uninterested? Shy?

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I feel like a 5-year-old asking this question, but last I knew, if a gal calls you "dude", she's not interested, so I'm turning to you, GAG, because I really like this gal, we have a lot of things in common, but she's incredibly quiet, and I'll catch her looking at me quite a lot, sometimes making faces or smirks, which even my co-workers are picking up on, but I'm having a H*** of a time getting a full conversation out of her, so I don't know if she's incredibly shy or what but yeah... "no problem dude"...

emlayyyyyy · Accepted Answer

I think that you're over thinking things.  I'm a girl, and I call people dude all the time, usually my close friends both male and female.  I think it's simply a sign that she thinks you're pretty cool and is comfortable around you.  After all you wouldn't walk up to a stranger and call them dude. You would have to be somewhat familiar with them.   If she's shy, give her a little time to warm up to you..and keep trying to make conversation. Maybe sometime in the future, the conversation will progressively get longer or perhaps she hasn't noticed you're interested yet. Her looking at you a lot is a good sign.  Overall, I think she does have interest you, and her calling you "dude" was most likely a friendly comment or her attempt to be slightly funny. It means you are cool in her eyes.  Just be casual and go with it.  Good luck.

thegirlnextdoorxx · Accepted Answer

Can't really tell actually. She might just want to seem really casual, but most shy girls aren't that shy when they want to get to know someone. I should know, I'm shy.

Just ask her if she wants to hang out some time.. if she says 'no', you'll know. It's not a very big deal, I think you shouldn't make it a big deal either otherwise you'll never know whether she likes you.

RedSmartie · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the girl. Calling you dude might mean that she's disinterested but it might just be a thing that she said. That alone doesn't mean she's interested but calling you dude probably doesn't count you out.

The shyness thing could be because she's interested or she might just be shy.

Prof_Don · Accepted Answer

I voted C...she can call guys "dude" out of habit, or maybe as a fear to avoid showing too much interest in you.

I wouldn't over think it too much yet, just continue to gauge her body language and actions. :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It seems that she's just shy. Your shy nature is also the problem here because you're not decoding those signals well. She's definitely interested.

MorbidPrincess94 · Answer

She's just really shy. I'm shy too I don't talk much so it's the guy who has to come up with a nice conversation to make me feel at ease. It doesn't really matter whether she called you dude or not it's just a habit. It doesn't mean that she is less interested in you.

ohwowitsnotkim · Answer

I do this with my crush at work. I don't want him to know that I like him so much. I think a week ago I told him something along the line of "cool glasses, dude/bro" and I hit myself so hard for doing it. I thought it would hide the fact that , well, I have a major crush.

hope that helps~

ColdFeet · Answer

I always call guys dude. It lets them no not to take what you said in a serious way.

I started going easy on it when my ex freaked out and started yelling at me that I'm not your dude I'm your man - he had control issues...that was fun. Scared me enough into erasing it from my vocab.

Anonymous · Answer

I only use "dude" in an informal setting and with a guy who I am trying to shove into the friend zone. Someone who has texted me something that has a sexual innuendo to it, for example, that is unwanted, I answer "Dude, ..." so he gets the "friend zone" association.

I won't go around calling a guy "dude" of course, since it's the 21st century, lol, but that's supposed to be like a bucket of ice on him so he steps back from any sexual attention he thinks he's going to be getting from me.

wanderer83 · Answer

Sometimes a girl calls a guy dude just to be funny. A lot of times it just means that she only considers you as a friend. It really depends. I don't know. Girls are confusing that way. You can usually feel when a girl likes you if you let yourself.

Giada · Answer

Imo I don't think she's particularly into you.. if she has an interest isn't a big thing, but that doesn't mean she isn't interested at all. I think you need more time to know what she want from you, for now don't over-think :)

Cuddle_Muffin · Answer

i call guys: dudes, bros, sons, lol I can't even, etc etc...

based on slang or the level of our relationship. actually, I don't think she meant it like that, that is just the way she talks...your are overracting lol.

blackwaterhattie · Answer

Dude, dude-mar, bro, broseph, bro-ham, brotard, son, toots, pal, mang, kid, mofo, dog, fella- I am guilty of these sins and many more. Don't over think it.

tahde · Answer

Don't read too much into it I call everyone dude even guys I have crushes on, mainly when I'm comfortable with them.

amyluvsgaskarth · Answer

I'll admit that I am shy, but I call *everyone* dude. It's a habit. I mean, hell, I call my SO dude... Don't worry about it :)

skibunny · Answer

It's been a habit for me since like 4th grade. My boyfriend absolutely hates it when I call him dude but it just slips out in conversation since I'm so used to it.

Anonymous · Answer

Haha I call my boyfriend dude frequently.  It's part of my humor.  But I also call people I'm not interested in at all dude.  It has nothing to do with interest

NastybutNice · Answer

i don't think it means anything. I think I've called everyone I know dude at one point or another even guys that I do like so I would think too much of it.

heytherebuddy · Answer

I call guys dude or bro all the time. even if I am interested or not I interested. its just how I talk. don't overreact dude

Anonymous · Answer

If she's really quiet, that word suggests to me she feels comfortable with you and maybe has a bit of a dry sense of humour. Guess from there it just depends whether that's comfy/attracted or comfy/friend...

LovelySerene · Answer

I call everyone dude, including my mom and my crush...it's just something I say, I don't really mean anything by it

Anonymous · Answer

It can mean anything. There's a girl who calls me "dear" all the time and she doesn't like me like that, so don't think she is uninterested.

Anonymous · Answer

I call everyone dude. My dad, my friends, this guy I fancy. Even called my ex dude. Relax.

Anonymous · Answer

I called my mom dude the other day.  It's just a speech habit.

street_name_tasha · Answer

I call all my guy friends dude because i think of it as a friend level. yeah a girl can a hug a guy but if she says dude it would be like a brother hug

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