How do you save yourself from being 'Ghosted' on by someone?

[Catty_Turner]

Ghosted- A term used among women to describe when a man (or woman) they have been seeing for a while stops taking their calls and answering their texts. These actions are usually preceded by many a broken promise to "hang out" "have a drink or two" or "catch up" on the part of the Ghoster. The Ghostee is left wondering whether the person that was just inside of them two weeks ago is now alive or dead. Neither can be definitively proven.

I have been talking to this guy for a really long time now and everything was going great considering how he finally got around to hanging out with me alone and even visited our college campus on a day that he didn't have school. But just after that, he stopped. He stopped texting me on a regular basis and whenever I would send him something, I just don't feel like he's really connecting. My friend is on his side because she says that the class that they are both in is really challenging and is stressing everyone out and to not worry so much about it. I feel like I am on the verge of being 'Ghosted' on but don't know how to save myself.

Is there anyway to redeem yourself from being thrown to the side of the road? What can I do to stop this from happening?

[BoundByCuriosity]

i think this happens for 2 reasons, and it happens to guys just as much as girls...

its a combination of things dragging on and someone growing bored. if you are getting along, try and meet up and start hanging out as soon as possible. getting along well, and then say delaying contact because you are scared or shy or its not the right time makes people grow bored and or think you really aren't into them. also long delays between meet ups, also not really cool.
the second thing, is that someone isn't quite what the other expected them to be. this is usually an appearance thing, but it can also be that the chemistry through chatting just isn't there in person.

what can you do? not much. you can keep trying, put in more effort be more flirty, whatever you are comfortable with to try and get your stock to go back up but yeah.

try and meet as soon as you can, and try and keep things up tempo. that way at least if someone looses interest, neither of you have wasted too much time.

[ZEDA_X]

what constitutes long delays in your opinion? how much time between meet ups is 'long' or too much?

[BoundByCuriosity]

there's a quote ill paraphrase here, 'you shouldn't have to fight to be included in someones life, if they want you in it, theyll make the time."
so
'do you wanna catch up Thursday night?'
'nah i can't , I've got basketball'

'how about Saturday?'
'hanging out with jenny then'

'Sunday?'
'I've got homework, ill see how i go tho ill try and finish early'

is the sort of shit that will make someone loose interest real quick. cancel something, shuffle things around, but just find the time.

and if you do catch up and things go well, try for every damn weekend to go do something. show them you are interested and keen etc etc you can actually use something like world of warcraft here as an example... constant small rewards keep them coming back for more ;)

[funkipunk]

I hate when people send me texts for no reason. If you're sending me texts that just say 'hey' or 'whats up' with no actual reason of texting, i will hate it. Also, do not bombard my phone with 4 different one word texts when you could combine them into one logical text message. It literally wastes my fuckin time.

To real face to face interaction, you have to stay interesting. If you're trying too hard just to want to be with me, but you never want to actually do anything, again you're wasting my time. Always have a reason for saying something to me or doing something with me. I never want to 'hang' just to hang out and do nothing

[ZEDA_X]

most pople like to be with someone they like, just because they like them. the persence of someone you are very fond of is usually significant. they dont feel a deep need to be 'entertained'. if thats repellent to you, you ought to explain that. i doubt thats going to b obvious to many people off the bat.

[funkipunk]

I retract my first sentence of the 2nd paragraph. It goes against my actual main point. I don't want people just wanting to be with me for the sake of being with me. You should have a reason to want to be with me if you wanna hang out. That's how I feel

[ZEDA_X]

Why wold yo want someone who has so little respect for you in the first place, if they are willing to do this thy are willing to do it. even if you put it off or somehow deroute them, they were still willing to do that. isn't that bad enough?

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

LMAO!! XD!!! Well your definition is quite different from mine when you said you were about to be ghosted by someone I was thinking ''MY GAWD who or Whom the fuck did you piss off; The Russian Mob?''. Well anyway you should just be more assertive 'cause if he doesn't have the energy to plan things out with you then maybe you can ask him out on a date instead?

[AndyWes]

Yeeaahh, there's nothing you can do about that, really.

[Anonymous]

The best way is to call the ghostbusters & get rid of the ghostee. Or be a better ghost & say the hell with them.

[wtf31]

Nothing move on. He doesn't owe you anything. You weren't even dating... Stop being so clingy...