Thanks, but I actually live for LDRs. I've never dated a guy in my own state before. I actually find that more scarier because his exs and all them could be living in the same city, ready to cause me trouble and I don't have time for that. I only do long distance so I can stay out of trouble, meaning no sex, til I'm married. I always make sure the guy I'm dating understands this, then I give him the opportunity to stay or leave. It works for me and I have this sixth sense whether or not my boyfriend is cheating, just like I did with the rest of them. I realize LD dating is definitely not for everybody, and I can understand that.
Ok well I get it :) I hope you are right & it works out for ya!! :)
Thank u, and i really do appreciate the warning. U can believe I hear/d it a lot when I first started dating almost four years ago. It's like I'm testing to see how good the guy actually is. And if he truly loves me, he'll come to me and marry me. If he can't even hold out and love just me, then he isn't worth anything to me and I'll move on. I'm extremely sorry about what happened to u. I definitely dated some jerks myself.
Awesome! I'm happy to know things are good then, and no problem! I just don't want any more victims of this crazy thing... And no worries, thank you, mine just turned out to be psycho. So I always warn anyone, its just not safe out there unfortunately.
Yeah, you're right about that. I honestly don't even believe I'm his first priority like he is mine. For me, it's still sunshine and rainbows. I still call him cute petnames, but he just doesn't return them anymore. I honestly don't get why he keeps holding onto me if he genuinely doesn't give a darn.
How about you talk to him about it. (:Sit him down, and tell him your heart's concerns. If by then, he still doesn't care, you know something is wrong, he is taking thing for granted.
I will one day, thing is we're long distance. Him OH, me NC. We do a heck of a lot better in person. But because his work is there and my school is here, we don't see each other. In the full eight months we've been together, we've only seen each other once. We got along smoothly. 😏
Wow! Once in 8 months! That's sad for a r/s, as in I really feel bad for you both. ):I will feel damn stress if I only get to see my girl once in 8 months. I'll be bad tempered most of the time if it happens to me. Lol.For you, I hope you and your boyfriend have it sorted out. (:I wish you a good r/s, every nice girl deserves to be loved and appreciated.
Awe shucks, thank you 😊. I'm hoping something will happen that'll bring us closer together.
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Yeah i know. It's just hard to shake this one off if he isn't the one
Someone tell him that! Although at the same time, he knows I don't put up with but so much bs. If push comes to shove where he truly can't get it together, I'm moving on. It'll be hard, but I'll be alright...
Not really. Though we did argue a lot every now and then. We're long distance.
Oh... Long distance... Honestly, I do not believe in them. It's not a real relationship. It may be fun for some time, but you can't have a real relationship if you can't touch the person. Eventually, you just lose interest. I don't think it's reasonable to believe that LDR have any chance of lasting. We are human beings, we need to be touched, kissed, cuddled, etc... Maybe he started seeing someone?
I honestly wouldn't know. He keeps saying he's not talking to anybody else and that i need to stop thinking that. We've broken up and gotten back together at least 6 times in the 8 months we've been a couple. There is this one chick on fb that he's known for a while and he's been commenting and liking her stuff, so I don't know. We recently got back together five days ago.
We've both admited to feeling numb. I don't send him nudes because I'm not that type of woman anymore. And i told him we can't sex text anymore either. He agreed to it, but i know he's not used to that sort of dating, yet he keeps coming back.
Why bother? It feels like you are nothing more than online friends...
Exactly. I honestly don't even see him as my boyfriend anymore.
If he starts behaving more like my boyfriend, then it won't be any problem for me to fully open back up my heart to him. Right now, I'm just going day by day, praying he still actually cares about me as his girlfriend. (P. s. Sorry for the sob story)
Well, it should come naturally if you truly care about someone.
But is it required. I asked a question
Then why ask
Meh. Good point. But that's the only why I know he's into me.
I'm sorry you feel that way then
It's all good.
I was being sarcastic
It's alllll gooood. I'm not stressing u
You're not answering me though
What I asked you
You mean the "why ask then"? Because that's what I'm used to and what I require in order to know he cares for me. He's never once even called me by my name... that's just weird to me.
So these are rules when it comes to dating?
Probably, but i doubt it.
He could just not be that social of a person. I know that when I'm first wooing a woman, I have to be uncomfortably social. Then, I back off some, because I'm more comfortable that way.
Really? Hmm. When u put it like that, it makes sense and doesn't make me feel as bad anymore. Thank u.