Why do people let themselves go after a relationship?

[Anonymous]

We broke up a month and a half ago. It amazes me at how round his face got and how his arm muscles that used to be buff are now not so very much in a short amout of time. He left me for someone else and he soon left her. I bumped into him the other day at work (I'm a waitress) and yeah he just let himself go.

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We used to be the workout couple. I got him into fitness. He started changing his diet as well with me.

[angelstar07]

Some people changes better and some for worse. It's depend on the person. Like some people can't get out of bed after break up while others can't even sleep (aka me) I lost 5 pounds within 1 week after broke up. We broke up the same time as you actually. But I haven't seen him nor talk to him recently either. We used to be workout couple too. He got me more motivated into working out. Ever since the broke up, I haven't been up doing exercise as much. (But I'm going to pick myself again) I kind of changed his diet too like eating green leaf veggies. (before he doesn't eat veggies) but after the broke up, I noticed he been drinking a lot (He doesn't like alcohol at all)

[sweatgirl]

people become depressed and unhealthy food is cheaper then healthy food. if you like pay check to pay check sometimes you don't have a choice but to eat unhealthy. personally I am the other way around I loose weight after a relationship ends. my way of coping drinking, but because of my job I am always working out. some of my best workouts have been after drinking, but in any case I loose weight, but its different for everyone. some people eat more sweets to cope with depression or eat fried foods or greasy foods. if he smokes weed that can lead to the munchies. maybe he worked out to make you happy and it wasn't really his thing.

[Asker]

Well he played basketball and baseball and did sports

[hlab3]

I would usually think that it's the other way around.

Sometimes, it's depression; the breakup really hurt them, so they eat to get rid of the feeling. Maybe it's their way of avoiding meeting new people if they get fat, etc.

[Asker]

THAT'S WHAT I THOUGHT TOO! Shouldn't he be happy? He dumped me and he dumped her after a few weeks why should he feel depressed?
I've lost 6 pounds and apparently he gained a cow haha

[hlab3]

Haha, as long as you're good, no need to worry.

Sometimes, it's not always the case that you're happy after a breakup. He's probably still hung up on you if he broke up with the other girl a few weeks later, on top of gaining weigh.

[DanteSparda]

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[Thatguy321]

i workout 3-4 times a week no matter what, its just my stress relief. however after a break up, it did just throw me off and i took a week off from the gym but i was back in there on Monday

[legalboxers]

depression can do wonders to a person, they loose interest in themselves. Its sad.

[Asker]

But why be depressed?
He clearly knows from the letter I wrote to him I'll wait a year for him to decide what he wants. And that I'm going to always be willing to take him back.

[legalboxers]

dont think he knows this or believes this. I have let myself go since my ex left me. she says she still loves me. I haven't seen her in over 5 weeks. (Im following you, inbox me and I will tell you the whole thing)