My boyfriend treats me like a slave, I am so screwed. I love him so much. Help?

[Anonymous]

It's been one year and seven months. In the beginning he used to respect me so much. He treated me like a princess, but since 6-7 months he has changed a lot. Whenever I ask him about anything like any girl when I have a doubt on him he gets angry. I really really love him like too much. I am so fed up but I can't leave him i don't know what to do. Sometimes he shows like he loves me but sometimes he hurts me so so much. Like he always jokes around and sometimes those jokes hurt so much and when I say that I got hurt he gets angry and all the blame goes on me. Believe me I have'nt get mad at him for like 8 months and since 8 months all the fights which have been happening are because of him as he got angry. Yes, I do mistakes but not all the time. He does'nt even admit his mistakes. I can't tell you guys how much I am going through. I have lost confidence in myself but i don't know what to do i love him so much that I can't leave him I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I AM SO MESSED UP. I can't even thing of leaving him but he treats me like a slave and then says sorry afterwards. he doesn't know that the stuff he says hurts me like hell. i cry day and night and i can't even tell anyone:( please help me. Whenever I am in a bad mood he again gets angry and stops talking to me as to why am I not talking to him in a nice way. He also restricts my clothing that dont wear such shirts that reveal your body etc. He says whatever comes to his mind when he is angry like Go die etc and I cannot even imagine of saying such words to him. He has never beaten me up or something like that but I can't handle this. One minute of late reply gets him mad and when he replies after an hour, he is busy:( that's not fair please help me. He always tries to make me jealous by talking about girls. I know i won't be able to move on once I LEAVE HIM. I Know I can get many guys I rejected so many guys because of him. and i can't even think of looking at someone else:( please help

[Darkfairie17]

Sounds to me like this is a really bad situation to be in. I was in a similar situation. It was a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. The guy I was with made me his slave, he would demand I come straight home after work *he was unemployed* and clean.

So all day he would sit around the house make a mess, then I would come home and he would demand I clean. If I didn't he would threaten to kick me out (it was his apartment). I literally had no where else to go *long story*.

Anyway, it was the worst time of my life. Situations like this are simply NOT WORTH IT!

This guy sounds like a real jerk. If you cry all day and he makes you feel bad about yourself, well, that's not much of a relationship.

Sounds to me like the reason you want to stay is because you have already invested some time in him and are afraid if you leave you will have wasted that time.

But honestly, you can do so much better! This guy is a jerk, and he totally takes you for granted.

Over time you will get over it. But you need to start reminding yourself of all the bad things he does. When he says something mean to you, keep tabs on that, when he tells you about another girl, make a mental note of that. Keep giving yourself reasons as to why the relationship is not working. Keep a notebook if its safe to do so. Or make a note on your phone.

Lean on friends for support. I'm sure they feel like you deserve so much better also!

[scuff1986]

i think in the situation you are in leaving him would be the best course of action as it sounds like he doesn't truly love you anymore. If he did he would respect you and try not to hurt you let alone get angry at you. We all make mistakes in a relationship but you should never suffer because you love him and he doens love you the same,