He wouldn't commit so I walked away. Now he "realized what he had" and "doesn't want to lose me". What kind of actions can I expect from him next?

[Anonymous]

I walked away from a guy that wouldn't commit to an actual relationship and felt the need to flirt with every other single girl in front of me. First he wasn't even worried, he thought I'd come back in few days and continued being a jerk. After a while he realized that wasn't the case so he tried to woo me and manipulate me, but that didn’t work. He started to get worried. Now he's finally understood I actually left and is "heartbroken and regretting and realized what he had". He spent the Valentine's day alone while I was out with someone and in a way I'm kinda pleased if he's a little hurt after how much pain he caused me. Maybe he'll learn something.


1. Do guys really regret losing a girl they treated badly?

2. Will they learn anything about their own behavior or try to change?

3. How would a guy in his position feel? What goes on in their head?

4. What to expect next? I know he's not gonna leave me be and this is not the end. I can see a rollercoaster ride ahead.

[Anime27]

1: sometimes they genuinely do. People do make mistakes.
2: if they're serious about getting her back they will work hard to change but sometimes change is too hard for some.
3: unknown how to tell what someone else is thinking or feeling but from a guys perspective if a chick didn't want to date you she is a bitch who sidelined/friend zoned the guy.
4: if he isn't going to leave you he has a lot to prove. Basically the way I see it was he didn't want to commit because he wants something "better"... plot twist he couldn't get someone "better" so now he comes crawling back. Be very careful. He sounds like someone who "grass is always greener" type of guy who would leave when something better comes along.

[Asker]

He has the world to prove if he thinks I'm gonna come back. I'm no toy and I will not be treated badly. So he may try, but I won't promise anything.

He has a history of long relationships and how I understood it was that he "wasn't ready for a new relationship" and "needed to feel what it was like to be single for a while" and "wanted to work on himself". But if that's the case you do not string a girl along and not let them live their own life or see other guys and go all hot and cold and push and pull with them. That's extremely selfish! You go be single and work on yourself and leae the poor girl alone.

[Anime27]

Exactly. Plus you deserve better than that. You're not someone's fall back plan for when they're original wants go to shit. I personally wouldn't even let him bother. To think he had the nerve to treat you like that in the first place. However the heart is a fickle mistress... you do what feels right for you :)