Would a guy still love and marry me even though I'm not a virgin anymore?

[Anonymous]

Throughout my teenage years, I've taken care of my virginity. Not even a guy has kissed or touched me. I swore to myself that I would wait for the right guy, but then just a month after my 20th birthday, that promise to myself broke. I got attracted to this guy, and I believe I've fallen in love with him. I gave everything to him (first kiss, first touch, and virginity). He would act as if he was my boyfriend, but he was not. What's worse is that he has a girlfriend. I have seen his girlfriend though, but he wouldn't introduce me to her. He still talks to me though, asking me if I'm okay, or what's up, how was my day, why did I arrive late at night if ever I did. (He's my flatmate). We've shared our opinions on everything and our plans about the future, where each of us would we go after we graduate college.

But I know he won't be with me. I'm crying every night. This Christmas he wants to go with me to my province, I don't know if I should allow him or not.

I've already forgiven myself for easily giving in to him, I love him, but I know we weren't meant to be. I'm afraid no guy's going to love me anymore because I'm not a virgin anymore, and I lost it to a guy who's not even my boyfriend.

[SomeGuy37]

You are not 'Damaged Goods' because you aren't a virgin!! People make mistakes, and if you believe in a god that thinks you should be a virgin, to marry, I am sure that you can be forgiven, as you seem to have a good heart, but made a bad choice.
Get away from this guy, as he doesn't care, or love you. Find someone that loves you, for WHO YOU ARE, and doesn't care that you aren't a virgin! Lots of guys like women that aren't necessarily virgins, who like to know how they like to feel, and be touched, and what feels good, sexually!
It's OK to touch, and play with yourself, alone, discovering how you like to feel!! It isn't wrong, or sinful, because when you find the right guy, he wants to please you, and make you feel AMAZING!!

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

It obviously depends on where you're from. I can tell you are not American just from the words that you use (province, flat). Men in different cultures value virginity differently. Here in America it's not an issue.

You can't come onto an international website and expect a standard response that will reflect the reaction you will receive in your community, so beware of the answers you will get.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

I can tell you one thing, it sounds as if you moved along very quickly with your flat mate; so quickly that you didn't even realize he had a girlfriend. There is a lesson to be learned here. I'm sorry you had to learn it the hard way, very unfortunate.

Do not allow him to go with you on Christmas. He was never a friend to you if he misled you and your feelings.

[Asker]

I don't know, my guy friends say it's not a big deal anymore these days. But I don't know, my dream guy might not agree with that.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Where are you from/where do you live?

And yes, SOME guys think very differently about that. Your particular dream guy may care very much. Maybe he's a conservative virgin Christian and once he hears how you lost your virginity he may drop you- anything is possible.

[Anonymous]

Most guys won't care. I'd imagine if anyone would have a problem with this, it would have less to do with you losing your virginity and more with you sleeping with a guy you know has a girlfriend. Even then, a lot of guys will be able to accept that if you can admit what you did was wrong and why.

Also, cut that guy out of your life. You don't need him screwing with your emotions like that.

[jadestellz]

I'm not sure where you grew up or, possibly, what your religion is but where im from it's not umcommon for women to not be virgins before marriage, in fact its HIGHLY uncommon for you to be a virgin past the age of 17. Men will still love you and if they dont then they wouldn't have loved you even if you were still a virgin; someone like that wouldn't be worth your love anyways.

[KBob93]

Exactly! A man shouldn't base his love for you on your virginity, especially if he's not one himself.

[KBob93]

I relate all too well to you. I really do. I made a vow when I was 14 that I didn't end up keeping due to the onset of a mental illness at 19 that caused irregulation in my hypothalamus, the section in the brain regulating appetite & sex. Say no more. Can you please please message me? After reading this, I know I'm not alone!!

[Greece1990]

The girls in my country are border line prostitutes so I dont a virgin thats 15 years old, well I do for plenty of guys. So no it wouldn't matter to me, in fact if anything the way you think about this loser guy you like might be the only thing keeping me from dating a girl like you.
I would try to tell you he is wrong for you but I dont think you would listen. You have an idea and fantasy about this guy that isn't reality or alteast you had the idea. So as long as he didn't come up when I tried to date you and your interests were about me you and what were doing I and a lot of guys wouldn't have a problem with dating you.

[yellowmamba024]

To be quite honest, I do care about a girl's virginity. However, if I am not a virgin anymore, I wouldn't care. If I learn that my future girlfriend is not a virgin anymore while I still am, I will be pretty disappointed and bummed out.. I really want to know how it's like to take a girl's virginity. I don't want to be one of those guys that never get something first and be one of those guys that are seconds, thirds, and so forth. Now will I not love or marry her if she is not a virgin, probably not, but I will be lying if the disappointment isn't there.

[heavensgift2girls]

I am not sure what country you are in, but most women in America aren't virgins when they marry. A woman's virginity isn't an issue for any guy I know. If virginity is a big deal to the men in your country, you can always look for a man in another country. If anything you are still more pure in comparison than most girls I know. The fact is it can be hard to find a single woman looking for a relationship, that doesn't already have a kid in America, much less try to find a virgin.

[KBob93]

Sir, I don't know WHAT area in America you're living in, but that sounds nothing like my state.
And she said province.. let's put 2 & 2 together... oh wait, Canada has provinces...#mindfuck

[heavensgift2girls]

I live in the bible belt where they don't like teaching safe sex.

[atomique]

Myself and I am sure plenty of other guys don't care whether you are a virgin or not. I would still love and marry someone even though they are not a virgin if we are compatible, she loves me and willing to commit. To me stuff like that is not important

[JackKerouac77]

@atomique
*gives you winning lottery ticket*

You're a good man.

[atomique]

@JackKerouac77 Thanks mate

[stevie123]

I don't know the customs of your area, but it shouldn't make a difference generally if you are a virgin or not.
I would certainly marry a non virgin girl, if we were compatible.
I would actually prefer a non virgin, as she has had some experience, and wouldn't be wondering what another guy might be like.
Anyway, you don't have to tell any guy if you are virgin or not.

[Snowe]

Yes, i'd say it'd be perfectly normal for a man to marry you even though you're not a virgin, because it happens more often than guys marrying virgins. :)

[MrVintz]

I think plenty of guys out there with good, pure and caring hearts would appreciate that we live in a world of temptations and experiences and wouldn't judge you for any aspect of your past.

[p0rtis26]

I personally hope I end up with a virgin girl. That being said everybody makes mistakes, it is the wise who learn from their mistakes. What is more important to me is the person you are when you decide to settle down and what your worldview is.

[MoonMice]

Yes, of course. There are tons of guys who aren't obsessed with virginity like so many guys are on here. This virginity-obsession is more of a internet phenomenon, I think.

[Ashari]

But I wonder why they so obsessed with it when they themselves are not virgin...

[MoonMice]

If they themselves aren't virgins, then it's simply a double-standard. If they are virgins themselves, then it's most likely out of insecurities or ignorance.

[RationalMale]

The vast majority of guys know full and well that the majority of women they meet/date won't be virgins. So don't stress too much! There's a big difference between not being a virgin and have a 6+ count. So most guys won't hold it against you.

[Anonymous]

This just brought me to tears!
I lost my virginity a month ago to a guy whi isn't my boyfriend either and it haunts me every day that I fell so easy. I also wanted to wait for the right guy but it just happened and u can't change it. I fell in love but he doesn't feel the same way about me, we still talk but that's practically it.

Don't worry though, you will find someone to love you because so many women are not virgins and they have found someone to love. We will too. 😊

[purplishone]

If a guy really loves you he doesn't care it. This is my opinion =)

[Keyspirits]

Solly but i i out looken for a virgin cutie..
Anywayz that was sad on ur part >.>

[Versz]

No you're a freaking hore.

[CuriousCatbug]

Fail troll fails

[Versz]

that's my opi who the fck are you sir?
gtfo before i smack you with my grandpa's pantoffels, uwot.

[CuriousCatbug]

And also tries soooo hard to be funny.. And fails that too

[Versz]

How is that funny you f@g.
im 100% with my comment.
@*soooooooooooo* thank you for telling me you're a f@g.
Go search some other f@g who likes pokemon he might put the Onix in you.

[CuriousCatbug]

That makes no sense at all, pick up a dictionary and try again :3

[Versz]

go hang ur self , if you don't like opinions from others.
I didn't ask you to give your opinion.
but this topic owner did ask for it.
get your fact you fcking fag.

[CuriousCatbug]

Oooh a little better that time ^_^ try just once more? And this time, really try to not come across as an illiterate child ok?
ready?

aaaaaand.. go!
*waits patiently*

[Versz]

ok i giggeld from the inside.
but really you're retarded as fck.
this girl is an slut, Catbug has an handicap.
ok ok close topic.
enought for today.

[CuriousCatbug]

Little tip for ya, you cannot really call someone retarded when you fail at basic English, make a troll account and even fail at that and then write sentences that make qs much sense as if i slammed my head on the keyboard and rolled it side to side.
now, this time
try really hard
activate spell check
turn on auto correct
and try again :3

[Versz]

English grammar is shit, that's why god gave us an gift called EBOLA.
For the nice grammar of the USA , you're an hero , and you already prooved me you are actually retarded, even more then this dumb girl who fcked a dude without knowing him , not even asking if he had a relationship, or was it like this wait wait we fck now and ask questions after?
just open legs and get fcked like a rabbit.
then come cry me on a internet site , and act innocent.
You should know better.

[CuriousCatbug]

Once again, that makes no sense.
surely you see the irony in calling me retarded; when you fail at the most basic of things... like making sense or trolling.

now...1 more try... you can do it kiddo!!!

[Versz]

what doesn't make sense u idiot?

[CuriousCatbug]

None of it ^_^ also, "idiot" ?
coming from the illiterate child who can't even troll? Ok little fella :p

[Versz]

who told you, I whant to troll in the first place?
Ooow wait is it because my avatar?
that's nothing special just liking that face a lot , and that does make you think , im a troll with evreything I type?
Short minded dumb lame iQ of an? can't even explain it.
and yes you're an idiot and 100% retarded.
also this > *coming from the illiterate child who can't even troll? Ok little fella *
makes 0 sense, if you can't be on topic , why are you chating with me?

[CuriousCatbug]

What i said made perfect sense :3
what you wrote, looks like you had a stroke and fell onto your keyboard ^_^

you are a troll because i can see every question you post on, you being childish and trying soooo hard to be funny or mean (failing both btw) ^_^

and by the way what does
"shortminded lame IQ of an?" mean? Because to me... it looks like you skipped English class ^_^

[Versz]

If you scroll up and down you would see that you didn't type much about the question she asked.
You just came here to atack my opnion and call me an troller and a failer.
Well I don't know about you , but it seems u still whant to chat about , i hope you will find the right guy who can chat very long with you about pokemons and stuff.
@shortminded lame IQ of an? yea u know , dnt act dumb now.
@skipped English class ^_^ > thank holy god.

[CuriousCatbug]

Wow... you just went full retard there little fella.
not one part of that made sense, what a sad fail troll you are :3