Would a girl ever like a shy guy who lacks confidence ?

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CuddlyCarla · Accepted Answer

Honestly? There's someone out there for everyone. But do you really want to be a guy that lacks confidence, or find a girl who is willing to entertain a flaw instead of working on it? I think you will find a much higher quality of partner if you are willing to take steps to break out of the lack of confidence, because it will not only affect the way women see you but it will also lead to negative things in the relationship. Lack of confidence leads to insecurity leads to a million problems that aren't healthy for you or a potential partner. You need to learn how to love and accept yourself before you consider getting involved with someone, otherwise you are just bound to hurt them and yourself and it's simply not worth that. Be proactive about it. Read self-help books or listen to confidence tapes, they really help. Take some sort of extra-curricular activity or class that will get you developing your skills and talents further and meeting people with similar interests will happen. Look at your strengths, find out what they are, and make them stronger, and don't be afraid to take on new challenges and new skills, a lot of confidence can be grown out of trying something new and opening your opportunities for growth. Once you start building that self-esteem and self-love, the women will come. Trust me.

kittycat933 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely.  But the problem is, you are looking at both sides of the spectrum - either the truly movie-star esque EVIL manipulative who want to take advantage of your feelings, or the super super nice girls who want to take care of you and help you feel better, like a mother in a good way.  but it is very easy to tell the difference right away, the nice girls are always honest with you, maybe even to an uncomfortable extent.. Hint,  I am one of the nice girls.. notice how I talk too much?  It's a bad habit XD

vick123 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes it's nice to have a shy guy, especially when you're over confident, some girls need that quite cutie, that is gonna teach her to be laid back and calm, so to answer your question yes there are many girls out there who want and need a shy guy, and in a relationship you have to complete your partner so if your over confident, you can teach your partner to be confident and they can teach you to CHILAX!

TimeAndTimeAgain · Accepted Answer

Being shy, and lacking confidence are two separate things. People often say shy guys lack confidence, but that's not true. They're just scared, and 90% of the time it's got nothing to do with the fact that they lack confidence.

Let me ask you this: Do you think you're a piece of sh*t? Do you think you suck? Do you think you're an asshole? Do you think no girl deserves to be with you? Do you think you are uncapable of ever making ANYBODY happy? If you think these are true, then that means you have no confidence.

But if you're just scared of approaching a girl, if you're unsure if that ONE girl is going to like you, and if you get nervous a lot when you're around her, that doesn't mean you don't have confidence - that just means you're shy. You're scared of screwing up and worried things won't turn out the way you planned. That's the difference between shy guys and guys who lack confidence. Not every shy guy lacks confidence.

And when it comes down to the two, I believe shy guys have a shot, while guys without confidence have less of a chance. I know it sounds cliche, but you don't love yourself, you can't expect others to.

Ishoy · Accepted Answer

Yes some women like shy men. Take me for example, I have known a girl science 4th grade and just 2 months ago had the courage to ask her out. And turns out she WANTED to be with me. You just have to throw caution to the wind occasionally. Ya never know what you can get unless you try. (btw this was my jr. year)

biannnnnnn · Answer

Yes! but I wouldn't date a person like that, because if he doesn't have confident than how is he going to love me and stand up for me if he's not mentally able? I would be friends with him, but even that would be hard because I have to hangout with people that mke me feel good about myself. I love shy guys becuase I'm shy too, so I understand. If I was his friend I would try to help him gain confident. I would always be there. I love shy guys becuz I think their nicer than outgoing guys, and their not  most likely to cheat on you. I wish there were more shy guys out there.

MissUnderstoodx · Answer

its not the fact that they lack confidence its that they don't attack us with compliments like other guys. Most shy guys tend to be trust worthy and they are honest becasue they have no reason to lie. The 1st thing on their mind isn't sex and they ask questions actually makin an effort to get to know you. Sometimes just the way they look at you or how you know what their thinkin just by the look on their face is adorable.Some shy guys wear the cutest things with out even realizing it its like they have their own style. I mean they are just like every other guy but nicer and its kinda fun making them unshy and trying to make them more outgoing and just the look on their face when they try something new makes me smile its like their happy.Also I've noticed that if I mess up on somethin or make a complete fool out of myself that a guy who is shy will help me up and laugh with me not at me.

NYCgirl1980 · Answer

At the beginning, being shy or lacking self-confidence is sweet, women have an instinct to mother everything around us, so we find that kind of attractive even. However, I am convinced that if you want to have a serious relationship with a girl, you need to come out of your shell sometimes and show courage. Good, healthy relationships are all about balance between to equal partners. If I feel that I have to speak up for my partner when he can't, that he can't lean on him for support because he's constantly complaining about things that are related to his shyness or lack of confidence, if I get the feeling that I am stronger than my partner, that is never good!

meringue9800 · Answer

yes.. I've been attracted to shy guys who were quiet, unassuming.

The whole package counts too of course... sometimes a shy guy is more attractive than a guy who is the life of the party or one who comes on too strong.

I think the most important thing is to be a gentleman. Opening the door, stuff like that really impresses me.

Pati3nc3 · Answer

No. At first she thinks it's cute because most girls like shy guys. but after awhile she'll get so tired of stroking his ego and trying to build him up. It's mentally draining... Trust me... I just got out of that type of relationship last week.. Not pretty.

ekat22 · Answer

Yes! But allow me to explain... there are two types of shy guys. The shy guy that does not pursue because he is a pansy, or the shy guy that clings to the first girl to show him attention. You don't want to be either! I have had my fair share of cocky jerks at this point, and shyness is something I now find very sexy. However, real men go after what they want. Also, real men maintain a life of their own. Women love love LOVE a real man...just work on the balance.

spike241 · Answer

Yeah. My boyfriend was really shy when I first starting falling for him. I'm sure that was part of the attraction as well. Just make sure you don't seem cold and unapproachable instead of shy. You don't have to approach people but be open to smiling and having a conversation if a girl starts talking to you

mormongirlmichl · Answer

yes! I find shyness sooo attractive... it's just a bit annoying when it's time to make a move... lol anyways... lacking confidence means that there is confidence there, just not enough... right? So I'm OK with that... but absolutely no confidence... it'd be pretty hard... especially if I'm showing him I like him... then he should at least get confidence...

Kass1964 · Answer

I love shy guys! The best out there! But the lacking confidence it kind of a turn off for me, but as long as he doesn't make it abundantly clear he's insecure (like if they always say they're ugly and stupid, it reminds me way too much of myself xD). I'd date him. :)

Kymroi · Answer

Girls like shy guys

The thing is, shy guys are...well shy

Relationships like that rarely ever happen

It would only happen if the guy was and a point where he was close to getting the confidence

So he wouldn't be as shy at that time

hockeyrulesforever · Answer

The only type of guy I ever fall for are shy guys who just get nervous around a girl they like and are very respectful. A guy who is able to listen to a girl and open up to her.

XxLeganxX · Answer

to be real with you, barely happens you have to be kinda outgoing at least show her that you have friends and can laugh and have a good time. strike a conversation on aim, if you  are shy like me then work up to real life. Then things would lead of there and if she likes you and you like her things will jsut happen instantly.

chelsea_bun16 · Answer

yes I love the shy guys, the lack in confidence is a bit of a turn off for me. But it wouldn't change how I felt really towards the guy. People can build their confidence in time. Plus if shy guys are the kind of guys that are most likely to be more trusted by girls because they listen and the girl can do the same thing.

quackingkafreen · Answer

Being self conscious making us lack confidence is understanding. As long as he loves himself to a point. But not someone that completely had no confidence.

Anonymous · Answer

No.  You need to work on this.  The qualities you have are feminine qualities and would require the girl to become the man in the relationship.  Or worse, be like your mother.

Mcstarr · Answer

yes I love shy guys their kinda mistirious as long as they can hold a convo with me I'm good and their so funny too well 1s you get to know them :)

Hartmut · Answer

It's possible. Whether or not any sort of a relationship between the two would ever lift off the ground, however, is another story...

Anonymous · Answer

shy at first is okay, but eventually they must come out of their shell. but personally, I like good personalities. it can be kind of cute, but I would rather have a comfortable and confident guy.

you just need to find the confidence!

savvyg11 · Answer

Shy guy, yes. Insecure and lacking confidence.? no. That's just too exhausting.

xtiffanychan · Answer

I could like a shy guy, but I can't like a guy with no confidence

alizey09 · Answer

I like an extremely shy guy who lacks confidence around me. I've liked him for 3 years now, even though he didn't make a move, and I choose to be traditonal and not make a move. So yes, girls do like shy guys.

Anonymous · Answer

not the attractive girls. Guys like us just have to settle for girls with bad personalities, and usually bad looks

Kennedybreeanne · Answer

Yes, I love shy guys! haha.

nikki4003 · Answer

yess! I love shy guys the are soo cute

The_Box · Answer

It's happened. I wouldn't count on it though.

CheerForLife · Answer

I like shy guys, but not one that lacks confidence

bestmetaldrummer · Answer

yes

moviedude714 · Answer

when Pigs fly

Anonymous · Answer

confidence is key

BlackRaven · Answer

I prefur shy guys

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