Men like it if you ignore them and ghost them. They will swoon over you and they will go fight over you if you do this.
Men want what they can’t have.
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They will if they're mentally ill or stupid. I wouldn't chase your ass.
I get that human nature is complicated and murky, and even the most extreme statements often contain a grain of truth when viewed in the correct context.
But I just have no interest in a girl who ignores or ghosts me.
And frankly, I've never known women to be more attracted to a guy who bends over backwards to placate her vague, noncommittal, hot-and-cold behaviour.
Y'all THINK you want a man to qualify himself to you and pursue you a lot, and you'll even pull away on purpose just to make him jump through more hoops. But when a guy actually takes the bait and does all that, you lose attraction to him, because he's weak enough to be manipulated by your B. S.
All the guys I've met who have the most success with hooking up with women/ getting dates are the guys who can effectively "flip the script" and get the woman to invest and chase, while also having a masculine vibe and moving things towards the result they want (usually sex, but sometimes romance/ dating etc if the girl is exceptional).
But of course, women wanna feel empowered in this age of feminist doctrine, so they tell themselves "men want a woman who ignores them", because it delays the inevitable fact that sooner or later, you'll have to actually put yourself on the line if you wanna keep the right guy around for the long haul. And you're afraid that if he sees you as you really are, he might reject you on that basis. So you avoid that possible outcome altogether by just ghosting him and putting the onus on him to brute-force a connection out of thin air. And if he fails in that-- or more likely, just moves on to a more receptive girl-- then you get to tell yourself "oh he just wasn't man enough to handle a woman like me".
Just accept that if you want a connection with another person, then you have to carry that flag of yours loud and proud, and put it out to the world that you're open to discovering that connection. Quality men don't chase women who ignore them-- they have too many other options! Why would Leonardo DiCaprio or some other high status, high-achiever male chase some girl he meets in a club who then ghosts him on all their plans and acts like a bitch... when he can have his pick of model-looking girls who keep his stomach full and balls empty without even being asked?The key to all of this lies in what he says in point 1 - It shows that you have other options.
"Scarcity drives desire".
Yes. 100%.
What is scarcity? A lack of options. Or in this case, a lack of attractive options.
The attractive option is "scarce".
This works only on guys who lack attractive options in the first place. If he does have attractive options, which he likely does if he's the kind of guy you're really attracted to, playing hard to get doesn't really work.
Which is why you'll see guys say that as soon as a woman does this they move on, as do I. If a guy can find other women who are just as attractive as you, who don't play hard to get, he's gonna move on. Other guys won't move on - that's because they don't have those other options.
Where women get it wrong is that they think that playing hard to get is what makes them attractive. Wrong.
I hate the rating scale, but for the sake of simplicity lets use it. Let's imagine that it's not just about looks, but the total package, personality and all that.
Guy has two options, they're both 8s on the scale. One plays hard to get, one doesn't. He's gonna go for the one who doesn't. Going for the other would be more hard work than it's worth.
Guy has two options, one is a 5, and one is an 8. The 8 is playing hard to get, the 5 isn't. If he can't be bothered to pursue, he goes for the 5. If he thinks he has a good chance with the 8, he chases the 8.
Not because she's playing hard to get, but because overall she's the more attractive one of the two, therefore he's willing to put in more effort to get her. Women who think that it's the playing hard to get that causes the attraction have it backwards.
"Guy want what they can't have"
The same goes with this here. It's not because they can't have the girl that they want her. Using the rating scale again, a 5 could tell me that I couldn't get her. That wouldn't magically make me want to start pursuing her, I wouldn't care. I'm not attracted anyway. Like the guy says in the video, the attraction has to already be there.
They want "what they can't have" not because she's playing hard to get, not because he can't get her, but because she's more attractive than the girls he usually gets. He's a guy who usually gets 5s, he's never been with an 8, no 8 has ever been interested in him - and she's an 8.
The way this works really is based on relative sexual market value. The lower one persons SMV, the more they're going to pursue the one with the higher SMV. The BIG problem with this kind of advice is that women tend to prefer men who are higher in SMV, and this only works on men with similar or lower SMV.What you're describing is the forbidden fruit concept. It's true for people generally. However, when it comes to relationships, for us men, it's actually a very, very, very small exception to the rule.
We (generally) do not like being ignored because that is the default setting. We are the ones expected to approach first, and suck it up when we get rejected, which for the overwhelming majority of men, happens the overwhelming majority of the time.
For the women who believe this BS: You are entitled to your beliefs and opinions. You think he'll chase you when you ignore him, by all means. Just don't be surprised when ignoring someone you're interested in backfires. My advice is: grow up and stop playing games. You don't like when neem play games with you, so don't fo the same stupid thing.Yeah. That's kind of a sexist notion that that's how all guys are. It dose happen yes. But it's not like it's 80% of the time. Sometimes people just want what they can't have. Goes for both genders. And some don't handle rejection well enough and have to prove there good enough. But often in those cases when they get what they want they lose interest.
Weird. Because when girls ignore me or ghost (happened once) I just leave.
Even if you did manage to get with that girl. You really want a relationship when she knows she can do whatever the hell she wants to you and you won't leave? That girl will have zero respect for you and you'll have zero respect for yourself as a man. I'd rather have my balls, pride, self respect and maintain my joy for life.
Never in my life have I pursued a girl who ignored me. I've pursued girls who were genuinely hard to get. Like they had other guys, or weren't as eager as other girls might be. But I've never pursued girls who outright ignored me. Because... why would you? That's not attractive on either end.true story I've had to real crushes in my lifetime both were during school... first in primary or elementary for us folks.
I liked this girl since the first day and was to shy to ask her out it took me 6 years of liking her, then one day she began to become attracted to me... we dated for a week then I dumped her.
Similarly in high school had another crush I liked for years finally got her attention and dumped her after 3 days.
This is why im still single, I lose interest almost immediately when they like me.No they don’t. They hold grudges though. My boyfriend now tried to hit me up on different occasions. The first time he did I felt like what he was saying was cringe. Then he kept replying to my snaps and eventually I started talking with him. I did ghost him like 2 cause I felt I wasn’t good enough but he kept trying and now I love this guy
I strongly disagree.
If a woman plays hard to get, then they won't get me. I'll move on to someone who is interested.
Ghosting and ignoring someone is incredibly disrespectful. It sends the clear message that they are not worth the slightest bit of your effort. I lose respect and love for a woman who does this.
I have solved my problem with being ignored, and come up with a saying:
"Sure, you don't have to respond, and I don't have to like you"That whole concept of men wanting what they can't have, women playing hard to get is just some reverse psychology trick that some women have too use when their "P's" are over due for a tune up. For me women that play mind games is a deal breaker. Women that start out playing mind games will just continue till she get tired of playing & moves on or you get tired of being played & moves her on.
I'm not even going to watch this video. There's no point.
This is complete crap you're peddling. Any good woman who has self respect, and who respects the other gender, would not play these games. You're just feeding into the problems (watering the crops with 'Brondo'), exacerbating the divide, fuelling this stupid 'gender war'. You think you have a leg up here, you've found a hack, but you're one of the reasons things are the way they are right now.
Young ladies who are on the fence... don't listen to this. It's destructive behaviour. It will not end well.
Men, not all women think this way. We are with you, not against you.
And p. s., anon pink - if you're so proud of what you think here, why did you anon it? Nvm, don't answer that.Why would I bother pursuing someone disinterested? Doing so would indicate low expectations of myself, as well as having time to waste on such activities. I have never, and will never chase someone down. If they want a relationship, it can be mutual or not at all. If they're interested, they can show it like a healthy person, and not act paranoid or manipulative.
i actually hate when girls act like that, i jus giv up and dont bother with them, why chase someone who doesn't want u?
its pointless, waste of time, an jus makes me feel sad and rejected,
they jus say guys love it because its a motivator to get the persistent guys to keep trying, it gives em a goal to work towards...
its like tryna save money to buy a car,
but instead of saving money... he's saving up respect... and the more he flirts and tries... he thinks he will eventually be able to afford ur love...
thats why they try so much, not because they want to,,, they hate it... they jus feel like they have to do that in order to try and get u... but u will never see me trying like that... i will give up the moment she shows unintrestI think this is true for immature guys and players... not so much for people who don't have time for bullshit mind games, or for people who don't have time for them.
You may get their attention, but you won't necessarily keep it.
For most people, someone either likes you or they don't. Who really enjoys wasting energy trying to figure it out?
For every person playing hard to get, there is someone who doesn't mind making it clear.Haha yep everyone has had to go through this i wanted this one specific girls' friendship just friendship and 1st week was all good then bam that up there happened lol i started to loose myself a little wondering what i did wrong kinda cruel tactic by the way haha and well my solution was for me to distance myself a little too and now it was the other way but now we are bffs... life is a tootsie pop
I don't know if this guy knows the terms he's using. People who don't G. A. F. are careless, don't have limits, no morals, no self control, unpredictable. This is Unattractive.
Carefree people on the other hand, depict more a young heart, open mindedness, stress free attitude, optimism. This is attractive.Lol um... no. This guy is an idiot-- his entire message is null and void as, by his own admission, what he is saying only works if the guy in question is already at least kind of into the girl in question. If he's not into her already, this doesn't work. At all. So...
And then you wonder where all these single women in their 30s come from... Playing games will get you nowhere. Only those who take dating and relationships seriously and put work into them will ever get something good.
Guys that figure you're a slut or low-brow tramp anyway & it's only a matter of before they can screw you, sure. You're a waste of time otherwise.
I'm an attractive woman. I act & dress decently. When single I got attention, including some very affluent individuals. But when I was single guys also don't hang around like a bunch of flies swarming stale overused bread. Why. Because if I've no interest the first time the likeness I will 5 times later is still not-gonna-happen.Sure, if you’re into Chads and guys who like to play games. Just don’t come back on here asking, “why can’t I find love?”.
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