Why do guys love to talk about their money?

Question

I've noticed over the years that guys love to talk about their money. How much they make, spend, or save. I have noticed this behavior in my current boyfriend but I have noticed it from past relationships as well. I personally don't like to discuss my income, I find it unnecessary and kind of a turnoff. Can someone give me some insight as to why guys do this?

pnl86 · Accepted Answer

Probably for the same reason girls do this:

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and take pictures like this:

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and wear things like this:

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People might be irrational, but people as a whole are not consistently stupid - at least if you believe in Darwin's theories.

Girls learn, from an early age: "Hey there! Do you like what you see? Imagine yourself fucking this. That's right. This can be hopping up and down your manhood. Wouldn't that be nice?" is a much stronger selling point than, "I'm a 2,668 elo chess grandmaster." Girls who "cannot" offer such things or compete with other girls miss out on prime partnering opportunities with the kinds of qualities other girls find desirable, such as excellent genetics, social power, and material wealth. Rather than carry on with life feeling like the "losers," it's emotionally necessary for the remaining girls to develop a system of justifying and rationalizing what just happened in a way other than them repeatedly concluding (I'm inferior... other girls are better than me... quality guys don't prefer me). So, the tools used to perform this self-hypnosis is to convince themselves that there is a quality out there that guys "actually" value (even if they don't act on it), and that because these girls possess this quality, they are actually "superior" and "better" than those inferior sluts, and guys who prefer sluts or "just want sex" are low quality partners and not worth being with.

Guys learn, from an early age: "Hey there! Do you like what you see? Imagine yourself enjoying all this. That's right. All this attention, adventure, excitement, novelty, comfort, security, stability, support, and "show-off" value to your friends and family can be yours. Wouldn't that be nice?" is a much stronger selling point than, "I love your" or... "cuz my heart is all, I have, to give... without you I don't think I could live (Backstreet Boys)." Guys who "cannot" offer this selling point to girls still have another 20 years to find a mating opportunity. So, as they acquire the kinds of things that they unconsciously understand from their childhood inductive logic to be things that "actually work," they "broadcast" that information.

If it's broadcast to other girls, it's with the intent of making those girls interested.

If it's broadcast to a current partner, it's motivated by the need for narcissistic identification (i. e., look how valuable I am, and I hope you feel proud and lucky to be with someone like me).

That-Guy · Accepted Answer

Women are told: be pretty, feminine and never smell.
Men are told: Make money, act tough and strong.

These are general "societal" pressures that men and women put on themselves. Some more than others but... generally speaking men are aware that a women does seek security in the form of protection and finance (some who can provide) for the sake of raising a family. Call it... maternal instincts.

However.. i am firm believer that if you are something, you don't need to announce it and it is indeed a turnoff for someone to seek validation for their insecurities. Now that if the person shares their earnings around people they don't know...

If i had a wife or girlfriend (not someone i am simply dating) and i got a substantial raise... you best believe she's getting a text that reads "$$$$ I am balling out! $$$$$$ Rick James Bitch"

sarahot46 · Accepted Answer

Some guys think that their money is what makes their women like them but that should never be the case just because a man has money doesn't mean he's worth being with

zombiebabe · Accepted Answer

i guess it due to their mind set that girls love/are attracted to money only! but ITS NOT THE CASE -_-

throwit · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend is actually the same way hahaha it's weird

Mesonfielde · Answer

Males are taught to believe that women value monetary gain. And it's true; many women do value your financial state a LOT when they consider figuring out whether they want to date you or not.

RedThread · Answer

Guys love to wield their financial dick around like a glorious sword. It's like bait to reel in a decent catch.

godfatherfan · Answer

Because men are supposed to be providers. we are the ones that are supposed to go out and make the money to support our family. That isn't always true. But it is hard wired in our heads. We know that most women want someone that can support them. Even women that make much more then the man still might view the man in this fashion. So it is just nature.

slatyb · Answer

They are insecure and are trying to impress with their paycheck. It's annoying in young men but understandable. When an older man brags about his paycheck it's a sign of severe immaturity. If he's bragging to younger women it's downright creepy. Most of the young guys impressed with their own paycheck are not as high on the income scale as they think they are.

_Atreides · Answer

i never discuss what i earn, but someone could probably guess a little from my house and car but at the end of the day i want someone to like me for who i am not what i earn.
If I was on a date and a girl asked what i make it would be a turnoff as i'd question her motives.

HikerDude · Answer

Egotism. I don't talk about money because of all the things on this Earth to discuss/brag about, money has to be the least interesting. Besides, it's stupid to talk about money when money speaks for itself. To paraphrase an ancient axiom, "Show, don't tell."

MimTcgraw · Answer

I Hate to talk income! I do well enough
Even with infinite wealth on my deathbed... Only your loved ones matter at that point or at any point in your life! Most people fail to realize that we should all be living in the MOMENT! :) stop getting brainwashed by the ELITE!!

Rexbad · Answer

I tell girls so if they don't think I make enough, they can leave... It makes a difference if you are considering a longer future with someone.

I don't go blabbing, and only tell girls I can very serious with...

There are lots of douches, you go around falsely bragging for some reason.

jaydogs1990 · Answer

You shouldn't discuss how much you make with others but its acceptable to discuss money with a serious girlfriend. Also its ok to discuss money (not earnings) but more like stock options, isa, interest rates, mortgages and all the rest above because these are things you need to be wired into at an early age.

brain5000 · Answer

In addition to the "hot-crazy matrix" many of us are familiar with, there should be a "fat-money matrix," which shows how much money a guy has to make to breach the fat/crazy barrier into the fit/stable zone.

madhatters4 · Answer

i imagine it's the same reason that many women spend so much time focused on their looks, obsessing over body parts because they believe that those are the things that the opposite sex care about most

TMac72586 · Answer

They think its a turn on. I never talk about money I think, for both sexes, being humble is a turn on. I think guys do it because unfortunately girls have been depicted to put great emphasis on that kind of stuff. Of course being financially responsible is independent but that isn't a reason to choose who you want to work on a relationship with.

TheBootyChest · Answer

They are just bragging because they think others will envy them and want to hang out with them more.  Could be that they are insecure about other parts of themselves.

Prof_Don · Answer

Men are socially categorized and measured by their success and social status... aka, their occupation and how much they make.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys are always told that women are attracted to social status and money. In most relationships the guy does earn more money than the girl, which being so common it's definitely not a coincidence.

It's certainly dumb to talk about your money to women since it's only gonna attract the wrong kind of women. If people flaunt certain things their begging for the wrong people to come to them.

TripleAce · Answer

Not sure about you but girls seem to love the money... especially when their man, the rich guy, spends tons it on her Be happy he's counting. So he knows how much you'll rip apart from him

magicalmaster25 · Answer

Possibly in many cases guys believe it will attract interest by a female. Some think girls will want a guy that is financially stable and able to provide for them

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

people usually like to brag about what they have to offer. for those guys, it must be money.

CountVronsky · Answer

I don't do that, and would find it a turn off as well. Everyone cares about their income, but it's something you keep for yourself. Maybe those guys were stuck-up idiots.

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Because part of being a successful man is being financially successful

LorcaNovena · Answer

I never discuss money, nobody knows how much I earn per hour or how much I earn a month/year.

DiogoRibeiro · Answer

It still is a measure of success to a lot of people and I believe that's why some men really like to talk about it.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Lol no money is a touchy subject with me I almost never talk about it at all.

Anonymous · Answer

You're a woman, and women value men based on how much they earn. No point in arguing that as it's beyond question. I think the answer to your question lies in there somewhere.

Evil_romantic · Answer

Guys talking about their money, dressing up, or going on about their massive rods is like a male peacock strutting his feathers.

Bigdaddyslim · Answer

It's a guy thing, talking about how much money you get, your car, your hot girl , it's just a guy thing , I find it cocky and lame though

ThatBritishLad · Answer

Because money is fundamental to your worth as a human being in the grand scheme of things.

Anonymous · Answer

The guys I have been with never did this. Maybe you just keep meeting men who care about money

RichardTheFrog · Answer

Because it's their status... They can provide...

Anonymous · Answer

Bitches love money, they can smell that shit on you so we talk about it to get in their pants.

butimsharon · Answer

probably it makes them feel successful

Anonymous · Answer

I have met some really nice guys who don't go around waving their wallets around. Some guys do, so don't

Broswater · Answer

Because this is how we compete with each others.

Eternallylucky · Answer

It makes sense, money is their power.

Anonymous · Answer

i know it's lame cuz it's not like their millionaires or something.

apple24 · Answer

Because their BORING! boring! I repeat BORING!

Unit1 · Answer

No moneys no honeys ?

kiler1000 · Answer

Gets them laid by weak minded girls.

blondfrog · Answer

That's what most women care about so yeah

COCOCHANEL · Answer

they know that women care about that

LordZero · Answer

What money? I got none.

jakeofalltrades · Answer

guys like to try and show off any chance we get

Anonymous · Answer

pffftt I don't. Money doesn't make the man

Anonymous · Answer

to supposedely impress you.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't because my income sucks!!!

VampireEmpress · Answer

guys like to brag.

Krillanr · Answer

I didn't know I did.

Vixen1 · Answer

To show off?

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