Why would a guy want attention if he has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I could tell this guy wanted me to notice him from his behaviour.

Was just curious as to why.

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#Forever alone

[Shorty1991]

A lot of guys do that. Just ignore them if you know that they are already in relationships. A guy that had a crush on me 3 years ago and never acted on it. Still tries to get my attention at times. He's never talked to me once and gets jealous when I talk to other guys. I just try to stay out of his way now.

[looneymalooney]

was he already in a relationship when he crushed on you? or got in a relationship after he crushed on you?

[Shorty1991]

@looneymalooney I never really knew the reason why he never acted on it, he had long enough to do so and never did. He could have been in a relationship or just too shy to talk to me. So I just assumed that he wasn't that serious about me or interested in getting to know me. He used to stare at me, follow me around and stand next to me. I try to stay out of his sight now. It doesn't seem like he's moved on when he still gets jealous of me talking to other people. There was another guy at my previous workplace who displayed the same antics but I discovered through a friend that he already had a girlfriend.

[looneymalooney]

Would you have liked him to actually make a move? If so, what kept you from being the one to initiate a bit?
Let's say he would actually do something now and talk to you, ask you out... Would you consider he does not deserve your attention at all or would you give it a shot?
I feel its touching a chord here.
I really like this girl but she is a manager. She is mot my direct manager, but we work 20 feet aeay from each other. I sensed she might like me back, but all i did was say hi out of the blue and she would answer back. She would even go out of her way to salute. But i was scared of what people would say if i'd flirt. Plus manager employee relantionships are forbidden.
So i did nothing. Felt like loving again for the first time and being scared shitless.
I hear she is now dating some dude... Fucking destroyed me, but i do not judge.
I would however want to know that there might be a chance down the road

[Shorty1991]

@looneymalooney because I believe that the person with the crush should make the first move. It doesn't make any sense to wait on your crush taking you by the hand. When I had crushes, I was always the first to make a move. None of them took me by the hand. I really doubt he would even talk to me now, never mind asking me out. If he couldn't act on back then, what makes you think he will now? He kept all of those antics up for two years. Do you think I would be being harsh if I thought that he didn't deeserve another chance?

[Shorty1991]

@looneymalooney oaft! Yep, that is some predicament when you start crushing on your manager. This guy is a stock replenishment colleague in a supermarket that I shop in and have been doing so for years. I drive so I take my mum shopping. So that could be another reason he didn't make a move. If I did go out with him, I'd get the hunch that I'd be the talk of the work canteen. Lol.

[Shorty1991]

Thanks for mho

[Smmyskittles]

It's an ego boost. He's taken, so that's his "ball and chain" but he wants to know he's still hot.

- Dude needs confidence booster and you're it.

[Asker]

I ignored him. It seemed to make him angry and hurt. Then he came back and was acting weird for attention.

I wish he'd just go away. I feel like... I thought now he has all these friends and a better life he anyways wouldn't care about me so I just did the honourable thing and ignored him

[zombiebabe]

either that guy ain't serious in his relationship of he is insecure and seeks validation about his attractiveness constantly

[Asker]

He isn't a very good student so maybe that's why he needs to seek validation about his attractiveness.

But for some reason I felt like he wanted MY attention in particular.

He's always been nice to me, and I've caught him staring at me a few times but that was in the past.

I wonder if he still likes me.

[zombiebabe]

he might be crushing on you

[Asker]

Ha ha it's been so long.

When I made eye contact with him, I feel like something was there. He was looking at me sorta mad (like no smile), but he didn't look away.

[Melcart23]

i love how people are calling this guy a whore and saying he has commital issues...

people seem to think that we as humans cease to act like human beings when we get into a relationship.

[Asker]

You're around the same age as that boy.

Would you agree with the posts above made on @oldanddecrepid conversation thread?

I am so confused. I feel as though either this guy likes me or he's playing with my feelings and laughing at me.

[Melcart23]

hmmm,, yeah, he could be correct.. there's no way for me to know for sure though

[Asker]

If you saw a girl a really long time later and she looked absolutely awful (hair looked up in a bun), hadn't showered, didn't look good that day, would you still like her?

I looked really every bit as miserable as I felt that day

[Melcart23]

lol.. everyone has shitty days at some point

[oldanddecrepid]

Probably because he is not getting attention from his girlfriend, or he just does not make the same kind of effort with her.

[Asker]

I ignored him. It seemed to make him angry and hurt. Then he came back and was acting weird for attention.

I wish he'd just go away. I feel like... I thought now he has all these friends and a better life he anyways wouldn't care about me so I just did the honourable thing and ignored him

[oldanddecrepid]

Probably best.

[Asker]

But if he didn't care about me wouldn't he have just rolled his eyes and walked away.

Why'd he come back?

[oldanddecrepid]

Likely because it did not work in the first place. He is not getting attention from his girl and he is not getting attention from you, so he says to himself, I have to try again!

[Asker]

He is getting attention from his girlfriend she posts enough pictures of them together.

I think.. he saw something in my eyes some kind of emotion that he didn't understand so he came back to try and figure out what that was.

Even my other guy friend was staring at me because my face looked troubled and got a little red

[oldanddecrepid]

Ahhh perhaps you liked getting his attention ;)

[Asker]

No I sorry lol I didn't explain it properly.

This guy was in my group at school. I harboured a soft spot for him because I sorta bossed him around just a little but he was sweet.

I sort of knew he was attracted to me because I would catch him staring at me sometimes, and then looking away. But I didn't make anything of it.

When I saw him a long time later, I just got a little afraid because it was so random so I quickly looked away and my face got hot. He just continued staring at me completely shocked and hurt trying to figure out what just happened.

Later on I heard two boys acting loud behind me and looked up to realize he had come back (as I had expected). Before going too he sort of passed by me and he knew I was looking at him out of the corner of his eye.

I kinda do like him... I just didn't want him to know

[oldanddecrepid]

I think you are missing the overall point... he likes you and was trying to get your attention, and though you were trying to avoid him, you like him too!

[Asker]

I feel like... I have trouble believing he can like me.

First of all I looked horrible that day (I'm serious). I hadn't showered (that's how bad I looked). He's seen me look good tonnes of times to know I'm a pretty girl but I looked so bad that day.

On top of it... he looked all smart and grown up and like I said I was scared he couldn't like me anymore.

He has a girlfriend, and I'm not sure he knows I like him... this is all very confusing to me

[orphan]

ok he doesn't like you

[Asker]

Why do you say that? I am so confused sometimes it's like yeah he likes you other times it's like no he doesn't?

[Asker]

@orphan why do you say that.. honestly I have trouble believing any guy can truly 'like' me.

[oldanddecrepid]

A guy does not base his decision on whether you are looking good that particular day... if you look good most days then that is the overall appeal to him.

Regardless of him liking you... not liking you, he has a girlfriend right now and until he lets her go, he is pretty much off limits.

He may be hesitating a little to show his cards, because his conscience is getting the better of him too!

[Asker]

Sometimes I feel like... he doesn't take his girlfriend seriously.

I don't know her but I can tell she's the cutesy, fun girl type of person.

This guy is not really a stellar student, but he is in a rigorous math-based program. I'm sure he likes her because it's a break from maybe his stress from school, but I don't think he's serious about her.

I could be wrong, but I think because he's been in my classes, he probably feels a bit of a connection with me or something as in I'd understand him.

Either way, it's weird. Even if he did like me, he doesn't know me that well that he'd think so much about this whole situation. I'm sure there are other girls too who are in the same program as I am who could 'understand' him so it does make me wonder at times why me.

If it be true that my guess is correct

[JohnDoe3000]

Same reason girls still want attention when they have a boyfriend...

[Asker]

Does he like me? I'm confused.

[JohnDoe3000]

He thinks you're hot, whether he would ever want a relationship with you or has any intention of leaving his girlfriend is anyone's guess.

[Asker]

I don't think he thinks I'm hot, I think he thinks I'm a pretty girl who at a point in time he may have liked.

[JohnDoe3000]

That's possible if you used to know him before he got with his girlfriend.

[Asker]

^ Yeah I did.

[SlightlyCrazy]

Maybe she isn't filling a need
Even when I had gf's I still talked to my female friends all the time
Jts healthy

[Asker]

I think she's a bit of a toy to him from what I can tell.

But he was really acting oddly. Like I could tell he really wanted me to talk to him but I just wanted him to go away

[SlightlyCrazy]

That's not right
Maybe confront him

[Asker]

I'm not close to him.

Now he's acting weird on facbeook too. Like everytime he comes online and I'm online, he'll go offline within a couple of seconds

Is he trying to send out the message he doesn't like me what's wrong with this guy

[SlightlyCrazy]

He's a wierdo
Leave him be

[Asker]

I do have some kind of feelings for him and don't understand his behaviour.

Gut instinct tells me he had some feelings for me and never realized I reciprocated that. Now he's in a position where he still harbours some of those feelings but also doesn't want to truly be with me either

[SlightlyCrazy]

Ok this is too much bs
Be direct or don't be anything

[Asker]

Why is this bs?

People are complicated.

[SlightlyCrazy]

No people make themselves complicated
I have a thought I say it
Has it gotten me punched in the face? Yes Moore then once
But fuck it

[Asker]

Would you feel frustrated with a girl if she was ignoring you and you wanted to talk to her and try to see if she liked you?

[SlightlyCrazy]

Yes so I'd tell her that

[Asker]

Do you think this guy likes me?

[SlightlyCrazy]

Probably yes

[Asker]

He's doing better in school than I am. I'm afraid of him ditching me once he finds out. That's why I wasn't paying attention to him to begin with.

Better to turn my back on him than wait for him to do it to me

[SlightlyCrazy]

Eh like j said to much bs

[MrRSole]

Niiiice asker, just get an opinion from somebody, he tells you CORRECTLY what you should do if you like him, and then you make an excuse up like "he's doing better in school and he'll ditch me because of it"

Whether he does or doesn't, how will you know if you don't attempt, and FYI that's a pretty silly thing for him to ditch you over, and in my opinion not viable.

[SlightlyCrazy]

@MrRSole yea

[skaikrasha]

Attention is pretty much a self-esteem booster, that's probably why.

[MrRSole]

Probably for the same reason most people do it, which is just to validate themselves mostly.

[Young_Gunz]

Maybe because his girlfriend ain't giving him the attention he wants which leads to him missing it and finding it somewhere rlse

[Asker]

That's not true for sure. If anything his girlfriend seems like his toy.

Honestly... I feel like either he likes me or he is playing with my feelings because he thinks I like him

[Young_Gunz]

If thats the case then if you know the terms 'fuckboy' or 'player' he's trying to play your feelings so he can have sex with you

[Asker]

While he has a girlfriend?

I looked absolutely horrible that day however why would he even want to have anything to do with me.

You know the thing with this guy... he's sly. That much I do know. Hence I'm not really sure what to think of him

[Young_Gunz]

If he can do that whilst having a girlfriend then if he was to ever be with you he'd do the same

[Asker]

I think his girlfriend is just a cute doll. I don't think he takes her seriously I could be wrong.

I do not intend on ever dating this guy or doing anything sexual with him (I never have). I'm just curious if he's actually capable of feelings

[Young_Gunz]

Relationships are more than meets the eyes if i be honest, my relationship my girlfriend treats me like shit but you can always assume she's a doll which i still believe because i love her but again he can be toying

[Asker]

The reason I think he's toying is because like I said he's a sly guy. When he made the effort of keeping smart friends so he can use them for things, why would he keep a girlfriend who has no prospects?

I feel like this is a temporary relationship for him to get through school with some entertainment on the side while he studies his ass off.

Plus he's hot. Hot guys are never single for too long.

[DottieS]

Why do you keep saying she is his toy? How would you know that? It seems like you are just trying to convince yourself he doesn't really like her - excuse me, if she is his girlfriend then guess who isn't? YOU. That's the only sign you need at this point.

[Asker]

If I were to be honest, it's because I knew a guy who was sort of like him in a way and he pretty much point-blank told me that his girlfriend was a toy for him.

I think this guy may even like his girlfriend who knows? I would never really even have this discussion if I wasn't anonymous, (not even with a friend), because it's weird to say that about another human being.

But I have trouble believing it, not because of THIS guy but because I know how the world works.

[xan1488]

simply because he is a flirt and weak in his commitments.

[Anonymous]

Because he is human and having a girlfriend doesn't magically stop your desire to seek and give attention to other members of the species.

[Anonymous]

maybe he's in an unhappy relationship, and or he just wants to have his cake and eat it too

[Asker]

I don't really think he plans to break up with his girlfriend.

At the same time, I'm pretty sure he likes her as much as he would like a child likes a doll who they will one day get bored of. Sad truth but also a harsh reality

[Opinion Owner]

you dont know that though, maybe he hides feelings of discontent

[MrRSole]

Well tell me why these pretty women never leave with you.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Ego boost more than likely.

[Asker]

I ignored him. It seemed to make him angry and hurt. Then he came back and was acting weird for attention.

I wish he'd just go away. I feel like... I thought now he has all these friends and a better life he anyways wouldn't care about me so I just did the honourable thing and ignored him

[WillowTree]

Attention whoring has no gender.

[mooky06]

He enjoys receiving attention

[Mrwoo99]

... more girlfriends!!

[Yellowfeverr]

Their dream is $ugar mama

[Asker]

What does sugar mama mean

[Yellowfeverr]

An old women who has lots of money to spoil him

[Asker]

I am not an old woman :S.

What would make you think that? I'm 23 he's 22... not that he knows I'm older

[Yellowfeverr]

They want sugar like sex, attention, feeding them or even making their baby, but eventually money is the biggest one that they expect from their sex service. That's why they beat up their wife and get moody

[anonman32]

because his girlfriend is not giving him enough.

[Yanoa_Yanza]

Maybe he wants attention from his girlfriend

[bcromartie]

Because he likes attention.

[Anonymous]

People just like attention and to feel hot.

[Asker]

I ignored him. It seemed to make him angry and hurt. Then he came back and was acting weird for attention.

I wish he'd just go away. I feel like... I thought now he has all these friends and a better life he anyways wouldn't care about me so I just did the honourable thing and ignored him

[Anonymous]

Have a cute dog like mines, because my dog is cute

[Anonymous]

For an ego boost

[SatyricLord]

because he's a whore

[Asker]

lol.

I am confused if this guy likes me. I felt like he did before I don't know if he still does