I'm twenty-one and I've learned today that you can't always tell a guy's a jerk by spending time with him and getting to know him for OVER A YEAR. Really.
We were close till last college semester. It's been complicated and neither of us knew what we were, but I didn't care as long as we were happy. We'd text each other everyday and see each other almost everyday. We'd study together, go to dinner at fancy restaurants, he'd be willing to spend time with my aunt & uncle who visit once in a while. He'd tell me I'm beautiful, he'd be protective of me, get jealous when I'd spend time with other guys - which at the time I thought was sweet. He was the kind of guy who'd tell me to text him when I got home at night. He'd make me walk on the safe side of the sidewalk. We talked about our worries, our past relationships, family issues, trouble at work, everything. He would call me over just to rant on about something or go for a walk. I noticed some perks, but overall I thought he was sweet guy and that I really mattered to him.
During this summer, I've missed him so much and couldn't wait to see him. I finally did about a week ago, and I thought that meant we'd be spending time together again. I was wrong. Till a few days ago, I waited for him to text me, but he didn't, so I texted him to ask to hang out since i was free that day. He told me he was busy and that he had "a meeting" with (so & so). I checked out her name and she was a woman around his age. School hasn't even started, so "meeting" my ass.
I had a hunch all summer that he'd met someone, but now I'm more certain. If he really thought of me as a close friend, he could have told me, judging by the fact that he's told me every detail about his past relationships. If he's not involved with that woman, then what is going on? I can't think of any other reason why he'd be acting like I don't exist and telling me he's busy during the most relaxing time of the year.
I feel like he just kept me around for his own advantage and now that he's done he's throwing me away like an empty beer can. He doesn't text a single word to me anymore and he doesn't want to hang out because he's 'busy'. He's barely a part of my life anymore. I finally see the other side of him. I've finally realized he's not so great after all.
This whole time, when I'd get asked out I'd reject them because I was so blinded by him and wasn't interested in anyone else. As long as we were uncertain about where we stood, I thought I should stay single. Well that was stupid. I've been crying since yesterday because I can't help but feel so FOOLISH and HUMILIATED for giving him my whole heart. He was my best friend, the only guy i wanted, and I didn't care for any others.
Ladies, I don't care how sweet the guy is, if he makes you cry, he is immediately a JERK. Don't be tamed. There are some great guys out there - I've met some. Ones that don't cause you tears but wipe them away. Don't be blinded like I've been, always keep your eyes open.
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