Why do guys love to talk about their money?

[squeelz]

I've noticed over the years that guys love to talk about their money. How much they make, spend, or save. I have noticed this behavior in my current boyfriend but I have noticed it from past relationships as well. I personally don't like to discuss my income, I find it unnecessary and kind of a turnoff. Can someone give me some insight as to why guys do this?

[pnl86]

Probably for the same reason girls do this:

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and take pictures like this:

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and wear things like this:

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People might be irrational, but people as a whole are not consistently stupid - at least if you believe in Darwin's theories.

Girls learn, from an early age: "Hey there! Do you like what you see? Imagine yourself fucking this. That's right. This can be hopping up and down your manhood. Wouldn't that be nice?" is a much stronger selling point than, "I'm a 2,668 elo chess grandmaster." Girls who "cannot" offer such things or compete with other girls miss out on prime partnering opportunities with the kinds of qualities other girls find desirable, such as excellent genetics, social power, and material wealth. Rather than carry on with life feeling like the "losers," it's emotionally necessary for the remaining girls to develop a system of justifying and rationalizing what just happened in a way other than them repeatedly concluding (I'm inferior... other girls are better than me... quality guys don't prefer me). So, the tools used to perform this self-hypnosis is to convince themselves that there is a quality out there that guys "actually" value (even if they don't act on it), and that because these girls possess this quality, they are actually "superior" and "better" than those inferior sluts, and guys who prefer sluts or "just want sex" are low quality partners and not worth being with.

Guys learn, from an early age: "Hey there! Do you like what you see? Imagine yourself enjoying all this. That's right. All this attention, adventure, excitement, novelty, comfort, security, stability, support, and "show-off" value to your friends and family can be yours. Wouldn't that be nice?" is a much stronger selling point than, "I love your" or... "cuz my heart is all, I have, to give... without you I don't think I could live (Backstreet Boys)." Guys who "cannot" offer this selling point to girls still have another 20 years to find a mating opportunity. So, as they acquire the kinds of things that they unconsciously understand from their childhood inductive logic to be things that "actually work," they "broadcast" that information.

If it's broadcast to other girls, it's with the intent of making those girls interested.

If it's broadcast to a current partner, it's motivated by the need for narcissistic identification (i. e., look how valuable I am, and I hope you feel proud and lucky to be with someone like me).

[That-Guy]

Women are told: be pretty, feminine and never smell.
Men are told: Make money, act tough and strong.

These are general "societal" pressures that men and women put on themselves. Some more than others but... generally speaking men are aware that a women does seek security in the form of protection and finance (some who can provide) for the sake of raising a family. Call it... maternal instincts.

However.. i am firm believer that if you are something, you don't need to announce it and it is indeed a turnoff for someone to seek validation for their insecurities. Now that if the person shares their earnings around people they don't know...

If i had a wife or girlfriend (not someone i am simply dating) and i got a substantial raise... you best believe she's getting a text that reads "$$$$ I am balling out! $$$$$$ Rick James Bitch"

[squeelz]

Lmao your comment is everything!!!

[Dave20154]

I was going to say the exact same thing, only shorter. Bit of a fast BA there, QA, it's almost as if you were "looking" for this answer

[M_A_X]

He gets it. And no downvotes either! Nice

[sarahot46]

Some guys think that their money is what makes their women like them but that should never be the case just because a man has money doesn't mean he's worth being with

[zombiebabe]

i guess it due to their mind set that girls love/are attracted to money only!
but ITS NOT THE CASE -_-

[Unit1]

You wouldn't like to be in a relationship with an always unemployed sucker, no?

I mean just imagine.

[zombiebabe]

@Unit1 if i am working it won't be a problem

[Unit1]

Can't imagine unemployed people (generally) can be any good. But okay.

[zombiebabe]

@Unit1 everyone has different point of view when it comes to this

[Unit1]

Can't disagree.

Mine however is: Unemployed people cannot support their own ground, which leads to begging.

[throwit]

My boyfriend is actually the same way hahaha it's weird

[Mesonfielde]

Males are taught to believe that women value monetary gain.

And it's true; many women do value your financial state a LOT when they consider figuring out whether they want to date you or not.

[RedThread]

Guys love to wield their financial dick around like a glorious sword. It's like bait to reel in a decent catch.

[squeelz]

Lmao financial dick

[RedThread]

haha I'm glad you enjoyed that.

[slatyb]

They are insecure and are trying to impress with their paycheck. It's annoying in young men but understandable. When an older man brags about his paycheck it's a sign of severe immaturity. If he's bragging to younger women it's downright creepy. Most of the young guys impressed with their own paycheck are not as high on the income scale as they think they are.

[godfatherfan]

Because men are supposed to be providers. we are the ones that are supposed to go out and make the money to support our family. That isn't always true. But it is hard wired in our heads. We know that most women want someone that can support them. Even women that make much more then the man still might view the man in this fashion. So it is just nature.

[HikerDude]

Egotism. I don't talk about money because of all the things on this Earth to discuss/brag about, money has to be the least interesting. Besides, it's stupid to talk about money when money speaks for itself. To paraphrase an ancient axiom, "Show, don't tell."

[_Atreides]

i never discuss what i earn, but someone could probably guess a little from my house and car but at the end of the day i want someone to like me for who i am not what i earn.
If I was on a date and a girl asked what i make it would be a turnoff as i'd question her motives.

[MimTcgraw]

I Hate to talk income! I do well enough
Even with infinite wealth on my deathbed... Only your loved ones matter at that point or at any point in your life! Most people fail to realize that we should all be living in the MOMENT! :) stop getting brainwashed by the ELITE!!

[Rexbad]

I tell girls so if they don't think I make enough, they can leave... It makes a difference if you are considering a longer future with someone.

I don't go blabbing, and only tell girls I can very serious with...

There are lots of douches, you go around falsely bragging for some reason.

[jaydogs1990]

You shouldn't discuss how much you make with others but its acceptable to discuss money with a serious girlfriend. Also its ok to discuss money (not earnings) but more like stock options, isa, interest rates, mortgages and all the rest above because these are things you need to be wired into at an early age.

[brain5000]

In addition to the "hot-crazy matrix" many of us are familiar with, there should be a "fat-money matrix," which shows how much money a guy has to make to breach the fat/crazy barrier into the fit/stable zone.

[brain5000]

Age should probably also be taken into account. I hear from uncles and older guys that women talk more about money than the men do once you get into late 40s/50s.

[madhatters4]

i imagine it's the same reason that many women spend so much time focused on their looks, obsessing over body parts

because they believe that those are the things that the opposite sex care about most

[TMac72586]

They think its a turn on. I never talk about money I think, for both sexes, being humble is a turn on. I think guys do it because unfortunately girls have been depicted to put great emphasis on that kind of stuff. Of course being financially responsible is independent but that isn't a reason to choose who you want to work on a relationship with.

[TheBootyChest]

They are just bragging because they think others will envy them and want to hang out with them more.

Could be that they are insecure about other parts of themselves.

[Prof_Don]

Men are socially categorized and measured by their success and social status... aka, their occupation and how much they make.

[TripleAce]

Not sure about you but girls seem to love the money... especially when their man, the rich guy, spends tons it on her

Be happy he's counting. So he knows how much you'll rip apart from him

[magicalmaster25]

Possibly in many cases guys believe it will attract interest by a female. Some think girls will want a guy that is financially stable and able to provide for them

[Anonymous]

Guys are always told that women are attracted to social status and money. In most relationships the guy does earn more money than the girl, which being so common it's definitely not a coincidence.

It's certainly dumb to talk about your money to women since it's only gonna attract the wrong kind of women. If people flaunt certain things their begging for the wrong people to come to them.

[BertMacklinFBI]

people usually like to brag about what they have to offer.

for those guys, it must be money.

[DeltsBrah]

Biceps and 6 pack abs

[CountVronsky]

I don't do that, and would find it a turn off as well. Everyone cares about their income, but it's something you keep for yourself. Maybe those guys were stuck-up idiots.

[Dragonstarterplus]

Because part of being a successful man is being financially successful