Why do guys flake on girls?

Question

He flaked on me again😞 I am SO upset. This is not the 1st,2nd or 3rd time he has done this. He promise to see me today, I checked in later that day to see if we were still on he said yeah but he's gonna be a little late but he never showed up or text me😞. This guy has got to be the biggest fraud on the planet. He tells me how much he's into me and can't wait to see me yet every time he suggest we go out he always come up with an excuse or doesn't call or text me at all to cancel! I just had to vent because I'm so mad at myself for even entertaining this guy smh
Why do he do this? Fuck that. How can I end it with this cornFLAKE?

LesterJester · Accepted Answer

Girls do it as much as guys do it. It's not the gender but the mentality.

Why do people do this? I have no idea. Maybe just for their own sh*ts and giggles just to see how long they can string someone along.

I always gave a girl the benefit of the doubt once. Crap happens... Two times in a row and I move on. I never had time for games. If something serious occurred sure they get another chance, but three times in a row, I don't care if your parents were in a train wreck the third time around, it simply wasn't meant to be.

As for how to end it?

Simple... If he can't be bothered to tell you he was running late or something came up and left you there to sit around waiting for him like an idiot, then stop texting, calling or anything towards him. Block his number, his email, block him on Facebook, everything and just cut him off completely. You don't owe him an excuse and he should damn well know why you cut him off.

He fk'd up. Intentionally or not, he did and it isn't your responsibility to cater to him and explain yourself. That would be showing him more courtesy than he has shown you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To only say "guys" flake on girls is bullshit. I've had plenty of girls flake on me. Some people are natural flakes. Don't waste your time with them. Other people who don't usually flake, but flake on you, this is their way of showing you how important you are to them. AKA not important to them at all. Don't listen to what people say. Pay attention to what they do. That reveals how they truly feel. Stop giving this guy chances.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

it just means he's tagging you on a string, because he wants to see how willing you are to just sit there like a puppy for him. To get back at him: Tell him you want to meet up somewhere like an expensive or nice restaurant. Tell him you bought some cute lingerie you want him to see after dinner or some stupid shit like that to entice him more. Keep him waiting. Be 30 min late, tell him you're stuck in traffic. Be one hour late, tell him you're still stuck in traffic, after 1 and 30 min later just leave him hanging- send him a picture of a box of cornflakes just to confuse the hell out of him. Then never, ever, ever respond to him again or talk to him. Be done with him.

Brokenheartedx · Accepted Answer

By changIn ur phone number and shut him out ur life... he's treating u as an option, a last Resort, it might seem harsh right now but you'll see it too One day... you know you deserve better why be someone's last when their is plenty of guys out their that will put u first?

Cmasterson · Accepted Answer

Its' not guys who flake on girls its the guy you choose! Its lame and immature don't give someone your time when they don't bother to make the effort to give you theirs. Just tell him that you're tired of wasting your time and you don't appreciate the false hope.

TechnoGirl · Answer

Just dont say or do anything at all. Ignore him, pretend like he doesn't even exist in this world. You've been stood up. I dont know how your taking it but i definetly wouldn't be able to stand this behaviour. Best thing to do is hang out with other guy.. and make sure he knows it.

glitterberryalisa · Answer

Because we live in this world nowadays where social media, online dating and texting has made it extremely easy for people to mess with others feelings... just like "ghosting" has became this huge thing now too... I feel you! Has happened to me too and I don't see the point especially if HE is the one initiating everything... I don't understand it at all

madhatters4 · Answer

i think the question is why does this guy flake... well because he's a flake. but you need to stop letting him behave this way but just removing him from your life.

how do you end it? you just end it. tell him that you can't be with someone who is unreliable and doesn't keep their word and you've given him plenty of chances to be a reliable person... so it's over

IAmRedThunder · Answer

I would move on. I was in your same situation once and my friend told me that if a guy really likes you, he'll make time for you and try to spend time with you. He's obviously playing games and sounds so immature. You deserve better than that! Just call him and tell him you've had enough of his emotional tug of war

frozenhorizon · Answer

Girls do it to, often. Just think about how much he's missing out by not spending time with you and then forget about him 👌

Anonymous · Answer

I am in the exact same position as you! This guy pursuits ME tells me i'm hot promises me the world the poof he's gone! Each time he come's back begging me to forgive him and tells me how he will do anything to make it up to me the next day he's gone. I don't chase anyone and I have never text first but he continues to come to me

Iv gone through this something rotten in my mind iv asked all over what he's doing and iv had all excuses but the only one that fits for me is that he's afraid to commit. He's scared of being in a relationship with anyone I think he wants kids marriage and a gf/wife but in reality it scares him. This makes the most sense if he didn't want me why keep coming for me and promising me stuff? If its a game what benefit is it to him when we aren't even together yet? and i'm not showing him the attention he'd want from a game anyways?

My decision on the matter is to remain laid back as I don't get hurt very easily and see where we go

Chanel1981 · Answer

You figure you'd get fired from a job for this behavior so he's fired! If he can't give you the courtesy of a phone call/reason then I wouldn't give him the courtesy of a reason you no longer respond to him! Jerk! Good luck to you :)

jscmp · Answer

The next time you see him, actually bring a box of corn flakes and throw them at him saying "WHY ARE YOU SO FLAKY"

Grace_Rdz · Answer

I can telate to this so much, and let me tell you, if a guy can't make the time and effort to see you, he's not worth it.

There was this guy who'd talk about how much into me he was too (thankfully not literally because he was a jerk) and he'd ask me out and flake on me last minute like wtf? They're probably inmature and don't even know what they want.

sillyfairy7 · Answer

Don't respond to his crap anymore. Ain't nobody got time for that!

kitty71 · Answer

I dont understand eiterh guys are creeps creatures. Indeed if he tells you he is into you why he bails then? It seems the guy was playing you as he just said what you wanted to hear but he did not meant what he told you about "he is into you".

Paultripp7221 · Answer

In my experience girls flake way more than guys. So I don't think either gender can point fingers here...

RicanEyes · Answer

I hope you didn't give the cookie up to soon.. LMAO! Jk  Anyways just leave him alone there are plenty of guys out there it's his loss.

redxiii74 · Answer

dating or married. fucking delete the number 1,2,3 DONE don't over complicate it

TripleAce · Answer

CornFlake? So your a black chick trying to hook up with a white dude Try choosing better guys next time... it's simple as that

natured · Answer

The best thing to do right now is to block him, eliminate him from your mind, delete him from everything you possess, this is a joke, just move on girl you don't deserve to be treated this way.
Good luck

4You__ · Answer

True lol he won't even feel bad because you let it slide so much you're not his priority he chooses other things before you maybe if you cut him off hell come back to you later in the future asking to see you again

akadatank44 · Answer

What a duche. Just stop talking to the dude. Move on and try and find a better dude who has a pair of balls.

genericname85 · Answer

obviously some things are more important to him than you. i´d consider moving on from him or asking what is the more important thing, cause some things are acceptable of course.

Chaopathy · Answer

He's an inconsiderate sack of shit. What's there to be confused about? To dodge that in the future, you'll need to change your views on people. Something that is not possible to describe how to do so in a single message.

Elarra · Answer

Well, if this isn't the first time you got stood up then that's your fault. Stand me up once and we're done. But to answer your question, some people are just douche bags who only care about themselves.

FatherJack · Answer

Break all contact... if someone ( applies to BOTH genders ) REALLY cares for another person... they will NOT flake !! Don't waste your precious time & energy , in the past , with me , flaking meant no further effort on my part !!

naja1225 · Answer

He does it because he doesn't like you enough.  His loss! Next time he wants to hang tell him sorry but you've already made plans with people who follow through on them.

MrWolf · Answer

Well good question! Why do you even allow this to happen? Do you even have self-respect or what?  If he flake's or is lying all the time just be done with him and continue with you're life.

Yoush1992 · Answer

put your foot down. Apparently he has it easy, he flaked once and twice with no consequences so he thinks he can do it everytime... end it

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

It's not guys, it's assholes. Sounds like he's fucking others.

karlc · Answer

don't take this personal cuz I'm only speaking by experience but you're not his first option. possibly... js

Nyx_85 · Answer

Why do you continue to agree to see him? He sounds like a complete waste of time. I would just move on.

IsenhowerJ · Answer

He is suffering serious cold feet syndrome. It's time to dump him unless u reallly want to see where your relationship will go--but that's highly un likely.
Tel him how u feel and tell him u had it with his childish game.

Blueeyes2016 · Answer

I suppose if a woman doesn't ever write back (i mean come on, if there's tons of time for a reply, and you never hear anything back), after a point you just sorta stop trying, especially situations when you're trying to start/keep a conversation going and all you get is. Yep, good, mmmhmm, fine, one word responses etc. Without any effort from them, I just stop because it's just a waste of time, if they keep doing that. Life's too short get with it if you want it, i mean damn

Hidden_P · Answer

You end it by never speaking again and not giving in to any texts or calls.

thomasans · Answer

Wake up He's got no respect for you. Get away and stop looking back. Better to be with out than with him.

shadow1332 · Answer

you don't seem to be a high priority for him, it essentiamly means that he doesn't really care about you. A guy who cares about a girl would make time for her.

Diobrando · Answer

tell him to piss off if he can't be stuffed to make time for you

Tileguy0723 · Answer

just move on from this guy.. he's obviously playing games and not acting very mature I wouldn't waste anymore time

BelleMmichelle · Answer

He's just not that into you *shrug* Walk away girl, he's not worth your time.

Pepperjack · Answer

I don't know why did you trust him even after the 3rd time?

Im_-L · Answer

next time he asks to see you just tell him you're hanging with your boyfriend

MuseTay · Answer

Tell him how you feel, if he's that flakey just drop him, delete & block, he's not worth it.. your emotions & feelings, period!

ThisDudeHere · Answer

How can you end it? By just ending it. Don't go out with him. Cut contact an etc. Simple.

singlebee · Answer

I don't think he is interested in you for real... Cause I tell you what is I am really interested in a girl I would cross borders for her :-)

slatyb · Answer

It's easy. Just tell him you don't have any more time to waste on him.

Dalesmith · Answer

do the same thing he does, just ignore him, don't look at him, you worked enough on this now it's his turn, if he's into you, he'll contact you if not just consider it over

yeahnahyeah · Answer

Fuck that guy, you don't deserve that kind of behaviour

ItsMe_Unfortunately · Answer

I flake all the time. I dont think its behavior exclusive to guys.

mrstewart00 · Answer

He didn't truly value your time. If i like a woman she gets my undivided attention. If there's no time you make time.

Shall_we_Dance · Answer

How well do you know him? How honest are you two with each other?

shondoctor · Answer

simply your not high on his priority list. if your where, he would rember, care and show up. Toss him.

Anonymous · Answer

Ask him face to face what does he want... you know it's kinda irritating... and besides ask him to tell you the truth!!!

dolemite68 · Answer

cuz either they aren't interested or its a game to make you chase him

Anonymous · Answer

he is not in love with you or he doesn't see you as a priority

zagor · Answer

You should be asking "why do people flake on people?".

John_Doesnt · Answer

Because I just bought Horizon Zero Dawn and it's 10 times more awesome than any woman. I'd flake on a date too.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys are pricks and assholes. And complete jerks who are nothing, but scumbags.

blondfrog · Answer

Because flake cereal tastes good.

masterfullydone · Answer

Just stop talking to him forever

bc1989 · Answer

don't even contact him again, delete his number

Chico_brah · Answer

They aren't interested.

Anonymous · Answer

By flaking him back and blocking him on everything

ubilockon · Answer

just move onto the next guy he's not. interested

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