Why do guys flake on girls?

[Anonymous]

He flaked on me again😞 I am SO upset. This is not the 1st,2nd or 3rd time he has done this. He promise to see me today, I checked in later that day to see if we were still on he said yeah but he's gonna be a little late but he never showed up or text me😞. This guy has got to be the biggest fraud on the planet. He tells me how much he's into me and can't wait to see me yet every time he suggest we go out he always come up with an excuse or doesn't call or text me at all to cancel! I just had to vent because I'm so mad at myself for even entertaining this guy smh
Why do he do this? Fuck that. How can I end it with this cornFLAKE?

[LesterJester]

Girls do it as much as guys do it. It's not the gender but the mentality.

Why do people do this? I have no idea. Maybe just for their own sh*ts and giggles just to see how long they can string someone along.

I always gave a girl the benefit of the doubt once. Crap happens... Two times in a row and I move on. I never had time for games. If something serious occurred sure they get another chance, but three times in a row, I don't care if your parents were in a train wreck the third time around, it simply wasn't meant to be.

As for how to end it?

Simple... If he can't be bothered to tell you he was running late or something came up and left you there to sit around waiting for him like an idiot, then stop texting, calling or anything towards him. Block his number, his email, block him on Facebook, everything and just cut him off completely. You don't owe him an excuse and he should damn well know why you cut him off.

He fk'd up. Intentionally or not, he did and it isn't your responsibility to cater to him and explain yourself. That would be showing him more courtesy than he has shown you.

[Anonymous]

To only say "guys" flake on girls is bullshit. I've had plenty of girls flake on me. Some people are natural flakes. Don't waste your time with them. Other people who don't usually flake, but flake on you, this is their way of showing you how important you are to them. AKA not important to them at all. Don't listen to what people say. Pay attention to what they do. That reveals how they truly feel. Stop giving this guy chances.

[Asker]

Yeah I know. And, I told another user that I should've asked why do SOME guys flake on girls. I was just upset that day so I wasn't thinking that the way I phrase it will offend other guys. I just had that one guy in mind when I wrote it.

[Opinion Owner]

Understandable. I guess I've been on this website a long time and I always see these broad statements "Why do all men cheat?" "Why does every girl lie?" etc etc. But really, drop him from your life, maybe he will learn from his actions, but probably not.

[Asker]

I've seen it on here too & wonder why why put everyone in a box? lol. And yup I'm dropping him completely & im moving on.

[Anonymous]

it just means he's tagging you on a string, because he wants to see how willing you are to just sit there like a puppy for him. To get back at him: Tell him you want to meet up somewhere like an expensive or nice restaurant. Tell him you bought some cute lingerie you want him to see after dinner or some stupid shit like that to entice him more. Keep him waiting. Be 30 min late, tell him you're stuck in traffic. Be one hour late, tell him you're still stuck in traffic, after 1 and 30 min later just leave him hanging- send him a picture of a box of cornflakes just to confuse the hell out of him. Then never, ever, ever respond to him again or talk to him. Be done with him.

[Asker]

That's just evil 😒... I love it 😏😉

[Brokenheartedx]

By changIn ur phone number and shut him out ur life... he's treating u as an option, a last Resort, it might seem harsh right now but you'll see it too One day... you know you deserve better why be someone's last when their is plenty of guys out their that will put u first?

[Asker]

You're right. 💯. I blocked his number & I'm moving on. There's other guys that I'm talking to. So yeah life goes on. Lol

[Cmasterson]

Its' not guys who flake on girls its the guy you choose! Its lame and immature don't give someone your time when they don't bother to make the effort to give you theirs. Just tell him that you're tired of wasting your time and you don't appreciate the false hope.

[Asker]

Exactly. Did my hair, found a cute outfit, googled up cool places we could go to etc all for nothing. This dude didn't even have the decency to tell me he won't make it smdh

[thomasans]

He is a jerk. You shouldn't have let him do you.

[Asker]

@thomasans No I didn't have sex with him thank God!

[thomasans]

A lesson learned.

[TechnoGirl]

Just dont say or do anything at all. Ignore him, pretend like he doesn't even exist in this world. You've been stood up. I dont know how your taking it but i definetly wouldn't be able to stand this behaviour. Best thing to do is hang out with other guy.. and make sure he knows it.

[Asker]

I have a date with another guy coming up. I wish he was able to know about it lol

[glitterberryalisa]

Because we live in this world nowadays where social media, online dating and texting has made it extremely easy for people to mess with others feelings... just like "ghosting" has became this huge thing now too... I feel you! Has happened to me too and I don't see the point especially if HE is the one initiating everything... I don't understand it at all

[Asker]

Ugh thank you! I am so sick of all this Netflix and chill/Whoever Cares Less Win/Friends With Benefits/Side Chicks/Ghosting fuckery smdh lol
And yes it makes zero sense that this dude keeps asking me out only to keep cancelling.

[madhatters4]

i think the question is why does this guy flake... well because he's a flake. but you need to stop letting him behave this way but just removing him from your life.

how do you end it? you just end it. tell him that you can't be with someone who is unreliable and doesn't keep their word and you've given him plenty of chances to be a reliable person... so it's over

[IAmRedThunder]

I would move on. I was in your same situation once and my friend told me that if a guy really likes you, he'll make time for you and try to spend time with you. He's obviously playing games and sounds so immature. You deserve better than that! Just call him and tell him you've had enough of his emotional tug of war

[frozenhorizon]

Girls do it to, often. Just think about how much he's missing out by not spending time with you and then forget about him 👌

[frozenhorizon]

Also "too", not to

[Asker]

Yes I know they do! My own sister did this to a guy few years ago & I had to tell her, "Look, ya gotta stop ignoring his texts and phone calls and talk to him" And yeah tbh I was very upset that he did that but now I'm like he wasn't into me like that and that's totally fine. Would've just appreciate it if he at least shoot me a text or something.

[frozenhorizon]

They never do. :D But seriously there could be 20 different reasons for it, which mostly probably are his problem not yours.

[Asker]

Yup. It's his problem. Not mines.

[Anonymous]

I am in the exact same position as you! This guy pursuits ME tells me i'm hot promises me the world the poof he's gone! Each time he come's back begging me to forgive him and tells me how he will do anything to make it up to me the next day he's gone. I don't chase anyone and I have never text first but he continues to come to me

Iv gone through this something rotten in my mind iv asked all over what he's doing and iv had all excuses but the only one that fits for me is that he's afraid to commit. He's scared of being in a relationship with anyone I think he wants kids marriage and a gf/wife but in reality it scares him. This makes the most sense if he didn't want me why keep coming for me and promising me stuff? If its a game what benefit is it to him when we aren't even together yet? and i'm not showing him the attention he'd want from a game anyways?

My decision on the matter is to remain laid back as I don't get hurt very easily and see where we go

[Chanel1981]

You figure you'd get fired from a job for this behavior so he's fired! If he can't give you the courtesy of a phone call/reason then I wouldn't give him the courtesy of a reason you no longer respond to him! Jerk! Good luck to you :)

[jscmp]

The next time you see him, actually bring a box of corn flakes and throw them at him saying "WHY ARE YOU SO FLAKY"

[Asker]

Lol thanks for the laugh. I need that.
Or maybe I should buy him a dandruff shampoo.

[jscmp]

That's probably a better idea. Maybe not just buy it for him but sneak up behind him and start rubbing it into his hair!

[Asker]

Haha 😂 You're trouble lol
Well I guess my night is not so bad after all. lol

[jscmp]

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[Grace_Rdz]

I can telate to this so much, and let me tell you, if a guy can't make the time and effort to see you, he's not worth it.

There was this guy who'd talk about how much into me he was too (thankfully not literally because he was a jerk) and he'd ask me out and flake on me last minute like wtf? They're probably inmature and don't even know what they want.

[Grace_Rdz]

*relate

[Grace_Rdz]

*immature, sorry

[sillyfairy7]

Don't respond to his crap anymore. Ain't nobody got time for that!

[Asker]

Agreed! I blocked him! Lol

[kitty71]

I dont understand eiterh guys are creeps creatures. Indeed if he tells you he is into you why he bails then? It seems the guy was playing you as he just said what you wanted to hear but he did not meant what he told you about "he is into you".

[Asker]

Yeah you're right he couldn't be genuinely into me if he bailed on me. Something tells me he has a girlfriend too but I don't have solid proof. Well. He's done in my book. He probably think he was gonna run a game on me or something.

[kitty71]

I had a crush I like 2 years ago and wwe went on my first date, he asked me "What do you think of me" So I answsered his question but then qhen I asked him the same exaact question like 5 hrs when teh date was over and I was already in my house and I texted him to ask him the same question. He never answered me. You see how guys are weird. Why he wanted to hear me about what did I think of him but then when I asked him the same about me he did not answer me? I believe then he did not like me then still we wwent out on a date and we end up making out, he cuddle with me and we had a good time, so whats up with that? It seems the date was just like a protocolary thing to do with a girl but never meant to be repeated.

[Asker]

Yes that is weird. Did his name start with a T? 👀 I hate when guys want to know stuff like that but can't even tell you why they're interested.

[kitty71]

Nahh my crush starts with an "M" why a "T"? Why guys want to hint you they are interested if they did not mean it, it is better to be honest with you and stop playing games. I mean some women also do that and Im pretty sure guys dont like it, but hey we dont like it either.

Indeed this crush hinted me since we first met for the first time that he was attracted to me the reason why we talked about going out, he texted me times and flirted with me and hinted me he want to get to know me more so I jsust follow that, I was n o naive, I thought he was really interested for th things I see from him, how could I know he was just leading me on? What are the sings then of leading you on or a guy is really interested in you? We even spoke both of us to go out again the second time a few days after the first date then things go t complicated due to a vacation trip he took overseas and an serious traffic accident he had last year and evertyhing were wrong.

[Asker]

Just wondering because a guy that I went out with name started with a T and he asked me what I thought about him but when I asked him the same question he would try to not answer the question. Some guys are just selfish. They're only thinking of what they can get from you and not what they can give. That's why they play all those games and lead women on

[kitty71]

Yes they are selfish you are correct only think about them. I tis sad beause I liked my crush and unfortuantely I still like him and we talk not as much as before of course, even I try to do a friendsly gesture to this guy when he sufferd this terrible accident that almost killed him and my friendly gesture backfired at me because for quite sometime he believed I was after him and I wanted a relationship with him, and he was not into dating or relationships I jusst wanted to get to know h im first, but he thought I was moving too fast with him in just 3 months of had met him for the first time.

[Paultripp7221]

In my experience girls flake way more than guys. So I don't think either gender can point fingers here...

[Asker]

I was upset that day & I had that one guy in mind when I wrote it. I should've said why do some guys flake on girls. But I wasn't trying to say all guys are like that because I know that's not true.

[Paultripp7221]

All good. It's just the norm these days. So annoying and disrespectful. Sorry you were flaked on..

[RicanEyes]

I hope you didn't give the cookie up to soon.. LMAO! Jk
Anyways just leave him alone there are plenty of guys out there it's his loss.

[Asker]

Lol no I didn't sleep with him. And for sure I'm done with him. Im not his only option and he sure isn't my only option.

[RicanEyes]

Good happy to hear that

[redxiii74]

dating or married. fucking delete the number 1,2,3 DONE don't over complicate it

[Asker]

you are smart! I told someone in my real life about it and they said the same thing! "he's got a girl and he's trying to cheat"

[TripleAce]

CornFlake? So your a black chick trying to hook up with a white dude

Try choosing better guys next time... it's simple as that

[Asker]

No lol That's not why I said cornflake. I threw in that cheesy line because he flaked on me. lol

[TripleAce]

Yea right lol... I gotcha ya.. it's ok.. We know that milk chocolate likes the vanilla
To be honest it happens all the time... just move on to the next guy if it doesn't work out... Everyone will get flaked out in their dating careers

[Asker]

Lol. You're right stuff like this happens during dating until you just find someone you click with.

[natured]

The best thing to do right now is to block him, eliminate him from your mind, delete him from everything you possess, this is a joke, just move on girl you don't deserve to be treated this way.
Good luck

[4You__]

True lol he won't even feel bad because you let it slide so much you're not his priority he chooses other things before you maybe if you cut him off hell come back to you later in the future asking to see you again

[akadatank44]

What a duche. Just stop talking to the dude. Move on and try and find a better dude who has a pair of balls.

[akadatank44]

Also don't be mad at yourself. Nothing you could of done.

[Asker]

Thank you. In the beginning I did try to see what I said/did but everything seemed so cool hours before the date. Eh either way I don't care anymore. Lol

[akadatank44]

You're welcome. We all do that ahit. I'm guilty of it millions of others are as well. He made this decision to be a flake nothing you could of done to make him not be this way. Just be glad you didn't get into a serious relationship and then he's never there for you. You are much better off and I'm glad you don't care anymore. Shows you've moved on.

[genericname85]

obviously some things are more important to him than you. i´d consider moving on from him or asking what is the more important thing, cause some things are acceptable of course.

[Asker]

I get that he might not be into me like that. It's too many guys in the world for me to feel bummed about him not being into me. My issue was the fact that HE kept asking me out, only to flake. What's the point? I wasn't pressuring him to ask me out. Makes me wonder if he's mentally stable or something.

[genericname85]

emotions can be a bitch. maybe he´s just all over the place emotionally. you don´t have to deal with that.

[Chaopathy]

He's an inconsiderate sack of shit. What's there to be confused about? To dodge that in the future, you'll need to change your views on people. Something that is not possible to describe how to do so in a single message.