Why are some guys so scared of the "L" word?

[Anonymous]

Why are some guys so scared of the "L" word? My boyfriend of 5 years says that that word means a lot and only says it if he means it and finally told me last year that he loved me, and sang me a song that he says he wants to be played at his wedding,he had tears and all. Then a couple weeks later he tells me that he can't say it anymore? Were still together and everything is the same but he won't say that word. I know he does but just won't say it.

[Meemz]

My boyfriend was the same, but said it more frequently after the first time he said it. I'm sure he wants you to feel loved when he says it, and the more he says it the more it loses meaning. He wants it to be special every time which I think is sweet. The word love tends to be taken as just a word when its more than that, in saying it you express emotion and feeling and he just doesn't want it to be empty. If he were afraid of commitment he would have bolted when you told him you loved him too, or the first time. My boyfriend would shy away from it when I tried to say I first so just be patient with him, let him express himself his own way. Guys have feelings and take things certain ways too, especially emotion. Just be calm, if it's truly meant to be, and if he really loves you things will hold. Just remind him how much you love him, you don't have to say it to do that. Actions speak louder than words ya'know. :D good luck.

[nicholasrl13]

Well, some people are raised not to show that much emotion or affection. So if his parents never told him they loved him, he would be less inclined to say he loves someone in his present. But as lng as you know he loves you and he knows you love him, then it probably won't matter that much.

[Relationshipguru14]

It's not all guys that are really afraid of the word love. I use it all the time with my girlfriend really. It depends on the guy really. I'm a really clingy guy and I love to show how much I love my girlfriend. But it's really up to you to decide whether you want him to say it more or not.

[Anonymous]

True Story: I read the first sentence, thought this was about lesbians, and got really confused.

Anyway... It probably just means he hasn't been around it much. I don't say it unless I really mean it, and that's because it's just not something we ever said in my family. It makes me feel awkward because of this.

[Asker]

Why did you think it was about lesbians?

[Opinion Owner]

I thought that's what you meant by 'the 'L' word'