Guys, Why does a guy want attention from a girl he doesn’t even like?

[Anonymous]

This guy at work is very sociable but not interested in getting to know me at all. He likes to have a chat with pretty much every girl in the office except me and when we discuss work related things he looks like he wants to escape the conversation asap and makes self deprecating jokes (which I am ok with I don’t have to be his friend).

However when I see him in a group (for instance when we talk or when I pass him and his friends by) and don’t notice him right away he acts really loud and smiley with me and positions himself so that he gets all my attention or stares really intensely.

Why does he crave my attention if he doesn’t even consider me interesting?

He is just an attention whore

Other reason

[spartan55]

Your perception is that he is trying to get your attention. The reality is likely different. 'he positions himself so he gets my attention' okay.. what does that even mean? .. why would he do that? Why wouldn't he just talk to you? You seem to think that everything he says or does he to do with you, which seems delusional. You seem quite obsessed with this guy, and it's obvious you watch him like a hawk at the office. So, of course you think he is doing things for your benefit. It just doesn't make sense.

[Asker]

Well yes it does since he behaves like this only around his friends ok? He acts like a completely different person and if you would have seen it you would know I’m right

[spartan55]

So why doesn't he just talk to you?

[Asker]

Exactly my question

[spartan55]

You need to stop watching him non-stop and not worry about this. Your fixation on this guy is bordering on obsessive. Ya know if you would just discuss it with him like an adult you could move past this. I know you said you did, but I think you don't want to come off as crazy so you won't talk to him about it. So you don't think you are biased at all about this guy?

[YAsQuen]

women

[havingfun2023]

I felt like wanting to phrase this question as "why do I as a guy get attention from women I don't even like" lol, uhh back to your question, I'd say maybe it's just miscommunications and missed signals as just friendly ordinary platonic stuff. Ah well. Don't mind me 👀😄

[Flatmanlewis]

Maybe you have misread his lack of interest. Perhaps he’s trying to act uninterested (ie: playing it cool) but actually does have an interest and is hoping to see signs from you that you too, are interested.

[Asker]

Don’t think so. He acts like he doesn’t want to be seen with me when I approach him but nprmal with everyone else

[Asker]

He also overheard me complain to another corworker that he avoids me and felt guilty afterwards when he talked to me

[Flatmanlewis]

Sounds to me like it’s not worth anymore of your mental energy or bandwidth. You only have so much time in a day and he’s probably occupying too much of yours.

[Asker]

So you think he is not interested now?

[Flatmanlewis]

Honestly, If I were a woman in your shoes, I’d just walk right up to him and bring it up. “It seems like you are trying to get my attention. Are you?” He will either stammer and wimp out or if he’s a man, say he is and you move from there.

[BadApple69]

Us guys want as much attention as possible. It boosts our ego, and we live for that. Sad but true.

[Asker]

he doenst want my attention when we are alone though

[BadApple69]

It's attention from many women... This really feeds our egos. The attention of a girl we already have isn't necessary because we already have you. Does that make sense?

[Asker]

yeah but im still a woman when im alone and he does it only around male friends

[BadApple69]

Oh I see, so he is just showing off to his friends how women are interested in him. Sounds like he has low self-esteem.

[Asker]

why does he think i am hahahaa?

[BadApple69]

Well if he keeps treating you badly you won't be interested anymore. Men need to learn that once you get a girl the its not time to relax. You need to continue to show her you care and treat her as good as possible.

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women want attention from guys they don't even like.

[Asker]

I don’t